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Seeking a fem sub. - 2/26/2013 3:23:45 AM

Rob691

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I've been searching longer than I dare say..
Countless messages and fakes, timewasters and simpletons later I'm still no closer to finding a genuine person on this site.
Keep wondering where im going wrong..
If there's anyone interested or even just curious.
Have a look at my profile.
Thanks.

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RE: Seeking a fem sub. - 2/26/2013 3:30:57 AM

MissBlueangel

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Well your profile doesnt exactly make you stand out from the crowd.
I would also say that for some women being a squaddie doesnt do you any favours.
Sad but true

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RE: Seeking a fem sub. - 2/26/2013 4:50:23 AM

muhly22222

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Welcome to the forums.

There are a number of threads (many of them in the "Ask a Submissive" section) about how to write a good profile. I'd suggest you read them and apply what you learn to your profile. Just a friendly and helpful tip, there's nothing in your profile that really stands out, that makes you different from other people. You need to talk about yourself...you being you is what makes you different from the other 942,183 doms who enjoy psychological torment as an aspect of their kink.

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RE: Seeking a fem sub. - 2/26/2013 5:14:13 AM

LadyPact

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Welcome to the forums.

Since you asked, I'll give the profile review a shot. Please understand that there may be some cultural differences in My opinion.

Two things in your favor. Your age and you are height/weight proportionate.

Here are some things that are going to make your search challenging:

Due to your career, you are in the 'mostly net and phone' zone. Not a real popular proposition considering you are the seller in a buyer's market. When female submissives are so sought after, you have to show why you have more to offer than somebody who can give a woman adequate time in the same room to build a relationship.

You've got kinks that include mental aspects but you say nothing of your higher education or experience in prior dynamics that show you know how to prevent harming someone. You're looking for a "new" sub but don't say anything about your prior experience as a Dominant. (How many years in the lifestyle, etc.) Get something in there that lets people know why you are safe to play with mental kinks and not just some Tom, Dick, or Harry that thinks this stuff is hot.

You appear to have no community ties that are BDSM related. (This is where the cultural difference may lie. Both My husband and My sub are military and that doesn't prevent us from attending munches and events.) Yes, there are a lot of people who engage in BDSM privately, rather than associate with other kinky people. However, when you don't, you lose the reassurance that a community reputation can bring to a potential submissive.

You've got a journal entry that says you've been going to take better photos that was posted in November. It obviously wasn't important enough to you to follow through on that. Saying something and not doing it is not a good trademark when a submissive is looking for someone where she can trust his word.

There are a number of threads on the forums that discuss how to write a good profile. You may want to read up on those. Good luck.

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RE: Seeking a fem sub. - 2/26/2013 6:11:16 AM

DarkSteven

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Wow.

Your first paragraph sounds like an eager puppy. Hyperactive and focused entirely on play. It makes you sound like you just discovered the lifestyle yesterday and want to experience it all today, without reading up on it or learning how to do things.

My suggestion is to read fem subs' profiles. Pick three or four that you think you'd like to be with (and no, it is NOT all about looks, even though you think it is). Then write a profile designed to appeal to them specifically, that still describes you accurately.

This will give you experience in trying to see life through others' eyes, a useful skill for a Dom.

Edited to add: Your profile states that you like humiliation play and mental aspects. That stuff's not safe if the Dom doesn't know what he's doing. What experience/training do you have?

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RE: Seeking a fem sub. - 2/26/2013 8:17:22 AM

DomMeinCT

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As you'll read in many of the threads that discuss it, proper writing counts and reflects on the time you take to write a profile.

sub's head (apostrophe)
I'm
Capitalize place and city names

Share more of the human being you are, and not just the kinky dominant guy.
Someone's going to be spending a lot of time with you, even when you aren't cruel and humiliating....what makes you interesting when you spend non-kink time together?

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RE: Seeking a fem sub. - 2/26/2013 9:23:35 AM

Delilya

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Good luck.

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