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RE: Am I paranoid or is this really a problem? - 3/13/2013 10:27:49 AM

OsideGirl

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I'm skeptical of "protection" because that seems to be the way I've mostly seen it applied. Kind of like "training."

I pretty much think that "protection" is a bullshit term. At best, I think it should be applied to mentor relationships, which this clearly isn't one.

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RE: Am I paranoid or is this really a problem? - 3/13/2013 12:38:44 PM

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I pretty much think that "protection" is a bullshit term. At best, I think it should be applied to mentor relationships, which this clearly isn't one.

The funny thing is just yesterday I have taken some damaged slave under my wing... a little. But I don't think of it as "protection" and I sure as hell don't want a title like that added to it and I'm very definitely not in a relationship with this woman.. sexual or emotional. I just thought of it as "being a good guy and trying to help out".

On the other hand, I kind of like MY protectors. Poise and Athena do a fine job if you ask me *laughs*

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RE: Am I paranoid or is this really a problem? - 3/13/2013 6:37:24 PM

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If he doesn't spend any time with you when you are home, why bother to be there. I'd move on myself.

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RE: Am I paranoid or is this really a problem? - 3/13/2013 7:01:40 PM

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I'm confused. You two live together, you were collared, then he basically dumped you...aka...removed your collar and now you're just "under his protection"...eeerrr...huh???

Are you two in a romantic relationship? If so this is a very very strange way to show it. It sounds to me like he's grown weary of you and this was his way of not having to get rid of you because well....you're still someone who has usefulness in other ways...sex, food, cleaning, ironing, money, etc....but here's the thing...you love him but I doubt he loves you either at all or not in the same way. If he does, he sure has a funny way of showing it.

In the end though, if you're unhappy and you've told him and you still can't come to an mutual agreement then it's time to leave or stay and be miserable.

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RE: Am I paranoid or is this really a problem? - 3/14/2013 7:58:38 AM

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Only from what I've read and my understanding on the little information, it sounds to me as though you are much more invested into the relationship than he is. It sounds like you want more than what he has and what he's willing to offer. It doesn't sound like a monogamous relationship to me and that he views it more as casual. If that's the case, I can understand why he has his "hobby".
If you already have trust issues, being with someone who chats on dating sites isn't going to help you any.
Regardless of my understanding of the situation, if you're not happy then your needs are probably not being met.

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