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ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake

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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

I did this once a long, long time ago. (She) was MistressCruelNEvil, or something like that. It was a killer profile, one that would definitely appeal to the fantasies of a masoguy like me, even without a picture. (She) gave a very detailed description of just what kind of man (she) was looking for and very explicit and detailed directions as to the introductory letter they were to write. In the first 24 hours, (she) got a couple of hundred responses. Of them, precisely two matched what (she) said she was looking for and followed the instructions. I sent those two polite notes thanking them but turning them down, then deleted that profile because I felt guilty as hell about wasting the time and effort that those two put to responding to a fraud.

Since then, the only times I write to women on CM are: to answer their emails to me (It's rare, but it happens), to say something in response to something they've posted that I think would be better said privately, when I recognize them as people I've actually met in the r/t BDSM community, to offer some advice concerning their profiles (also very rare) and when they seem like people I'd like to meet and actually live close enough that meeting them very soon is doable. I've made several playmates that way.

Lately, I've given brief thought of reviving MistressCruelNEvil, with a paypal account, as a 21 year old "findomme", with pictures stolen from some other site that doesn't use English. I could sure as hell use the money and I'd bet I could do it much better than most on the other side, but I just can't seem to talk myself into deliberately committing fraud.

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ORIGINAL: WithBellsOn

If you want some insight into why all of these women are writing stuff like that in their profiles, just make a female profile yourself. See what kind of messages you get.

Data says : 1%.

A gal could get jaded.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake

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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

I did this once a long, long time ago. (She) was MistressCruelNEvil, or something like that. It was a killer profile, one that would definitely appeal to the fantasies of a masoguy like me, even without a picture. (She) gave a very detailed description of just what kind of man (she) was looking for and very explicit and detailed directions as to the introductory letter they were to write. In the first 24 hours, (she) got a couple of hundred responses. Of them, precisely two matched what (she) said she was looking for and followed the instructions. I sent those two polite notes thanking them but turning them down, then deleted that profile because I felt guilty as hell about wasting the time and effort that those two put to responding to a fraud.

Since then, the only times I write to women on CM are: to answer their emails to me (It's rare, but it happens), to say something in response to something they've posted that I think would be better said privately, when I recognize them as people I've actually met in the r/t BDSM community, to offer some advice concerning their profiles (also very rare) and when they seem like people I'd like to meet and actually live close enough that meeting them very soon is doable. I've made several playmates that way.

Lately, I've given brief thought of reviving MistressCruelNEvil, with a paypal account, as a 21 year old "findomme", with pictures stolen from some other site that doesn't use English. I could sure as hell use the money and I'd bet I could do it much better than most on the other side, but I just can't seem to talk myself into deliberately committing fraud.

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ORIGINAL: WithBellsOn

If you want some insight into why all of these women are writing stuff like that in their profiles, just make a female profile yourself. See what kind of messages you get.

Data says : 1%.

A gal could get jaded.

I have a friend that is currently looking on the other side. She was very specific about orientation, relationship status, age and location. She was deliberately vague on what her ideal D/s relationship is because experience has taught her that asking them that question first has better results.

It's amazing how many people ignore what she wants.

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ORIGINAL: stebbinsd

Yeah, of course they're not my submissive.

But then again, if you're not going to actually put forth any effort in finding a soulmate, why are you even here?

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ORIGINAL: stebbinsd

I just read a profile that says this:

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I'm not the easiest sub to lay down and roll over. I have walls. And if you don't approach me the correct way you won't be spoken to.

The problem is that... she doesn't actually give us any details. She doesn't tell us anything about herself, so she expects us to just read her mind and just magically know what makes her tick, and to just magically know how to go about getting through these alleged "walls."

Oh no, why should I have to lift a finger?! Shouldn't my soulmate come to me, on a silver fucking platter?

The reason I'm making a thread and bitching about this is because... this isn't just one profile. I don't limit my search results very restrictively, so I see just about every female slave that has been online recently, save for those who are older than me, and this site is littered with profiles that give cryptic shit like this... or better still, aren't even filled-out at all.

Am I overreacting, or am I justified in being frustrated about this?

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ORIGINAL: stebbinsd

I just read a profile that says this:

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I'm not the easiest sub to lay down and roll over. I have walls. And if you don't approach me the correct way you won't be spoken to.

The problem is that... she doesn't actually give us any details. She doesn't tell us anything about herself, so she expects us to just read her mind and just magically know what makes her tick, and to just magically know how to go about getting through these alleged "walls."

Oh no, why should I have to lift a finger?! Shouldn't my soulmate come to me, on a silver fucking platter?

The reason I'm making a thread and bitching about this is because... this isn't just one profile. I don't limit my search results very restrictively, so I see just about every female slave that has been online recently, save for those who are older than me, and this site is littered with profiles that give cryptic shit like this... or better still, aren't even filled-out at all.

Am I overreacting, or am I justified in being frustrated about this?

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

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ORIGINAL: stebbinsd

I just read a profile that says this:

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I'm not the easiest sub to lay down and roll over. I have walls. And if you don't approach me the correct way you won't be spoken to.

The problem is that... she doesn't actually give us any details. She doesn't tell us anything about herself, so she expects us to just read her mind and just magically know what makes her tick, and to just magically know how to go about getting through these alleged "walls."

Oh no, why should I have to lift a finger?! Shouldn't my soulmate come to me, on a silver fucking platter?

The reason I'm making a thread and bitching about this is because... this isn't just one profile. I don't limit my search results very restrictively, so I see just about every female slave that has been online recently, save for those who are older than me, and this site is littered with profiles that give cryptic shit like this... or better still, aren't even filled-out at all.

Am I overreacting, or am I justified in being frustrated about this?

I wouldn't say you aren't justified but I would say you are overreacting. Why be frustrated? So she's not your type. Just click on the "next profile" button. No big deal.

The women you see like this are usually the ones who are jaded, bitter and still angry over a past relationship. Would you really wanna be in their life? I personally wouldn't want to so I just don't give them another thought. Instead of riling yourself up over this and getting frustrated about it, why not just shrug your shoulders and move on? I personally would also find a person like you to be about the same as the way you feel about the women you are complaining about. You're just as bad as they are as far as I would be concerned.

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ORIGINAL: TwoHeartsBeatOne

This is easy, really. Don't focus on reading people's minds, rather; Mind your manners.

Approach others, knowing they are your equals, until such time as an individual proves themselves to be superior, or inferior, to you. Then, adjust accordingly. That's for vanilla or BDSM interactions.

For instance, in your OP, you show a lack of refinement and reveal either ignorance of, or disdain for, decorum. Lots of people are reading what you write - why be crass towards them?

So my view:

1) Eliminate all confusion regarding how to approach anyone by using good manners.

2) Show friendly respect and exhibit solid self-esteem by using good manners.

3) Raise standards for social interaction by using good manners.

If you do these things, you may find the seed of a friendship. As the friendship grows, you will learn about the 99.999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of things that an internet profile doesn't address.

Best of luck to you.

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC


I try to avoid getting frustrated at the profiles of random strangers.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
Me too. Although, I do frequently point and laugh.

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If it is the profile I think it is (I googled his quote), she is also 21, blonde, thin, and pretty. I can only imagine what ends up in HER inbox.

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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
Me too. Although, I do frequently point and laugh.

Yeah, but for me that's mostly the "true slaves" and "true masters". My reaction to the "get the fuck away from me crowd" is to happily comply.