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RE: Am I justified for being pissed off about this? - 3/15/2013 1:09:50 AM

MadamAsianDom

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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

I did this once a long, long time ago. (She) was MistressCruelNEvil, or something like that. It was a killer profile, one that would definitely appeal to the fantasies of a masoguy like me, even without a picture. (She) gave a very detailed description of just what kind of man (she) was looking for and very explicit and detailed directions as to the introductory letter they were to write. In the first 24 hours, (she) got a couple of hundred responses. Of them, precisely two matched what (she) said she was looking for and followed the instructions. I sent those two polite notes thanking them but turning them down, then deleted that profile because I felt guilty as hell about wasting the time and effort that those two put to responding to a fraud.

^^^^ This. Especially the portion in bold-face font. It gets tedious getting so many notes and clearly they did not take the time to read your profile (even though the vast majority of them tell you that they did, it's obvious from their note that they didn't).

Re the OP's questions (title and within the post itself):

My opinion - if you're going to let that profile frustrate you, or cause you to overreact like you are showing here, then you most likely find yourself getting frustrated and having this type of reaction on a regular basis.

Also my opinion, in regards to what you quoted, to me that reads like someone who is telling people, "if you approach me in a rude manner, I won't bother replying to you". And that is, in my opinion, very reasonable.

If you can't be bothered to send a nice polite note, and get to know the person behind the profile, click off of her profile and onto the next one. Not everyone is going to post their entire life history for you, complete with detailed diagrams, so that you don't have to put forth the effort of getting to know them.

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RE: Am I justified for being pissed off about this? - 3/19/2013 1:05:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle

That was my take on this as well.. 23 YO Boy, tries to talk to 21 YO hot blondie, and basically got shot down... So.. Grow up.. move on and find someone who IS interested in you.

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If it is the profile I think it is (I googled his quote), she is also 21, blonde, thin, and pretty. I can only imagine what ends up in HER inbox.

Wow. I didn't know that was possible. From her pictures, my guess is that what he's really upset about is the fact that he's not welcome in her in-out-in-out box.

And, I'll bet he didn't say "blue hippos" in the letter he wrote her.

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RE: Am I justified for being pissed off about this? - 3/20/2013 12:12:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: stebbinsd

Yeah, of course they're not my submissive.

But then again, if you're not going to actually put forth any effort in finding a soulmate, why are you even here?

1. Why do you assume everyone here wants "a soulmate"?

2. Why do you assume they are not putting forth "any effort" simply because they don't write their profiles in the way you would like them to?

3. Why do you assume their approach is not achieving the results they seek? And if they are achieving the results they seek, why do you think they would care that you are twisting yourself into knots over their profile?

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RE: Am I justified for being pissed off about this? - 3/20/2013 7:21:45 PM

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You get to choose how you react to others. Being frustrated by a stranger's profile is a choice.

That said, I know people who intentionally keep their profiles vague, because listing out details invites people to use/quote everything that's listed as something they're looking for. In other words, writing out details in my profile gives you a script from which to try to spark my interest. My thought is, let's just get to know each other, and discover together whether or not there's a common interest.

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RE: Am I justified for being pissed off about this? - 3/20/2013 7:39:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: WithBellsOn

If you want some insight into why all of these women are writing stuff like that in their profiles, just make a female profile yourself. See what kind of messages you get.

Yeppers, in fact I think ALL males should do this, to TRULY understand what it's like to be on the receiving end of males' BS. It's just as bad on video game networks.

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RE: Am I justified for being pissed off about this? - 3/21/2013 6:04:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS

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ORIGINAL: WithBellsOn

If you want some insight into why all of these women are writing stuff like that in their profiles, just make a female profile yourself. See what kind of messages you get.

Yeppers, in fact I think ALL males should do this, to TRULY understand what it's like to be on the receiving end of males' BS. It's just as bad on video game networks.

Except then we'd have even more guys complaining that all the female profiles were fake... and they'd sort of be right at that point.

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RE: Am I justified for being pissed off about this? - 3/21/2013 6:06:40 PM

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Am I overreacting, or am I justified in being frustrated about this?

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I'm not the easiest sub to lay down and roll over. (Meaning - I am easy, I want to lay down and roll over.) I have walls. (Meaning - I live in a dorm room with my stuffed animals and my geek roommate) And if you don't approach me the correct way you won't be spoken to. (Meaning - Please approach me in what I will arbitrarily decide is the wrong way so I can reject you from my keyboard and go back to eating my ice cream dinner.) Now THAT is truly worth over-reacting to AND being totally frustrated - for at least a week or two. The nerve of some people writing stupid stuff online. Where do they get-off not being literate or at least fucking funny. I just finished writing President Obama and both my Senator and my Congressman about this incident - because that ain't right. Something needs to be done on an official level. I hope you don't mind me quoting your name, social security number, cell phone number and home address in my official, online petition to the President to DO something about this.

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RE: Am I justified for being pissed off about this? - 3/22/2013 7:09:31 PM

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Why would she tell you how to approach her? If you have to make a conscious change in your behavior in order to speak to her, then chances are, you just aren't compatible. I fully agree with her. If someone doesn't approach me in a way that I'm comfortable with, we're not going to be friends. If they approach me the way I'd like to be approached, but the approach comes unnaturally to them, we aren't compatible.

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