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ORIGINAL: NamesDivine

I appreciate everyone's input.

I believe the problem I am trying to resolve is recognizing race, color, or ethnicity in a person and making a decision based on that. I truly believe in female supremacy and equality for all men under that and desire to make a decision that is the most responsible for the healing and evolution of all-kind. I believe BDSM is (or should be or thought it was or imagined it to be) a therapeutic outlet so I guess I am wondering how it could be therapeutic for people who still are still healing from only a recently passed (and even still present) white European enforced cultural genocide!!!!!

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

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ORIGINAL: NamesDivine

I appreciate everyone's input.

I believe the problem I am trying to resolve is recognizing race, color, or ethnicity in a person and making a decision based on that. I truly believe in female supremacy and equality for all men under that and desire to make a decision that is the most responsible for the healing and evolution of all-kind. I believe BDSM is (or should be or thought it was or imagined it to be) a therapeutic outlet so I guess I am wondering how it could be therapeutic for people who still are still healing from only a recently passed (and even still present) white European enforced cultural genocide!!!!!

But all subs ARE NOT EQUAL!! Would you "feel guilty" for saying no to a 60+, 400lb, hairy, smelly guy paying for sessions out of SSI money? Would you feel MORE motivated to poop on the black guy or call him names if he's rich or exceptionally good looking? Does the smelly guy become more appealing if he's rich?
I recently was petitioned by a potential that had active chronic PTSD because of war, he "wanted to be punished for his sins" in ways that included creating open wounds from canes, whips, knives. While he was attractive &" willing. To pay whatever I ask" my referral was to a good therapist & a recommendation of a service dog.
While the "sexual healinbg for all" banner will make you popular, the simple fact is not every guy is just for you.

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ORIGINAL: InsaneSerenity
To me, what you are describing comes from being plugged into our current culture of labeling everyone.

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ORIGINAL: wannapleez
Before Alanis Morisette came along and gave us 8,000,000 examples of things that aren't actually "ironic", the most misused word in the English language was "racism" (and its derivatives).
If the above quote is what you are dealing with, in and of itself, you are so incredibly not racist. Racism carries with it the belief that one race is inherently superior to another. Even believing (whether true or not) that there are differences between races is not racism. It may be prejudice or bigotry, but it's not racism. But judging from your comments, you don't even have problems with prejudice or bigotry either.

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Racism carries with it the belief that one race is inherently superior to another. Even believing (whether true or not) that there are differences between races is not racism. It may be prejudice or bigotry, but it's not racism. But judging from your comments, you don't even have problems with prejudice or bigotry either.

Now your thoughts/feelings may be driven by the improper thoughts/feelings/actions of true racists. But that in no way makes you racist. In fact, seeing as how your thoughts/feelings are a reaction against those of racists, this is even further argument that you aren't one.

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"Equal opportunity" is irrelevant in this scenario -- it is only applicable to impersonal activities (work, housing, the general service industry, etc). Whereas there is a personal component to any "adult" activity, even if you are solely doing it for financial reasons. If one was required to align all of one's personal preferences with any given standard (e.g. equal opportunity), then (by sheer definition) no one would have personal preferences.

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig
Wasn't it nice of Ms Morissette to clear that up, relieve us of the burden of misusing racism so randomly, and frequently, when completely unecessary?! From here on, Just use "ironic" and bypass the insticnt to, call racism out as it is considered burdensome, and misused.

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig
I don't believe the OP has thoughts of true racists. I believe the OP is being sensitive to, and trying to reconcile treating everyone equally, despite historical emcumbrances.

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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig
Speak out both sides of your mouth much?! If only it were that simple. You can have racist personal preferences, and it is only applicable if impesonal, work type situations. That isn't the OP's issue. It is simplistic to think that just because you could give him a job/work with him, but could never spanking, partner with, or phuck him absolves one of racist propensities.

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I was not in any way implying that her use of "ironic" was meant as a purposeful superseding of "racism". I was simply making a statistical observation. If things continue as they are, "literally" will be the new #1 pretty soon.

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My point (which can not possibly be that unclear) was that we should not call something racism when it's not racism. It's like the little boy who cried "wolf" -- say it enough times when it's untrue, and no one listens when it is true.

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"Equal opportunity" is irrelevant in this scenario -- it is only applicable to impersonal activities (work, housing, the general service industry, etc).