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RE: A very specific interest - 3/3/2013 11:29:37 PM   
seekingreality


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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

Haggis is neither as exciting or as gross as people think. It's just a variation on a sausage or a blood pudding. There's lots of dishes that use animal internal organs and many are a delicacy. Besides, y'all have probably had worse if you've ever eaten cheap hot dogs.

I don't particularly care for it, but I don't object to the idea like a lot of people - if we're gonna kill an animal for food, may as well use up as much of it as possible.


I had haggis when I was in Edinborough. Didn't make much of an impression on me, good or bad.

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/3/2013 11:50:46 PM   
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Hi all.

I was just wondering what your opinions would be on my very particular fetish, I guess we can call it that. Such as would this be able to pull off, would you actually take pleasure if you took part in this, questions, comments to let me know how much of a jackass I am...etc.

Basically, I would put this in the feminization category, but its a little more complex.


You're 19, so I'll be gentle.

-- You think your fetish is unique and complex. It's not -- it's a common fantasy. You've just developed a very elaborate script for it. Because you've developed a specific script, you think you have some amazingly unique, but it's just a slight variation on a common theme.

-- By and large, very few women are going to be interested in fulfilling your scripted fantasy. At least they won't be interested until they know and like you. So don't think your kink is some amazing calling call that will get attention by itself. It won't.

-- It's obvious from your post here and your profile that you are all about you. The notion that you are "the best sub" and "submissive naturally" (as you say in your profile) is laughable, so you'd do well to rewrite your profile. What you are is simply a horny teenager who wants a woman to get you off on your terms.

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 12:05:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Very nice reply, so2. I'm just going to add a touch more.

OP, there are some folks out there who are into feminization or gender fluid folks. I don't happen to be one of them. As Harry said, I don't see this particular fetish evening out in the lifestyle community. Way more people with boy parts wanting this than those that come with girl parts.

What you have to do is stop being about a fetish and be a person. Some people will be willing to engage in this with you if you court them as a woman and not a fetish provider. I know some who have accepted this particular kink because the *person* who was interested in it was worth it. (I'd be remiss here if I didn't point out that some chicks really like it and it's not something they just do because of a relationship.)

Otherwise, yes. There are a number of pro dommes who cater to this fetish. There is a great market for it due to basic supply and demand. In other words, lots of guys like you who want to be feminized in some way and no where near an equal number of women who get off on it.




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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 9:50:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks all for your feedback and while I realize that yes feminization is common, I am looking more for the woman to treat me as a lesbian lover i.e. not a slave who must do her every command. I really should gave elaborated on that a lot more, but I digress. It's really hard to explain over just typing, I'm a lot better at communicating over spoken words.

And for people saying I'm all about me, I'm not or else I would be a Dom. I get off when other people get turned on. I like pleasing. I realize I sound cocky in my profile and that's intentional, if I truly believe I'll be the best at serving someone, then why shouldn't I express that? I don't see any other subs with something like that, and I've got dozens of messeges already. But thank you for your time and feedback, everyone mostly helped me out, expect those people talking about haggis haha.

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 10:01:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FootballPlaya
Thanks all for your feedback and while I realize that yes feminization is common, I am looking more for the woman to treat me as a lesbian lover i.e. not a slave who must do her every command.


What you seek is still common. You keep trying to convince yourself that you've come up with a unique fantasy, but it's not.

The one thing that I've learned is that it's pretty hard to come up with an idea that nobody else has thought of before. And when it comes to sex and BDSM, it's particularly hard to come up with new ideas because so many people think about sex. The human body can only do a limited number of things, and most of them have already been done.

But good luck finding someone to turn you into their feminized lesbian lover.


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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 11:09:10 AM   
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as common as those that love haggis!!

WTF is haggis??



Traditional scottish meal made of sheep entrails & oatmeal stuffed inside the stomach & boiled for hours grody stuff!!

OMFG!!!! I'm kind of sorry I asked!!!


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Bleh!

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 12:27:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		So common, I'm surprised the OP thinks it's unusual to be honest. Unfortunately I have to agree with a number of the other posters on here, finding someone to actually make this fetish come true for you is going to be very difficult outside of the professional arena. Like Catchy has already said, wigs, clothes, make up all cost money and are not likely to be things that non pro Domme's keep in their toy box I'm afraid.

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 1:01:34 PM   
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And for people saying I'm all about me, I'm not or else I would be a Dom. I get off when other people get turned on. I like pleasing.


Here's a word-of-the-day for you - Do Me Sub. I'm not saying YOU are one, but apparently that's the impression you are giving to some posters in this thread, so beware that you give that impression to your target audience.

Actually, that phrase should probably be Do Me Bottom, as having a whole scripted fantasy is not particularly submissive. Are you clear on the differences between bottoming and submitting?

Since your profile mentions that you are mostly interested in online, can I assume your experience has been mostly online? There are...let's call them cultural differences between online and offline practices.

Before I make assumptions about what you mean by pleasing, perhaps you would elaborate on this.

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 2:05:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		A sub can have their limits too, and dream of what they want! Ill gladly serve anyone and do as I'm told, I'm so sorry if I offeneded anyone! It's not like a put a craigslist ad up on here asking "19 m sub lf domme that will only do my fantasy" I was just simply asking a question. Im so sorry to everyone!!

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 2:13:05 PM   
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What you have to do is stop being about a fetish and be a person.


There are some stickies at the top of the Ask a Mistress forum you might find helpful in your search, OP.

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 2:21:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FootballPlaya

Thanks all for your feedback and while I realize that yes feminization is common, I am looking more for the woman to treat me as a lesbian lover i.e. not a slave who must do her every command.



Now it sounds like you're a confused transexual. I say confused because what you want is to become a woman, but you want someone else to make you do it instead of transitioning on your own. That's incredibly unhealthy.

