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RE: Topping from the bottom? How much do you tolerate ... - 3/13/2013 4:35:26 PM

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I agree with you, clip. It's the same in this household.

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RE: Topping from the bottom? How much do you tolerate ... - 3/14/2013 5:27:50 PM

HarryVanWinkle

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Actual topping from the bottom? None.

In My world, a person can ask, request, discuss, etc, etc. Those don't bother Me.

What one must always remember is that I am the final authority. What I will do and will not do will always be up to Me. No more. No less.

Bravo. I've gotten to the point where I despise the very term, "topping from the bottom."

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RE: Topping from the bottom? How much do you tolerate ... - 3/14/2013 10:11:43 PM

NiceButMeanGirl

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A sub/slave can try to TFTB, but can't actually do it unless the Dom/me lets him/her. Also, I think that phrase can be overused. AND not everyone uses the same definition for that phrase, so how meaningful is it anyway?

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RE: Topping from the bottom? How much do you tolerate ... - 3/15/2013 9:28:15 AM

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Thank you for reading and any answers you give!

I'm one of those people who believes more in "bottoming from the top" than "topping from the bottom". If what you're trying to ask is "How much covert manipulation would I accept from my partner" the answer is "some in the right circumstances".

"None" is a bit extreme to me since all humans do this to one degree or another.

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RE: Topping from the bottom? How much do you tolerate ... - 3/15/2013 11:30:50 AM

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Yes but it insults Me. It makes Me feel that the sub feels I'm dumb enough to manipulate Me into doing things. That's a no no.

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RE: Topping from the bottom? How much do you tolerate ... - 3/19/2013 4:43:40 PM

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Hello,

I think you hit the nail on the head when you said, "I guess this question stems from my insecurities as being labeled a "fraud," or not a realsub or bottom. That is sort of why I haven't been to clubs yet. My version if BDSM is a 50/50 two-way street (which others might not agree with, and that's ok with me). But I know in my heart that I have strong sub tendencies. And I truly want to be caught up in the moment and not stop a scene to give directions. Also, I want to encounter sub-space."

A real power exchange is 50/50 and that is the right attitude! Being submissive is a lifestyle and not something you turn off and on. The truth is that if you get an experienced FemDom she can give you the power exchange you are actually seeking. Then not only will you not be topping, you will actually feel perfectly submissive for the first time in your life. When you have to stop to explain it to a vanilla that is probably why you keep feeling like you must top. With a true Dominant you will only be negotiating and then you will not feel like topping after that since hopefully you will have played a few times and established real trust.

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