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LadyPact -> RE: Unique protocols, rules, and rituals. (2/26/2013 8:18:53 PM)
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A lot of people get confused in the difference between a protocol and a ritual. A protocol is a standard way things are done. That can mean a set of protocols for a type of event, community, or a particular lifestyle. For example, I'm a leather person. When I go to a high protocol leather event, I know who is a senior or junior leather man to Me so that I know who speaks first during introductions, who may have to wait until I'm doing speaking to be acknowledged, where My slave's introduction comes into the exchange, etc.
A ritual is something that is individual to the dynamic. Those are created between the participants and are pretty much open to how people want to express themselves. Some rituals you will find that many people have in common, but they aren't universal. The s-type kneeling when the M-type comes home is something that a number of people have in place. For other folks, especially if there are small kids in the house, that doesn't always work so well, so they may do their greeting ritual in the privacy of their room, rather than first in the door.
I don't do a lot of speech restriction with the exception of higher end events. The most common one that I use would be pointing at the floor of where I want him. Generally, on occasions like that, he doesn't really need to speak until he's been addressed. Of course, we do use hand signals during play if he happens to be gagged and can't verbally respond. If it's a situation where I have told him to kneel because I want his full attention during instruction, that's probably not the time he wants to interrupt, verbally or non.
If you are interested in various physical positions, I'd really encourage you to go with books. Many have diagrams or pictures that you can see, rather than trying to describe them on a message board.
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