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 3:42:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FootballPlaya


I would pretty much want the Mistress to look at me as a girl, not a guy in girls clothes, and treat me like a girl. And would love to do my makeup, pick my clothes, teach me how to act like a girl.



You want to be seen as a girl? Here's what i do, as a girl.

I like to wear my hair in a ponytail. I don't like to fuss too much with elaborate hairdo's
Makeup.. well i hardly wear any, i don't think it's mandatory. At most a something to hide an occasional blemish and a little mascara. You're welcome to use my makeup advice freely ;)
I use to wear jeans mostly, and sports shoes. Then a snug t-shirt, sometimes a shirt, or a sweater.

Ok, so we now have makeup, girl clothes, and now to teach how to act like a girl!

Most of the time i'm polite, unless i get pissed off, and say too much. Sometimes i'm angry. Sometimes i'm sad. Most of the time i'm pretty happy and confident about myself, and i try to be helpful whenever i can.
So that's how a girl could act, imo.

So in other words... all pretty regular human being stuff. Because that's what girls and women are, just other humans.

The vagina doesn't make you wear heels and act stupid, nor does a cock mean you have to watch football on Sundays.

Wanting to be objectified into a generic female image you have made up doesn't really make you appealing to the real women out there. Just saying.

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 6:44:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		^^I dont want to be full time female nor do I want to be a trans. See, not such a simple fetish now.

And Kidnap Princess I would like to be taught how to be a girly slutty girl, Im not saying all girls all sluts, its just what I want!:)

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 7:40:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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And for people saying I'm all about me, I'm not or else I would be a Dom. I get off when other people get turned on. I like pleasing.


Here's a word-of-the-day for you - Do Me Sub. I'm not saying YOU are one, but apparently that's the impression you are giving to some posters in this thread, so beware that you give that impression to your target audience.

Before I make assumptions about what you mean by pleasing, perhaps you would elaborate on this.

OH PLEASE (insert dramatic eye roll) "pleasing" means HE believes he's great at oral...much like every "lesbian with a penis" you meet (usually in a bar or club)

Do-me bottom I would call accurate as "online experience" is normally obtained on porn-hub

To quote the OP...EXPECT haggis

Oh & as a Domme, the last thing do is "please my sub" I do what I want & what enjoy...if they happen to like it bonus, if they don't & its within limits...tough titty!! Their dick & elaborate fantasy life are my last concern. Usually first thing do with new sub is go through their porn collection & discard the unrealistic fantasy stuff

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 7:54:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FootballPlaya

......, and I've got dozens of messages already........... .



Please return and let us know what percentage are willing to actually meet you. Are, in person, what they represented themselves to be, online. Didn't want money to play.



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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 7:59:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FootballPlaya

^^I dont want to be full time female nor do I want to be a trans. See, not such a simple fetish now.

And Kidnap Princess I would like to be taught how to be a girly slutty girl, Im not saying all girls all sluts, its just what I want!:)



We call it the "One-trick-pony" regardless of the fetish. Your's just happens to be feminization. Wanting to be treated like a lesbian girlfriend is not at all unusual.

What happens after two or three sessions and it all becomes tiresome? What do you offer in an overall relationship with a woman? Who are you beyond this one fetish that seems to be all you can talk about?

What else do you bring to the table than a well trod single threaded totally self focused fetish that would attract a potential Lady into even engaging with you, let alone ever considering indulging your fetish? What's in it for Her?


Come on man, give this more thought than that!

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 8:10:31 PM   
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......, and I've got dozens of messages already........... .



Please return and let us know what percentage are willing to actually meet you. Are, in person, what they represented themselves to be, online. Didn't want money to play.



And are actually women when you meet them face to face (no online pictures or skype)

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RE: A very specific interest - 3/4/2013 11:44:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FootballPlaya

^^I dont want to be full time female nor do I want to be a trans. See, not such a simple fetish now.

And Kidnap Princess I would like to be taught how to be a girly slutty girl, Im not saying all girls all sluts, its just what I want!:)
Actually, it is a simple fetish. It can be found rather commonly among those who feel that being feminine in some way releases them of the 'manly' control and/or resisting when being told to perform certain sexual acts. Don't equate that to the person not really *wanting* to do them. It can also be a case of they want to feel overpowered or forced to do things that they conceptualize are more commonly done by females. While it may not be part of the gig for you, the theme often is held by those who are interested in strap-on play. Particularly those who have conflicts with the 'real men don't like anal play' hogwash.

Wanting to be treated as female and therefore the stereotypical 'weaker' gender can alleviate certain societal norms for some folks. It relieves guilt for some folks from any of those areas where their kinks aren't generally associated with the male role.

Now, you can determine if I've seen that often enough to be able to explain *why* it's so common or if I just pulled it out of My ass to explain your 'rare' fetish.



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RE: A very specific interest - 3/5/2013 1:36:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: FootballPlaya
^^I dont want to be full time female nor do I want to be a trans. See, not such a simple fetish now.
*Yawn* *Off to find something funny I can laugh at* M


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RE: A very specific interest - 3/5/2013 2:33:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		You might want to pay more attention to what the fem dommes on here are telling you, oh subbie one.

What you describe below is probably the single most common fantasy among male 'subs' looking to get their fetishes satisfied. If you want to believe it's all special, there's nothing *I* can say to stop you. But I venture that a few years from now when you've had much more experience, you'll look back at this thread and cringe.


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ORIGINAL: FootballPlaya

^^I dont want to be full time female nor do I want to be a trans. See, not such a simple fetish now.

And Kidnap Princess I would like to be taught how to be a girly slutty girl, Im not saying all girls all sluts, its just what I want!:)



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