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simple question - 6/20/2006 3:14:55 AM

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what does make You secure? let You feel safe in a D/s relation M/s relation?

thanks for Your answers in advance

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 3:20:55 AM

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Gee, this is a tough one. There are so many things that make me feel secure when I am with Him....from the way He whispers "You OK?" in my ear when we're playing, to how securely He ties the ropes to adjusting a rope when I tell Him it doesn't feel right. It's a look, a touch, a smile, a wink. I could go on and on.

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 3:42:30 AM

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attention and careness

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 3:45:22 AM

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Him being there!

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 4:14:28 AM

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...what does make You secure? let You feel safe in a D/s relation M/s relation?

knowing without a doubt that Master is a man of the utmost integrity---situations have occurred over the last 3 1/2 years that have proven that without a shadow of a doubt.

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 4:15:42 AM

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hearing Him breathe makes me feel secure. just knowing He is there. as said above "you ok?" melts me into a puddle.... its not just one thing, its everything.

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 4:19:56 AM

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what does make You secure? let You feel safe in a D/s relation M/s relation?

thanks for Your answers in advance

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One word.......MASTER

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 4:27:55 AM

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There are about a million different reasons Daddy makes me feel secure....from the way he catches my eye when we're in a crowded room, to the way he makes sure i have everything i need when we're going somewhere to the way he blocks everyone else in the room out when i'm talking to him. We were at a play party not too long ago and he was flogging me in one corner of the room.....we had several people make comments about how in tune we are with each other when we play....he had NO clue others were watching, as far as he was concerned it was just the two of us in the room.......that is a comforting feeling, to know he pays that little attention to others and that MUCH attention to ME when we are playing.

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 5:50:11 AM

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Mistress's hand twined in my collar when we all sleep together, Master's fingers playing on my hair when i cuddle at his feet.

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 6:55:52 AM

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Time and experience together.

Knowing we made it through that first big fight. Knowing when that emergency comes, you can call at 2 am and he'll be there asap. Knowing you're planning your future together.

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 7:16:20 AM

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knowing who i am completely, what i can do without guidence and what i will soon due with guidence, having no doubt in myself or in my Owner...for the bounds between us are not rope or a leash, but trust and open communication.

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 7:28:00 AM

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thanks a lot for Your answers so far - smile -

seems like my question wasn't not the right one i would like have to know.. so i try to be a bit more specific..
i would like to know.. what does make a D/s relation when in progress, so You already not involved safe and secure ? what does give You the safety to know that the Dom/ Master is a careful one? what is needed for You? hopefuly i could express myself right this time - smile -
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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 7:34:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wouldlike2
seems like my question wasn't not the right one i would like have to know.. so i try to be a bit more specific..
i would like to know.. what does make a D/s relation when in progress, so You already not involved safe and secure ? what does give You the safety to know that the Dom/ Master is a careful one? what is needed for You? hopefuly i could express myself right this time - smile -
and hug to A/ all who answer

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My answer remains that time and experience together is pretty much always the best measure of finding out who a person is.

But look at things- how does he manage his life? What affairs are in order? What are his priorities? What are his future plans? What mistakes has he made up to this point? How has he dealt with them? What does he do when things get stressed? How does he deal with new situations?

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 8:01:24 AM

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thanks a lot for Your answers so far - smile -

seems like my question wasn't not the right one i would like have to know.. so i try to be a bit more specific..
i would like to know.. what does make a D/s relation when in progress, so You already not involved safe and secure ? what does give You the safety to know that the Dom/ Master is a careful one? what is needed for You? hopefuly i could express myself right this time - smile -
and hug to A/ all who answer

pet

His experience and knowledge/wisdom. His consistency. His unwillingness to "yield" to me when I thought I knew best (hence, staying true to his own convictions). That he listens to me and hears me, and understands me. His track record of repeated good decisions, and sticking to them, even if I struggled with them at the time. His ability to be painfully tough when I need it, and his ability to pull me close when I need it. His feedback. That he never set me up to do something I couldn't do (even if I thought I couldn't do it). His lessons which made me strong. His honesty. His power. His control.

I could go on....

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 10:40:36 AM

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what does make You secure? let You feel safe in a D/s relation M/s relation?

thanks for Your answers in advance

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Very simple for myself. Master makes me feel secure.

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 11:32:08 AM

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This is a very difficult question...

I define D/s in relation to the person I am involved with. I define power exchange by how it transpires between myself and the dominant that is in my life. It is so reliant on the other person in it, two halves of the whole, that I simply cannot answer this question without specifying that it is the qualities he possesses that makes me feel secure, not D/s itself.

What about him makes me secure? In the entire time we have been communicating,for over three months, he has never put me down even in the smallest of ways. He has never denigrated my opinions, even when they disagreed with his own. He compliments me on my intellect, my way of moving, my looks, my empathy and compassion. He makes me feel good just to be around him. The most secure one can feel is to be their total self and their true self and that trueness is honored within the relationship. So far that is the impression he gives me, I am honored by being myself and being accepted for who I am.

If he reads this post that will make me happy, because I want him to know how very much his friendship means, and how much feeling secure with him and the burgeoning trust I feel for him means to me. He has qualities that inspire me such as honesty, tolerance for others, humor, and a razor sharp intellect. Not many men I know could discuss chaos theory for example. Because of these qualities I feel a respect that engenders my desire to submit to him and secure enough to be submissive.

Just me.. etc

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 12:12:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: wouldlike2

thanks a lot for Your answers so far - smile -

seems like my question wasn't not the right one i would like have to know.. so i try to be a bit more specific..
i would like to know.. what does make a D/s relation when in progress, so You already not involved safe and secure ? what does give You the safety to know that the Dom/ Master is a careful one? what is needed for You? hopefuly i could express myself right this time - smile -
and hug to A/ all who answer

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ok I think I deciphered the question here .... what she is asking I believe is ...

What makes you sure BEFORE the D/s relationship start that it is going to be a safe and secure one .... and what lets you now PRE-collaring that the Dom/me is gonna be careful

What are your triggers that tell you the one your considering is going to be the best choice for you?

I hope this helped everyone in answering her questions

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 1:32:07 PM

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in that case ..

again i would say ...

communication ... and the ablity to understand me

someone who finish's my thoughts ... before

i do

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 2:39:13 PM

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thanks a lot Tamerofwild1s,

seems like my english isn't well at all - smile -

thanks for Your help... i am still a native german speaker and writer

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RE: simple question - 6/20/2006 3:28:59 PM

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Since I read this after my post, I would still respond the same way because I am not collared and just coming to know the man in my life. I think you need to have someone making you feel secure in order to know what they do that engenders these feelings. If no one has ever done what is necessary for you to feel secure in D/s how would you know what would trigger these feelings?

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