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Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird?

Charming/Flattering

60% (17)

Weird/Disgusting

39% (11)

Total Votes : 28

(last vote on : 2/9/2013 11:41:12 AM)
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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 6:27:56 AM

MsSaintClaire

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It was charming the way the did in 18 th century but I guess not anymore. The charm's gone. Who will kiss my hand now? A taxi driver? Some pisshead in the subway on his way to work?? Yuk.. It used to express style and education and wealth but not anymore.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 6:54:53 AM

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I would find it awkward outside of a Ren Faire.

You might pull it off with a modern hero if he's a guy
who is a little eccentric, a modern day Don Quixote or
a Don Juan de Marcos type.

If the story is set in a era and a society where it was
commonplace it would be fine. Of course when it was
a social custom most ladies wore gloves so her skin
was protected from the damp lips of another.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 7:02:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsSaintClaire

It was charming the way the did in 18 th century but I guess not anymore. The charm's gone. Who will kiss my hand now? A taxi driver? Some pisshead in the subway on his way to work?? Yuk.. It used to express style and education and wealth but not anymore.

Well, I couldn't really vote because there wasn't a third option. I find it charming AMONG FRIENDS, done playfully, but not if they actually make Lip-to-Hand contact...YUCK! I don't want someone's saliva on My hand (cold sore germs, viruses, ewww).

In Victorian times ladies usually wore gloves, so it was the glove the man kissed, going through the motion itself as a sign of respect was the point. Incidentally, men were expected to remove their own glove as a matter of etiquette, while the woman kept hers on.

The best hand kissers stop just short of actually touching lip-to-hand and do it rather like a Salute, lowering their face to the hand, done with a little flare. Also, as with ANY body touching it has to be WITH PERMISSION. Without permission it's a trespass, and the man is taking liberties with a woman's personal space. I don't like to be touched, so if a man just GRABS My hand, the other hand will be teaching him NOT to.

So, I guess My vote would be 50/50 since I agree with both. :/

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 7:12:36 AM

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neewbie would blush if her hand was kissed and then start to worry and wonder what would she have to do and would think her hand was kissed for a reason

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 8:02:03 AM

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Perhaps if it was from someone old world, charming, cultured and refined. Not many with that kind of social etiquette in the U.S., though.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 8:51:40 AM

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Yes, it's about context and era. I wouldn't find it terribly strange currently if we were in a formal setting, but other than that, it's a little showy.
And obviously, as it was done in a bygone era, it makes sense.
As it's mostly controlled BY THE WOMAN, who must offer her hand in that way for it to be mannerly, that loses some of the creep factor.
Otherwise, she merely nods demurely at the introduction.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 9:37:31 AM

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It's weird now. In twenty first century America, that goes way beyond touchy feely boundaries with a stranger. Plus, the few guys who still try to pull that off tend NOT to wait for an invitation. In my experience, I offer my hand to SHAKE, and they kiss it. What am I then supposed to do without making a scene?

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 9:54:20 AM

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It's weird now. In twenty first century America, that goes way beyond touchy feely boundaries with a stranger. Plus, the few guys who still try to pull that off tend NOT to wait for an invitation. In my experience, I offer my hand to SHAKE, and they kiss it. What am I then supposed to do without making a scene?

Pull it back and say, "Oh, you don't want to put your mouth THERE right now."

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 10:46:51 AM

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 12:31:49 PM

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both depending on whom is doing it. it really is all about how that person is, and what they are to me.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 12:38:23 PM

MissBlueangel

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I find it charming...maybe not so much with a total stranger.
An elderly friend of my late father always doffs his cap and lifts my hand to his mouth.
Its rather ellegant

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 3:37:03 PM

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I voted charming.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/7/2013 7:14:47 PM

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upon first meeting him? Weird.

As we are getting to know one another and we realize we are falling for each other? Charming. Yeah, Master did this. ....well sorta...then fingers kinda got involved with mouths and ahem.....Ok, nevermind.

Yes, yes, it's charming.

ETA: On second thought, if some hot, refined, elegant, gentlemanly, well suited and someone that I couldn't take my eyes off of and was left speechless?? Yeah....then it's charming. I have to say I felt that way with Master so if he had done it upon first seeing me, I would not have complained one bit.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/8/2013 6:20:43 PM

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I personally find it incredibly weird. It's intrusive to me, especially if we have just met. There are certain subtle ways to come across as confident and in control without immediately invading my personal space.

On the other hand if it was someone that I knew and understood extremely well, it probably wouldn't bother me. A stranger though, well that just feels like you're taking liberties or staking a claim to something that clearly isn't yours.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/8/2013 6:40:59 PM

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If memory serves, the gentleman actually kisses the air just above the lady's hand, rather than making flesh-to-flesh contact. But I'm too tired to dig out dear Emily Post or Miss Manners right now.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/8/2013 11:23:40 PM

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It depends on who is doing it and why. I have experienced it being very sweet and I have experienced it being pretty contrived feeling.

It is a subjective thing specific to the moment and the guy doing it. I am not sure what your character would be trying to convey, why is he kissing her hand? Does he know anything about her?

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/9/2013 7:44:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dcnovice

FR

If memory serves, the gentleman actually kisses the air just above the lady's hand, rather than making flesh-to-flesh contact. But I'm too tired to dig out dear Emily Post or Miss Manners right now.

Think you're right, dc.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/9/2013 1:23:36 PM

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Ladies if a man politely kisses your hand upon meeting you do you consider it weird or charming?

It is weird - because men in medieaval times in fact never kissed the hand: they smelled it instead in order to know whether the woman was ovulating.

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/9/2013 2:44:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rule

quote:

ORIGINAL: TheWriter13
Ladies if a man politely kisses your hand upon meeting you do you consider it weird or charming?

It is weird - because men in medieaval times in fact never kissed the hand: they smelled it instead in order to know whether the woman was ovulating.

Whoa, fascinating!

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RE: Do ladies find hand kissing charming or weird? - 2/9/2013 2:45:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rule

quote:

ORIGINAL: TheWriter13
Ladies if a man politely kisses your hand upon meeting you do you consider it weird or charming?

It is weird - because men in medieaval times in fact never kissed the hand: they smelled it instead in order to know whether the woman was ovulating.

Yeah right. The entire world (with the exception of the condom industry) wants to know how one can tell that from smelling a woman's hand.

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