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Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 12:09:41 PM   
Theservileone


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Status: offline 		Me and my Mistress play chess from time to time and I always win and not to be mean but if you saw her playing you'd think she needs a few lessons I've offered but she's very stubborn one of the things I like about her. The only problem my pride wont allow me to let her win and I don't think it'd be fair to her I think she'd even be upset with me if I let her win.
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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 12:21:59 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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ORIGINAL: Theservileone

Me and my Mistress play chess from time to time and I always win and not to be mean but if you saw her playing you'd think she needs a few lessons I've offered but she's very stubborn one of the things I like about her. The only problem my pride wont allow me to let her win and I don't think it'd be fair to her I think she'd even be upset with me if I let her win.


"Mistress, would you prefer if I let you win, or would that upset you?"

If you already think it would be unfair and upsetting, and she's not got upset about losing, and she still wants to play with you, I'd say why change it? I think if she's stubborn she'd probably rather win on her own merits.

BUT as always this is a problem which can be solved with very simple communication. You must surely have to talk about bigger and more serious issues than this if you are in a Mistress/slave relationship, so it won't be hard.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 12:41:20 PM   
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"Mistress, would you prefer if I let you win, or would that upset you?"

Simple, direct and to the point.

For what it's worth the idea of throwing a competition as a sop to my poor domly ego would be laughable to me.... unless it 's poise and we're talking about parcheesi. That is obviously different.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 12:42:21 PM   
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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 1:33:55 PM   
UllrsIshtar


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I'd smack you silly if you insulted My intelligence by letting Me win.



That... and ask her.

Over the last couple of months I've been learning to play Magic: the Gathering. I sucked in the beginning, not in the least because we have over 11.000 individual cards to learn and consider. I lost for weeks before I got enough to sometimes squeeze out a win.

In that time, I played against male subs, who have years of experience in the game. Sometimes I won, sometimes I lost... but my victories and my losses where my own achievements. And I would have promptly stopped seeing any male sub who'd I suspected was letting me win.
Somebody who has that little faith and respect in me wouldn't be a good match for me.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 2:44:21 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'd smack you silly if you insulted My intelligence by letting Me win.


I so totally agree with this. ^^^

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 3:02:02 PM   
FrostedFlake


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Status: offline 		A fellow once checkmated me in eight moves without even once looking at the board. At that point I had been playing more than ten years. About ten years later I played another man, who had also, like the other fellow, won the Washington state chess championship. I beat him. It was a special occasion. The board and my beer was the entire universe for about half an hour.

I sure am glad no one ever let me win.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 5:00:26 PM   
Kaliko


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Status: offline 		I would be so very insulted if someone "let" me win anything. (Except the lottery.)

I also would consider somebody letting me win to be the equivalent of lying. I wouldn't suggest lying to her.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 5:08:09 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		The Man played against the computer for a while. Although a beginner, he only played at the expert level. His theory is that he would learn better like that. She may feel the same.

You could ask her if she thinks she would progress better if you deliberately made a false move on occasion, and if so, should you try it. If she says no, accept that.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 5:39:05 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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ORIGINAL: Theservileone

Me and my Mistress play chess from time to time and I always win and not to be mean but if you saw her playing you'd think she needs a few lessons I've offered but she's very stubborn one of the things I like about her. The only problem my pride wont allow me to let her win and I don't think it'd be fair to her I think she'd even be upset with me if I let her win.



Although I haven't been a chess player in years, I never LET somebody win and my pride had nothing to do with it. Chess is one of those things that you only get better at by losing. My brother has been avoiding playing the game with me for well over forty years because while I never did beat him, he's known that if he ever plays me again, I'd demolish him. With nearly every intelligent person I've ever played a lot with, if I always won at first, eventually, I never won. They learned all my tricks, while I was learning nothing, and figured out how to beat all my tricks.

I'm not a mistress, don't play one on CM, but if I were and I got the slightest impression you were "letting" me win, I would be PISSED. I hope she gets much joy out of eventually beating the pants off you every time, because she will have EARNED it.

Edited to correct errors.

< Message edited by HarryVanWinkle -- 3/14/2013 5:40:23 PM >

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 5:43:42 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'd smack you silly if you insulted My intelligence by letting Me win.




Bingo! That's why I would NEVER "let" somebody win. Not only would I be insulting your intelligence, but if you ever figured out that I was doing it, how could you ever trust a win over me to be a real win.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 6:11:08 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Theservileone

Me and my Mistress play chess from time to time and I always win and not to be mean but if you saw her playing you'd think she needs a few lessons I've offered but she's very stubborn one of the things I like about her. The only problem my pride wont allow me to let her win and I don't think it'd be fair to her I think she'd even be upset with me if I let her win.



I don't have enough scrabble tiles to form a decent reply.

your turn.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 6:21:45 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't like it if I found out someone let me win anything either. Not only is it an insult to my intelligence, but it's also an insult to my honor to think someone thinks Im such a fragile little flower that my ego cant handle being beaten at a game. ill be honest in saying that I suck at chess, but you'd be doing me no favor by dumbing down your play for me.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/14/2013 8:52:45 PM   
MissToYouRedux


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Status: offline 		My alpha and my pet both feel the same about me and backgammon, and how crazy is it that I've found two men who want to teach me backgammon?

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/15/2013 6:03:10 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		I don't think letting her win would be a good idea. If she doesn't have any issue with things as they are, why do that? She probably knows she's not very good and she would instantly be able to tell if you were throwing a game. She probably just plays for fun and to spend time with you. Letting her win would be insulting.
If you need to, ask her directly, but I doubt it would even be necessary.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/15/2013 11:27:16 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		If someone ever let me win anybgame , ell i wou be very insulted.  iI i am playing a game and i win i want to know i won when they were doing thire best.  If they are not doing their best and not even trying thwn what is hte use of playing/  I want to beat them fair and square.  iI i lose i lose i woll do better next time.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/15/2013 11:37:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I'd smack you silly if you insulted My intelligence by letting Me win.


This x100000

Insulting My intelligence is something I will never tolerate!

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/15/2013 1:36:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Theservileone

Me and my Mistress play chess from time to time and I always win and not to be mean but if you saw her playing you'd think she needs a few lessons I've offered but she's very stubborn one of the things I like about her. The only problem my pride wont allow me to let her win and I don't think it'd be fair to her I think she'd even be upset with me if I let her win.


You've already said that your pride won't allow you to let her win. So the point is moot.

But if you weren't so prideful, I would tell you to let her win, but don't let her know that you let her win. You wouldn't believe how many times this has worked for me.

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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/15/2013 5:25:30 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
You wouldn't believe how many times this has worked for me.

Seriously? I'm glad Carol doesn't lie to me like that. Eventually it'd come out and then I'd have to release her or, if I found it was a frequent thing, divorce her.

I'm kind of not cool with the whole lying thing and I'm the guy who says "Yup, I lie".


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RE: Should I let her win? - 3/15/2013 6:22:01 PM   
LadyPact


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