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RE: First Meetings - 3/1/2013 10:15:34 AM

TheLilSquaw

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ORIGINAL: hollycheer91

I love the mini-vacation idea! I never thought of that before... I wasn't up for the domination immediatly because I want to be sure the trust is in place first, and that is never clear, no matter how long you have talked online or over the phone, until after you have met and interacted (non-sexually) in person. I just didn't want to feel guilty if it should be expected. I know that is truly just dom specific because it would be between he and I, which has yet to be discussed but it is more just in the thought process for now. But I just wanted some opinions on what would be appropriate before moving forward. I do love the idea of meeting somewhere both of us want to go, so that way there are no hidden expectations and you go on your own if you want :D thanks all!

For ME the mini-vacation planning takes the a lot of pressure off in regards to the meeting because the reality is I will enjoy my time regardless of how things work out with the person I am meeting.

That is why I say have HONEST conversation and lay it all on the table. Make it clear that you are NOT looking for play or an immediate d/s dynamic. If you say that up front and he STILL expects it, well that tells you a lot about him and may tell you what your next move is.

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RE: First Meetings - 3/1/2013 1:01:21 PM

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My first advice is have him come to you instead.
If that isn't possible, then make it clear you want the usual one hour meeting in a public place and if there is chemistry you may meet the next day for lunch or dinner. Take it slowly and make it part of a holiday. I don't think I would see someone so far away as it's riskier but hope it works out for you.

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RE: First Meetings - 3/1/2013 1:27:57 PM

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The lil one was all about the mini vacation. Every time she met someone pre-me (And including when she met me the first time) she went with exactly that idea. She figured it would get her out of her no horse town and some place fun. And if she met a decent guy, so much the better.
Took all the pressure and risk off of her.

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