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Message for Black Masters/Misress - 2/10/2013 5:55:29 AM

whyte4use

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I find the prospect of surrender to a black Master/Mistress very appealing. It is something I have sought for many years but alas has avoided me. Many subs/slaves see the dynamic as sexual. To me it is much more. It has to be cerebral in favour of the superior with the inferior bending at will. I would really appreciate guidance by any black superior that may seek me being captured. Thank you for taking time in reading this post.

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RE: Message for Black Masters/Misress - 2/10/2013 6:37:21 AM

Nelee

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Tossing in my (black sub, and thus not your target audience) two cents. If you don't care, ignore it:

I don't know how many black mistresses or masters feel, but I wouldn't care to be fetishized unless I'm a pro-domme and making money off of it.

For example, I wouldn't have a problem with being a sub to a white master. But I WOULD have a problem if the only reason that master sought me out was because of my race and they liked that racial power dynamic. It just feels like you're playing out your personal fantasy, rather than thinking of it as an actual relationship (although it may be kink-related, it is still a relationship).

But that is, of course, a personal preference. I'm more relationship-minded than play minded, so I'm sure my opinion doesn't hold for everyone.

I'm just throwing this out here to make sure you keep in mind of how you're presenting yourself to your potential Mistress/Master. Just throwing in another perspective.

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RE: Message for Black Masters/Misress - 2/10/2013 8:25:31 AM

DarkSteven

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Well, I know a few local black Dommes and one black Dom. They have white subs because, well, there aren't that many blacks locally.

You have two strikes against you.

1. You treat Dom/mes as superior beings instead of just people. That'll turn off a lot of lifestyle types.
2. You treat blacks as superior beings instead of just people. That'll turn off a lot of them.

If you just treat 'em like people first, and Dom/mes second, and don't fetishize their skin color, you'll do better.

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RE: Message for Black Masters/Misress - 2/10/2013 1:38:20 PM

TNDommeK

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This. ^^

Hubby is black, and the girls and myself are a boiling pot of color. If seeking a black master is your thing, go for it. But do understand how to approach that. Just bc it's BDSM doesn't mean people. Aren't people first.

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RE: Message for Black Masters/Misress - 2/11/2013 7:10:13 AM

msjustlooking

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I have to ask....do you know any black people in real life? Do you have black friends, neighbors or co-workers that you hang out with? If not, go make some black friends. Find out what we are like, what our culture is like and get past the nervousness you first feel when you venture outside of your comfort zone. We are people you know and we appreciate above all things being treated like people. If you just want someone with brown skin but have no knowledge of (or interest in) who I am as a person then that would make me your "kink" wouldn't it? Thanks but no thanks.

In general if you want to meet a Mistress or Master of any race you really need to work on your profile. You stated you did not want to list your likes and dislikes because you are a slave. Fine, but you still need to list your skills, your qualitities, your experience (if any) and your abilities. What is it about you that would make me want you as a slave over the many many other males slaves that ask for my attention? What are you bringing to the table? And if you are looking for ownership, you need to bring out more of your personality. You are talking about someone you will potentially live with- forever. I may be dominant and under the right conditions I can even be a bit sadistic; but I don't want anyone around me who cannot share a good laugh, have an intelligent conversation and hold up their end in a good debate. Again, stop looking for an brown sex toy and start meeting people. (and start being a person too).

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RE: Message for Black Masters/Misress - 2/11/2013 7:23:36 AM

TheLilSquaw

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OP,

I tell sub/slaves that approach me about serving me to think about and explain what they bring to the table. What can you offer me? If the ONLY thing you have going for you or that you can offer a partner (regardless of the labels they wear) is your ethnicity or skin color. That doesn't say a lot for YOU.

You have absolutely no control over that.
Plus for someone to say to ME.
I want to serve you because I ONLY serve Native American women.
Would be them fetishizing me without my consent which IMO is kinda creepy and rather annoying.

I am MORE than my ethnic background.
I am MORE than my skin color.
And if as a switch, as a partner,as a human being I can't offer you more than THAT.

Wow.
Why would you want to be with me??

ETA: OP I am kind of curious. Would you be interested in someone of who had african american ethnicity but could pass as white? What is your determining factor if someone is "black"?

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RE: Message for Black Masters/Misress - 2/11/2013 9:08:49 AM

msjustlooking

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BTW- be careful with looking for the whole "totally surrender to black/capture me" thing. There are some underground groups out there that will twist your fantasy into your worst nightmare....IJS.

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RE: Message for Black Masters/Misress - 2/16/2013 5:13:15 PM

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This absolutely reminds of an event from my own life.

I was married for several years to a woman of Asian descent (ethnically Han Chinese, parents from Taiwan), and a coworker friend of my was a self-identified Asian fetishist. I didn't tell him that my wife was of Asian descent, so that I could watch the BOOM, as it were... I wasn't disappointed!

After the smoke cleared, and he composed himself, he went on and on about how pretty she is, etc, to the point of absolute creepiness. Eventually, I told him, "Did you know that there's a secret to getting an Asian girlfriend?" "REALLY?!" "Yes. You have to imagine that they're just like everybody else and treat them the same. You have to pretend that they have their own hopes and fears, experience joy and sadness just like anyone else."

His response: "And that works?!"

It's a silly story (100% true, though), but illustrates the point: generally speaking, my experience has been that people dislike having just one aspect of who they are fetishized. It's one thing to enjoy an aesthetic, but if someone gets the sense that that's ALL you like about them, or ALL you care about, it's a huge turn off.

Just my $0.02

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RE: Message for Black Masters/Misress - 2/25/2013 1:55:52 PM

mons

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As a black dominant woman I do not find it creepy as to all of the white males whom write to me, oh
yes there are some, but will not answer them at all!

They begin to know me as me, oh yes they still want a dominant black women but they understand I am
more then just s color

I will only have the most intelligent submissive males they must keep up with me in our conversations, I am interested in history,. but
it is sad some of the submissive really think we do not have an inteeligent brain , no knowledge of anything!

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