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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Okay, so you and your partner are both interested in a trans* woman. From the sound of it, you want her to be pre-operative or non-op. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

Is a post-operative trans* woman okay? If not, why not? If you specifically want her to have a penis, will you be okay with it if she's on HRT? Some trans* woman cannot get and/or maintain an erection because of the hormones. If that isn't okay, have you thought about why? Also, will you address any issues of body dysphoria she may have and be sensitive to her needs if she isn't comfortable engaging in cis-normative sexual activity (e.g. penetration using her penis)?

This is where non-consensual objectification comes into play. You need to really think about these issues and be honest about the answers before you try to date a trans* person.

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ORIGINAL: GoddessBych21

I do not wish to seek a person just to use as a thing none of you know me as a person so please do not judge me. I admited I made a mistake I realy honestly did and just because I still have that journal entry up does not mean I was not sincere in my apology maybe it means that I had something to do and haven't got to deleteing it yet. Did any of you think of that before you accused my appology? I do understand that I made a mistake and I do understand what my original post made me sound like a horrible person but I truly am not. I appologize to all that were offended by that. It is both of us who are interested (not just for a toy) I am not heartless I am not perfect I do not know everything. As I stated I am still new at all the terms and rules. Again I am sorry

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

1. Is this attraction something that both of you feel?
2. Just what about MtFs is it that you like?
3. What kind of help do you want? How to meet them? How to approach them? What?

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ORIGINAL: GoddessBych21

Ok first of all I don't ever remember saying I wanted to have sex with a trans woman so where y'all are getting these "fantesies" from I don't know. I said I was interested in trans women meaning id like to know/learn more maybe get to know some . We are both interested in trans women not just for sex as y'all think we are. Everything about trans women interests me. I just want to learn

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ORIGINAL: lizi

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

I will say, I was ignorant on facts of how to address, amount other things, transgendered people. Thank goodness for the people I have met on here that help me out when I sound clueless.

I think the op made a mistake that she had no idea she was making. We can't always be perfect.

Op I advise you to read that trans 101 link, and see if it helps you out. And then try to seek with new knowledge. However, once a post has been posted, it can only be removed with the help of a mod. So don't be discouraged but learn from your mistake and move forward.

She did say she made a mistake, what is rubbing me the wrong way though is that she seems to be looking for a certain type of human being like a toy that she wants to play with. It's the same as when younger men start threads on wanting an older woman, or anyone is looking for a characteristic instead of a person. Those threads don't generally go well for the reason that the objectified group wants to be seen and valued as a person and not as a pair of tits, a big penis, or as young/old/white/black.

Btw, she's still got up in her profile a journal entry about looking for a shemale, makes you wonder if her apology here was sincere or if she was being snarky about making a mistake. OP, I wish you luck, I think you need to understand that this site is for people that are interested in BDSM, it doesn't necessarily mean that we're all easy or looking for sex with anyone making an offer. Most of us, regardless of what flavor we are, want to be approached like a human being, have meaningful conversation, and form friendships before getting naked. Whatever you are looking for can be approached much like dating. Approach the object of your interest like a person that you want to get to know and get to know them.

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

And heck, I didn't know she-males is no longer an acceptable term.

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

Honestly, I haven't really seen the OP trying to learn anything. She's had ample opportunity to rephrase and clarify her original question and to ask new ones. That's what someone who sincerely wants to learn does. She hasn't even bothered to answer the questions people have put to her. All I see her doing is backpedaling after the being called out for being a chaser. This is my not impressed face.