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Discipline vs Stress Relief - 2/9/2013 6:36:45 AM   
MisLydiaSpanks


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Status: offline 		What do you need?

A discipline spanking to help you improve your life or a stress relief spanking to just let you release built up stress and feel better?

Or is it a little bit of both?
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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 2/9/2013 6:47:32 AM   
cordeliasub


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Status: offline 		I need both.

A discipline spanking helps me to feel as if the issue has been resolved, if that makes sense.

But sometimes I just need that release and catharsis and good old fashioned sobfest while my Dominant holds me after a good spanking.

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 2/9/2013 9:39:57 AM   
lmpishlilhellcat


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Status: offline 		Spankings for me are different than other types of pain play. Spankings always feel like discipline. Maybe because as a child I was corrected by spankings. Other forms of pain play are an entirely different mind set for me and work as a stress relief. I prefer/enjoy anything other than a spanking.

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 2/9/2013 10:01:39 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Neither. We do erotic spankings only. Should I have an episode of catharsis and relieve stress, that's an unexpected bonus but not the aim of it.

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 2/9/2013 10:19:25 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MisLydiaSpanks

What do you need?

A discipline spanking to help you improve your life or a stress relief spanking to just let you release built up stress and feel better?

Or is it a little bit of both?


Neither. We do sometimes have spankings as punishments but I wouldn't say the spanking is the part that helps me improve my life. It's much more complicated than that. A spanking alone generally isn't enough for catharsis, either.

Why don't you tell us your feelings about it, OP, because as it stands this sounds like a poorly-disguised ad for your spanking services.

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 2/9/2013 10:44:27 AM   
theshytype


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Why don't you tell us your feelings about it, OP, because as it stands this sounds like a poorly-disguised ad for your spanking services.


That's kinda what I thought, too.


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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 2/9/2013 1:03:04 PM   
evesgrden


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Status: offline 		Is there a discount for one over the other?

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 2/9/2013 1:10:22 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Neither. We have spankings because they're fun.

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 1:36:40 AM   
spankmattward34


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Status: offline 		im 22 never been spanked and noticed u live in sata clarita, ca and i would love to get spanked by u i ship out for the army in 17 days and want to get my first spanking ever before i go can u please spank me miss u can take pic or video tape if u want it doesnt bother me please email me at [mod edit to remove contact info]

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 1:50:09 AM   
Muttling


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Status: offline 		A lot of the details depend on the mood I'm in, but I'm in the all of the above category. Currently, there's a ton of stress in my life so it's hard to see much beyond the stress relief aspect.

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 2:40:02 AM   
LadyPact


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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 3:34:10 AM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: theshytype

quote:



Why don't you tell us your feelings about it, OP, because as it stands this sounds like a poorly-disguised ad for your spanking services.


That's kinda what I thought, too.



I am deeply shocked over the cynicism of you young ladies.

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 3:36:17 AM   
Lucifyre


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Status: offline 		For the sake of discussion (because more than just the OP will read the responses) I want to answer the original question...

Mr and I use spankings for *all of the above*
Discipline
Stress relief
Punishment
Erotic, sexual
Because He said so
Because I asked for one
Because it's Tuesday (it's really Friday, but Tuesday sounds funnier :P)

Luci

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 5:20:28 AM   
hollycheer91


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I am deeply shocked over the cynicism of you young ladies.


I know this is a bit off topic but I do love the quote in your signature! Its incredibly true!

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 7:51:32 PM   
spankmattward34


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Status: offline 		i know i need both never been spanked

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 8:23:46 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		pain is a reward so a spanking would be for pleasure. punishment for me is my Mistress not being happy with me

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 9:44:51 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		Not a spankee, but I certainly feel less stressed after delivering a good, hard spanking to my other. M

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/1/2013 10:34:12 PM   
ResidentSadist


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

If people ever wonder whether professionals advertising on the discussion boards works, here's the answer.


QFT

Welcome to the forums, the discussion side of advertising . . . I mean, discussion side of CollarMe.

The mods are really asleep at the wheel lately. I haven't started a serious thread in quite a while because of that.

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/2/2013 3:12:26 PM   
RemoteUser


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Status: offline 		Regardless of the why, some people want spankings, and for various reasons well beyond discipline or stress relief. (If life could be reduced to consequence and pleasure, it would be easier, and probably boring.)

I'm more of a delivery man than a parking lot for a hand (or flogger, or cane...). I have never delivered a spanking as a form of discipline because I've never had a partner that it made sense to use corporal punishment on. Looks and words hit deeper and last longer (with or without intention). I have been with masochists, none of whom enjoyed spanking; combine that with my previous statement, and you can see why it wasn't used.

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RE: Discipline vs Stress Relief - 3/2/2013 4:17:36 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Must it be one or the other?  I have never had a spanking for either reason.  I don't need a spanking for either reason.  Is there a third choice?

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