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mindtwister -> What is it with some subs .... (6/20/2006 8:54:43 PM)

What is it with some submissives (or self-proclaimed slaves) who write to you asking to "chat" and when you tell them politely that you are not interested and why you don't believe you are compatible in first place, they freak out and simply can't handle it? Makes you wonder. I suppose, that is exactly what happens to some subs ... but does that make us even?




ownedgirlie -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/20/2006 8:56:54 PM)

Seems like a Mindtwisting question...[:D]




hhhkane -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/20/2006 9:04:31 PM)

It's not just with subs, it's with some Doms as well.I used to be polite in rejecting people but they are so immature that they can't accept rejection in an adult manner. That is why, I've given up with the polite reply. Now I just don't reply back when I'm not interested. It is those people that ruin it for others that truly deserve an explanation just as common coutesy. I




akisha -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/20/2006 9:11:22 PM)

Gee all the submissives I talk to are very nice *chuckles* now some of the Dominants I've politely told thanks but no thanks have acted like spoiled children throwing a tantrum.

Is that kinda the same thing you're finding?

Maybe it's the same people playing both sides of the board [:D][:D][:D][:D]

On a serious note. This reaction is not orientation specific. And to be honest the question has been asked a few hundred thousand times. But what the hell, may as well ask it just one thousand more times *s*




juliaoceania -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/20/2006 9:13:12 PM)

I think this is a people problem and not a sub problem. Havent you ever talked to a freaky vanilla chick (and I am not talking sexual freak, but psychofreak)?

BTW mindtwister... hi again and welcome to the forums! I remember the emails we passed back and forth when I first joined CM! (No everyone i am not who he is talking about...lol)




Driver1961 -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 12:24:21 AM)

A nice Twist Ownedgirlie!

Eyes dips My lid.




D1961wildchild -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 2:15:48 AM)

lets see ... first line of profile states ... I am collared ... yet still messages asking for meets, sex and some that just do not bear mentioning ... and on top of this those who say that I should reconsider lol ... and the occassional who gets upset ...

hey I practice avoidence now every reply reads ... please contact Driver1961 as I look to Him for guidence in all things.




zero69u2 -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 3:14:13 AM)

this is a dating board.  maybe your not compatiable at first reading.. but the other person must be attracted to you for some reason.. so when feelings hurt by your rejection of course this may cause some inital shock..

your really faced with either quickly rejecting someone Or taking a test drive.. chat with them a bit and see what their deal is.. I think email is the worst way to meet anyone.. because its a one-sided conversation. profiles can be misleading and are not always truthful. so until you chat on IM or go to phone.. you really don't know the person.




meatcleaver -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 3:24:45 AM)

I've never had a solicitation message and I'm always baffled by these people who appear to get so many and then complain about them.

Maybe I just appear too obnoxious or...er..maybe its because I've got my profile turned off.[&:]




twicehappy -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 3:28:33 AM)

I never go im until after a few emails are exchanged first because nine times out of ten it is simply somebody looking for wank material.

It is not only subbies i've gotten the same reaction from doms too, i think no one likes to be rejected. We are adults here though and they need to accept your lack of interest and get over it, this is not Jr. High.




redpetals -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 3:30:39 AM)

yes, it makes us even..
just kidding..




Padriag -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 3:55:22 AM)

The answer is fairly simple, and it applies whether you are talking about submissives or dominants that behave this way.  Many who seek out this lifestyle are only interested in fulfilling their own personal fantasy.  They have not really considered the fact that that will include another person who has their own desires and interests.  They are so selfishly focused on only what they want, that when someone rejects the, they throw a tantrum.  It is very childish and immature behavior.

There's nothing wrong with any of us having a fantasy or three.  There's nothing wrong with wanting it fulfilled.  But where maturity shows, is in the ability to accept that others may not share those fantasies, and that that is okay.




bandit25 -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 4:01:59 AM)

Just uninstall java on your pc...then you can't chat.  Problem solved!




theprofitprinces -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 4:50:23 AM)

blah just a bunch of attention whores who probably don't get attention in real life.lol




PhoenixLM -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 5:05:48 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: zero69u2


your really faced with either quickly rejecting someone Or taking a test drive.. chat with them a bit and see what their deal is.. I think email is the worst way to meet anyone.. because its a one-sided conversation. profiles can be misleading and are not always truthful. so until you chat on IM or go to phone.. you really don't know the person.



Sir no offense but there are times that a profile tells a person real fast if its a possible match. A few examples I'm fat if you do not like fat women then guess what we are not compatible. I'm collared, guess I'm not even looking for a dom. You have a pack of camels in the pic with you and yellowed teeth I can assume that you are a smoker, if smokeing is a deal breaker your not a match. I see pics of subs and dominants that are very cluttered in the background as a sub I would not want a dominant that is too lazy to clean up after themself as a dominant a sub whose house is a pigsty would probably not improve. So there are times when a profile sings loud and clear that this person is not compatiable.





feastie -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 5:27:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mindtwister

What is it with some submissives (or self-proclaimed slaves) who write to you asking to "chat" and when you tell them politely that you are not interested and why you don't believe you are compatible in first place, they freak out and simply can't handle it? Makes you wonder. I suppose, that is exactly what happens to some subs ... but does that make us even?


Tsk tsk tsk, there you go, making gross generalizations.  People fit this category, not just submissives.




JessieMe -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 5:40:41 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: theprofitprinces

blah just a bunch of attention whores who probably don't get attention in real life.lol


<laffin>  To me this is funny because I consider my official title after slave to be "the worlds biggest attention whore" and all my friends no it.. and some of us DO get attention in real life too <wink>

jessie




JessieMe -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 5:41:56 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: JessieMe

quote:

ORIGINAL: theprofitprinces

blah just a bunch of attention whores who probably don't get attention in real life.lol


<laffin>  To me this is funny because I consider my official title after slave to be "the worlds biggest attention whore" and all my friends no it.. and some of us DO get attention in real life too <wink>

jessie


OOPPSS damn I hate typos... make that "all my friends KNOW it" <giggles>




Wulfchyld -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 5:47:31 AM)

Just look at it this way man. They are all sitting here replying to your post while they are nekkid.
 
That’s my story and I am sticking to it.




MistressOfGa -> RE: What is it with some subs .... (6/21/2006 5:59:12 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bandit25

Just uninstall java on your pc...then you can't chat.  Problem solved!


Or just say no.




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