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RE: Who's in charge? - 2/27/2013 6:29:44 AM

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As a sub with multiple Doms, how do I decide who is Master?

Thunderdome. Two doms enter, one dom leaves.

Damn you beat me to it! I was going to suggest a no holds barred, WWE style, cage match...but Thunderdome is even better since it involved bungee cords and chainsaws from what I remember.

Ooooohhh! I think we need to have a thunderDom competition!
I'll bring the popcorn!!
now I'm excited!
this may bring a whole new level to the term thunderDombuddy.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 2/27/2013 6:53:16 AM

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Al Haig is in charge.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 2/27/2013 7:00:19 AM

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As a sub with multiple Doms, how do I decide who is Master?

Apparently, you are.

haha I was thinking the same thing.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 2/27/2013 3:44:35 PM

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Al Haig is in charge.

Showing your age there.

Of course, so am I since I understood the reference.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 2/27/2013 8:51:42 PM

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Do you want a 'master'? Do any of these dominants want to be a 'master'; or your 'master'?

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RE: Who's in charge? - 2/28/2013 6:49:02 AM

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Do you want a 'master'? Do any of these dominants want to be a 'master'; or your 'master'?

Excellent questions. I'd add on... and what exactly does "master" mean to you and them?

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RE: Who's in charge? - 2/28/2013 7:36:41 AM

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Yes they know about each other, but its not a group scenario. They just each have limited availability, and if I chose only one, then I would only get to play a couple times a month, rather than a couple times a week :-) I don't think getting them all together would be possible.

As long as they all know about each other, the person you are with on any given day, is the person in charge on that day. If you need to know who is in charge 24hours/day, every day of the month, determine your schedule with them, and ask them if the schedule of dominance/control of you, works for them.

Better yet, ask them to determine who will be in charge on what days of the month? M

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RE: Who's in charge? - 2/28/2013 10:02:36 AM

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Yes they know about each other, but its not a group scenario. They just each have limited availability, and if I chose only one, then I would only get to play a couple times a month, rather than a couple times a week :-) I don't think getting them all together would be possible.
As long as they all know about each other, the person you are with on any given day, is the person in charge on that day. If you need to know who is in charge 24hours/day, every day of the month, determine your schedule with them, and ask them if the schedule of dominance/control of you, works for them.

Better yet, ask them to determine who will be in charge on what days of the month? M

That might work with short-term orders, but what happens when one of them says 'cut your hair short' and the other says 'grow it long'? There are a great deal of orders and expectations which could easily conflict. I find only a minority of my orders are one-day-only things.

To be honest, it sounds like they are only play partners so as soon as they step out of the bedroom no one is in charge, but I don't think a schedule for dominance would really work.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 2/28/2013 3:04:40 PM

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That might work with short-term orders, but what happens when one of them says 'cut your hair short' and the other says 'grow it long'? There are a great deal of orders and expectations which could easily conflict. I find only a minority of my orders are one-day-only things.

I agree, this would never work for me, but they are all already sharing her, so they must know it is a shared control thing, and mostly, they have to discuss with one another, and agree with one another, on how to proceed. I can't believe I just said that! I could never imagine it, unless it were like, he'll be at my home every monday of the month to do my laundry, lol.

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To be honest, it sounds like they are only play partners so as soon as they step out of the bedroom no one is in charge, but I don't think a schedule for dominance would really work.

It does to me as well. I was trying to wrap my mind around the dynamic, and see how multiple masters could control one person, without talking with, and negotiating with one another. M

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RE: Who's in charge? - 3/2/2013 5:59:51 AM

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As a sub with multiple Doms, how do I decide who is Master?

You decide?

Right now what you have are three service tops to your dominating bottom.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 3/2/2013 6:38:39 PM

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As a sub with multiple Doms, how do I decide who is Master?

Apparently, you are.

Bingo.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 3/3/2013 1:00:31 PM

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Al Haig is in charge.

Showing your age there.

Of course, so am I since I understood the reference.

You two are not alone.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 3/5/2013 6:11:11 AM

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As a sub with multiple Doms, how do I decide who is Master?

Not you.

Submit to all of them, and let them sort it out - the likelihood of finding yourself being turned into a political football thereby is probably high, so if you really have no preference, you might have to explicitly refuse to play that.

Otherwise, it boils down to who do you want to be your master? The rest is politics as usual.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 3/5/2013 6:21:10 AM

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Did you ask Them?

It's good to have a man you befriend and offers his kindness.

It's a good thing to have a man who can make you laugh and show you a good time.

It's good to have a man who can fuck your brains out and really get you off.

It's good to have a man who is a good provider and will be there for you.

It is always a very good thing...that these men do NOT know each other.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 3/5/2013 6:26:42 AM

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Lol.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 3/5/2013 9:54:39 PM

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Thunderdome. Two doms enter, one dom leaves.

This is quite possibly the funniest answer to the funniest question I've ever seen on this site.

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RE: Who's in charge? - 3/7/2013 10:17:39 PM

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Well, the question when it comes to Thunderdom, is what are they fighting for, or over? That much you should try to gain some control over.

See I don't know, is it train situation? Tag team? Free for all? A complicated dating life? I have no idea, you're there, so you do - what do you want?

It's not the usual kind of situation, subfem polyandry, you're going to have to make some of this up as you go along.

Seems you're quite a popular girl at any rate, and you're very lovely, but you're gonna have to figure out how to juggle this one.

I have to go with my fail safe advice: try not to catch anything. I'd be looking for the one I could trust.

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