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Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their Sub ... - 2/1/2013 2:23:07 PM

Crouchingtiger77

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I would think that any Dom or Domme or Master or Mistress would want their sub / slave to be intelligent
and articulate, and yes a good communicator.
Why?
Well for one thing, life is a reality and though one would like to be bound 24/7 and 365 days per year
there are things like paying the rent and other life issues which may not allow for that.

also, There are times I would think, at least, where when you simply need shut down
time from play and may enjoy some stimulating conversation.

Of course, i know that bdsm has every type of interest and therefore I asked this question,
not to agree with or disagree but to stimulate conversation in this forum. Thanks
TIger.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 2:43:16 PM

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It's been my experience that most appreciate intelligence. Some are threatened by a submissive that is more intelligent than they are and a select few are threatened when any intelligence is displayed.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 2:47:37 PM

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It's no fun dominating an idiot with the IQ of a fuck doll.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 2:48:42 PM

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Well...............as a one off occasionally, the bimbo is a reasonable compromise.

LOL.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 2:54:52 PM

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From your comments, seems to me you are talking more about compatibility than intelligence. As long as there is a good conversation dynamic, the relationship will probably do okay. Personally I cannot abide bimbos. But I have friends who relate to them just fine and seem as happy as anyone else.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 2:55:58 PM

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I sure hope they do, otherwise, my ability to hold a stimulating conversation during play time,
while simultaneously licking stamps and paying bills, will all be for naught.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:00:30 PM

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I suspect some people become dom/mes because they're too dumb to work the appliances. ;)

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:09:08 PM

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I have a sister-in-law that is as thick as two short planks!
No.... I take that back coz that would be insulting the planks!!

My OH just said a typical case of 'the lights are on but nobody is home' - but in her case she forgot to put the lights on!!
Seriously.... she is a real thicko.
My brother loves her because she is like a robot.... a very s-l-o-w robot at that. lol.

That said, I could not tolerate someone that doesn't show at least some intelligence and the ability to hold a semi-decent conversation.
A sub/slave would have to have that at least!
If they didn't, I would be screaming up the walls by the end of the day and I value my sanity (what's left of it).

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:10:26 PM

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Is a blowjob from a fuck doll any less satisfying than from a Nobel laureate?

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:14:46 PM

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It would be fun to Dominate someone as freedom has described - but more in the sense of control & sexual pleasure than domination per se.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:18:58 PM

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Here's the thing. Those Doms/Dommes who want a RELATIONSHIP want someone who is intelligent.

Those Doms/Dommes just looking to get laid and nothing else at all don't want someone intelligent. The dumber the better.

That's always been my experience at least and no not just bdsm wise but people in general. It's always been this way and always will.

I'll admit when I was doing the whole fuckbuddy, one night stands thing when I was younger, I didn't care how intelligent they were or if they even knew English or if I knew their name. All I cared about was that they knew how to fuck. What did I need their brain for?

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:19:42 PM

Crouchingtiger77

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quote:

Is a blowjob from a fuck doll any less satisfying than from a Nobel laureate?

Of course, as the Nobel Laureate can as she is sucking away speak out of the side of her mouth quoting
her latest writing.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:27:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blankpain

It would be fun to Dominate someone as freedom has described - but more in the sense of control & sexual pleasure than domination per se.

You couldn't really dominate someone like that - she is far too slow at doing anything.

Some examples...
3 hours or more to get a cup of tea or coffee - if you get one at all because she 'forgets' why she was in the kitchen and usually ends up doing something else.
She doesn't know or understand why people want wine or beer in a glass as she's happy with a mug.
She can spend hours just wandering down the local shops and back and come back with something completely different to what you asked for. The shop is barely 5 minutes walk down the street.
It's no good even writing it down because she forgets you wrote it and she'd put it in her pocket!!

No... Trying to dominate that sort of person would soon wear you out.

And incidentally - she was 'Wednesdays' bet at the local pub (in his younger days) and she took him seriously. They got married within 3 days.
True story - as far-fetched as it sounds. lolol.
But they are still together after 30 or so years so there must be something in it somewhere.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:29:06 PM

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I will only speak for myself. I find it necessary to have a very intelligent sub. I want one that challenges me mentally and keeps me on my toes. A woman will always be smarter than me in some aspects in dealing with certain things and situations, not all but some. It is in those areas that I as her Dom need to be able to trust her intelligence and to listen to her and heed her advice. After all, it is the intelligent submissive that usually, not always but usually, is the best submissive. Just for the Dom's on here that might say that what I just said makes me sound like a switch, well nothing could be further from the truth. A wise man, be he in business, purely vanilla, BDSM, a Dom, or whatever, when he hears sound advice, is ill fated if he does not receive and use said advice.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:33:38 PM

littlewonder

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quote:

3 hours or more to get a cup of tea or coffee - if you get one at all because she 'forgets' why she was in the kitchen and usually ends up doing something else.

She can spend hours just wandering down the local shops and back and come back with something completely different to what you asked for. The shop is barely 5 minutes walk down the street.

It's no good even writing it down because she forgets you wrote it and she'd put it in her pocket!!

Hey now! I'm getting old! He can't expect me to remember everything!

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:35:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

I have a sister-in-law that is as thick as two short planks!
No.... I take that back coz that would be insulting the planks!!

I dated a male model to whom I thought I was going to have to explain Disney movies. "No, honey, they didn't really kill a deer. It's just a cartoon."

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 3:44:51 PM

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I think generalised assumptions about what a
Dom/me would or wouldn't prefer in a sub aren't
going to be very accurate.

Some men like dumb women some don't, it's a
individual preference, I can't speak for dommes
because I don't really know any.

I think most people may prefer an intellectual
equal, if for no other reason than being able to
relate on the same levels.
Although... I think there may be also be a desire on
the part of a sub to find a dom that has a suitably
respectable intelligence, if for no other reason than
it may engender their respect and make him seem
more attractive from their subbie point of view.

Mental capabilities are a very broad spectrum
thing and not all capabilities a person may have
will be conventionally usefull of even measurable.

I hold to an idea that many don't agree with, and
that is, that a persons genetics do determine a
very large proportion of their mental capabilities,
regardless of education and upbringing although
they do play a very important part in enabling a
person to better utilise those capabilities...

I liken it to a computer and software, software
determines how a computer uses information but
there are limits imposed on what the software can
achieve based on the type of computer it's in.

Many people don't like the sound of that and to
each their own, the reason I mention it is that I
think my attraction to intelligent women may be
due to the heartless bastard in me that sizes up
women by imagining what kind of children they
would make...
It's not a big deciding factor, and there are many
more things that are involved, like personality
obviously, but I do admit I have dumped girls in
the past because of... Errr... Objective scrutiny.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 4:11:31 PM

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I've never judged any partner for their brain capacity. However, I do appreciate the intelligence of my girl. She is more intelligent than any previous partner, it is obvious and satisfyingly stimulating.

She doesn't engage me in intellectual discussions, and knowing her reasons, I respect them. It is a pity, though.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 6:04:45 PM

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Master and I always end up in intellectual discussions on just about everything possible.

But there are times when he wants me to just shut up and be the "dumb slut doormat".

And hey, I'm perfectly fine with that. That means I get to not think for awhile and keep my brain from hurting.

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RE: Do Dom's, Dommes' , Masters, Mistresses want their ... - 2/1/2013 6:11:25 PM

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I love a good debate or discourse. Master likes to play the "big, dumb jock" card on unsuspecting people, but I love how he is unsnobbishly street smart and intelligent.

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