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A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:15:44 AM   
tx061


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Status: offline 		My wife introduced me to BDSM. I am Dom and she is sub. she has a friend that is being our mentor on this journey. I have been reading a lot and seeing a lot to help guide me in this. There has been talk about collars, He wants to collar both of us, we are told this is for protection.
I have searched and asked about a Dom being collared by a mentor. So far I have found no such thing. I would appreciate any input on this scenario.

Thanks
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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:19:06 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		It happens.  If the people want some symbol to express the relationship, I guess that works best for them.

However, I can't see the reason for protection, and if you're questioning it enough to come online and ask strangers about it, obviously it's not really the right choice for you now.

Mentoring and helping can be done just fine without collars.  What would you need protection from?

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:23:02 AM   
kittensmailbox


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Status: offline 		That is a new one for me... However each relationship is different and if that is something You, Yourself feel comfortable with, then that is Your business Sir...

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:28:26 AM   
Master96


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Status: offline 		Dear tx061,

Getting collared means getting owned; if your mentor wants to collar you, then he wants to own you.

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ORIGINAL: tx061

... we are told this is for protection....



Protecting from what?

If you are a bi switch, go ahead... else, leave this mentor and "you" collar your wife.

Take care,
Master96,

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:32:11 AM   
MistressSassy66


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

It happens.  If the people want some symbol to express the relationship, I guess that works best for them.

However, I can't see the reason for protection, and if you're questioning it enough to come online and ask strangers about it, obviously it's not really the right choice for you now.

Mentoring and helping can be done just fine without collars.  What would you need protection from?



I have to agree...what would you need protection from...perhaps its their way of showing your owned without you knowing it.

I have Mentors and I'm not collared by either of  Them.

As far as the Dom collar...I wear a chain that is like My bishops.
Only Mine has charms on it that signify important dates or events.

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:39:40 AM   
enthralled


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Status: offline 		I've heard of mentoring, and Doms being given his leather in the leather community, but never being collared by a mentor.

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:49:19 AM   
MstrssSatin


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Status: offline 		I have seen couples who have collared each other (in your case, you and your wife collaring each other). But I have never heard of a mentor collaring a Dom and a sub that he didn't plan on owning. 

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:53:33 AM   
SaphireLynn


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Status: offline 		A collar symbolizes ownership... so why would the mentor want to collar the Dom.... is he scecretly wanting to own the Dom and have him become a  switch?
Ms. Lynn

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:57:26 AM   
trippingdaisy


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Status: offline 		As LA said..it happens. But if You are questioning this so much, then it's obviously something that is sending up red flags inside. Correct?

Follow Your instinct. It's there for a reason.

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 10:57:52 AM   
MrrPete


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Status: offline 		Black T-shirt, Black leather vest, black pants,black shoes

No collar needed.

Get actived with your local BDSM community


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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 11:05:33 AM   
MsAriel


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< Message edited by MsAriel -- 6/20/2006 11:06:35 AM >

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 11:22:37 AM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tx061

My wife introduced me to BDSM. I am Dom and she is sub. she has a friend that is being our mentor on this journey. I have been reading a lot and seeing a lot to help guide me in this. There has been talk about collars, He wants to collar both of us, we are told this is for protection.
I have searched and asked about a Dom being collared by a mentor. So far I have found no such thing. I would appreciate any input on this scenario.

Thanks


I think the guys yanking your chain, Tx. If I were you, I'd seriously consider getting a 'group' of mentors, not just one. That will open up a diversity to you that you don't currently enjoy. Check out your local groups, attend classes, read, go slow and don't forget to have some fun.

::shakes head:: Mentors collaring dominants for protection .. what will they think of next. Must be a rash of psycho subs in Tx this season or something.

Celeste

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 12:14:10 PM   
tx061


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all the input. The red flags went up.
This confirmed what I was thinking.

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 12:19:09 PM   
MistressOfGa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tx061

My wife introduced me to BDSM. I am Dom and she is sub. she has a friend that is being our mentor on this journey. I have been reading a lot and seeing a lot to help guide me in this. There has been talk about collars, He wants to collar both of us, we are told this is for protection.
I have searched and asked about a Dom being collared by a mentor. So far I have found no such thing. I would appreciate any input on this scenario.

Thanks

I have heard of a dom being collared during mentoring, but I am curious as to what your mentor feels you need protection from?  

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 12:21:23 PM   
bandbfortyish


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Status: offline 		My girlfriend introduced me to BDSM , She is a Pro Domme herself but is collared to me. I,m the only person in her life she submits to. This man is trying to show his ownership of you both there is no other explaination for it. Even if he just collared your wife it would mean you would have to ask his permission to play together. For your own sake dont go there

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 12:26:39 PM   
CelticPrince


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Status: offline 		simply put = Dominants do not wear collars!

CP

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 12:55:20 PM   
Proprietrix


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
::shakes head:: Mentors collaring dominants for protection .. what will they think of next. Celeste


This was pretty much my reaction as well.

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 12:57:12 PM   
PlayfulOne


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Status: offline 		Protecte from what, exercising your own common sense?  You might need to protect yourself allright,  from him.  He doesn't need to collar anyone to be a mentor.  Question, has he discussed needing to "mentor" your wife alone without you there?

K

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 12:59:54 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		You know, sometimes I get a little cranked up and want to say something astute and truthful.............

But then I just say fuck it ....... what is the use?

P.S. While it may not seem de rigeur, CP... I think if a Dom wishes to wear a collar, by god; he will.  What's the big deal if you like it? 

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RE: A Dom collar - 6/20/2006 1:06:05 PM   
gypsyssoul


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see finally CelticPrince ..
thats what i thought ...
but was scared to say it that way
 


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