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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

You admit to mistreating other kids. How is that not bullying? You boast of hazing without acknowledging that it is forbidden in any school I know of. You claim that requiring them to accept physical abuse and humiliation is just clean fun. It isn't.

And I challenge your perception that you were protecting these younger kids. You were protecting them from others in order to abuse them yourself.

That's not an alpha male behavior. It's an expression of insecurity. You would not have felt driven to do this if you were truly confident.

And you are invested in not seeing this behavior from an adult and moral point of view. That also screams insecurity.

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ORIGINAL: Poloboi234

wow...I'm kind of shocked but I can't fault any of the thoughts on me or myself.

I guess you all are right.. I was kind of a bully( not really), if that's how you take it. It's an Alpha Male thing. I guess it's more a "kink" than it is about a relationship. I guess those of you in here are here for a huge emotional lifestyle and "need" this dynamic. I guess I don't.. So if I'm just "playing" with the people involved and they ask me to, then I guess, I'm an asshole? haha

I guess I should get paid like the "whores" on craigslist just to have fun? I don't know.. I didn't think it was that big of a deal but I digress. Maybe I will lay off this scene and really investigate if this is something I want, or just a "phase" as for many of you it is not, but it is mainly a "true" life I take it. No disrespect.. just thought what I wanted or was doing was okay, I guess it's not.

This is the reason I only take on, or mess with straight males with the same type of agenda, as they aren't "emotionally" attached. It's a Kink.. thanks for clarifying.. no worries..

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

I guess I'm just missing the actual question here.

You're straght but top naked guys. You want women pampered by your sub...but have a male sub? I'm all for fluid in relationships but all I am seeing is a big puddle!

For someone with a question there seems to be a GREAT deal of detail about who fucks whom, what others get off on & details details details. My instinct is geeze frat boy outta the closet already!! The reality seems closer to...hey can anyone help me iron out flaws in my porn script?

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ORIGINAL: Poloboi234

I guess for me the lifestyle is way more than just about "sex" and that is why I would rather have a male sub than a female one. (with the other reasons) it's a mental game for me, and if this is theraputic for my sub, even better for us both. I understand those of your needs to "defend" the integrity of the lifestyle, but if what I was doing or into wasn't "good" wouldn't get the overwhelming response to be a "dom" to many different types of people, female and male. Some of us aren't looking for a relationship that is intertwined into our "personal life" or a 24/7 type of situation, Some of us like the actual "relationship" that is what I like. The power dynamic, someone called it being a "bully" I refute as being a "bully" is subjective and anything done to a sub, for punishment, or taken to far, or being belittled is considered "bullying", shoot, a lot of subs want the 'dom' to act and be a "bully", like refusing when they say "stop" or knowing how far to go... I understand those thoughts on my motives, or that I must be "weird" (says the people that are into way more kinkier, or freakier, or scarier fetishes than I) but it isn't like that.

I told you, I am intrigued by human sexuality, gay or straight isn't what intrigues me. I more intrigued with what makes a person "climax" why they would want a "master" or desire to be a "sub" or why one desires to be a "master" also the fact that you can alter or change what makes someone "horny" or create something that "changes" there own views on the issue. That is what I am into.

I don't have sex with any of my slaves, Male or female. I don't think it's good, or in good taste (no disrespect if you're in a committed relationship), i'm just not that type of person, but that doesn't mean that i won't help them climax or orgasm, or help them get to there "sub space" or "fantasy". I'm intrigued in that "mental" aspect of it. Hence, why Straight subs get my mind. The fact that a mistress or a male dom, can get a straight sub, to release or relinquish there "man hood" or societal norms for the "love" of someone else is very interesting and admirable.. I may not get more into the lifestyle or not even get much "deeper" than I have been. But this is a "kink" for me. But getting off is the last thing that I think about, it's more about the person involved, why they pursued this life style, and mentally what it is that get's them "there". hence why I interview all my "subs" there wants, desires, and past pains in school, family dynamic etc.. I want to tailor a program for there benefit... So that is all. Any objects or thoughts on my process or views would be greatly anticipated... thanks for all those who responded, like LadyPact, FFS, etc.. no hard feelings, but I love the feedback and I am intrigued by this lifestyle, though I don't know if I could live it as long or as hard as some of you. I do admire you all for it.

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ORIGINAL: Poloboi234

sexyred- how am I not into BDSM?

and the question was, "Is it strange or weird to be a dominate to straight male subs, or masculine subs and not desire sex at all?" as I guess my "kink" is power.

I guess I feel the ultimate power is "power" over another male. Think of two stags fighting over a female, one is beaten down and submits to the other stags will, and that stag get's the female. That is my dynamic.

I'm not into sex at all, and I was wondering if that is strange? pretty much "power" is the afrodesiac for me. I also do BDSM for my "subs' in the fact I guess I do act like a mistress in the control department, but if anything "sexual" is needed I will find a suitable, mate, person, or whatever (clean, tested, known) to better get them to there "sub space" them. As what intrigues me is the "power" involved and also what makes them "tick" or climax. etc...
Reason it being a male and not a female? I don't find power in dominating a woman as it is pretty easy to do if you're a male. Also I was raised in "chilivary" and I don't like seeing a woman "tied, or gagged, etc.." I guess I view it the way a sub would view a "mistress" as they should be taken care of like a "flower".

I guess I'm more into the Cuckold scene (dynamic rules) but I like being a Bull that controls and belittles the "cuck/sub" if you don't get it. But for a lot of you this is a sexual relationship, for me and as I've found from this post (personal emails) it isn't for them either. Some people just get off on the "role play".

I don't get what is so hard for some people to understand? (now I'm defending my stance, oy vey) some people are into the "power" some people are into "touch" some people find it feels more powerful to dominate another "male" or "female" of the same sex, that just making them do things if the "kink" or whatever.. that is what I am about.. It isn't sexual, so all this talk of being bi, or gay etc... it's irrelevant (nothing wrong with it, don't mind it, just can't get hard to it, unless the person is being forced to do something, or eat something, etc.. power) that's all it is to me..

Well answer back Sexyred and others.. telling me I'm a headcase (says some of the people, who need to be tied, whipped, and berated, or tortured to climax.., but I'm nuts cuz I just like to feel powerful with another man being a sub to me, as I am plowing a woman... but I digress... haha to each his own...) no hard feelings, I respect everyone, and I admire those who can do the 24/7 or have found a "true" connection within all of this..

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ORIGINAL: TieMeInKnottss
Yes you are strange and yes, what you want is unreasonable. You keep asking the same question so you must just want someone to agree with you...(shrug)...I don't mind helping you out.