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Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/master ... - 3/15/2013 7:15:07 PM   
Poloboi234


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Status: offline 		Hello,

I am a straight dom, that is different in the sense I don't mind taking on male subs. I prefer them masculine as the goal is to break them and make them a "sub" for me and any girl that they desire or choose. I just have a dielma as I don't and do not and will not have any sexual relations with my subs...

In the sense of that I won't have sex with them, neither them with me etc... if sex is needed within the context of the relationship I will find someone that is suitable (pre approved by sub, clean, tested, discreet, etc..) as I feel a lot of subs that are Straight or gay, want a male master due to him being an "Alpha Male" ultra masculine man. (as I try to be)

I have on occasion let a sub blow me, but I usually relent on being either very hard up, or usually due to the "cuckold" nature of the play(if a mistress is with us, or a girl). I have found many subs that just want a dominant male to just dominate them and it isn't sexual in nature.

I have many that want to clean my house, be forced to dress up, wear panties, a skirt, etc... and just do what I tell them to do or get punished.

I have some that just want me to spank them for not obeying, or being disobediant.

I have some who lust after me, and the fact that it will "never" happen, is what turns them on to please me and they do anything I want in the thought of trying to "sway" my sexuality, or if they are good little subs, that I will reward them with such a touch.

I have some that just love the fact that a man is belittling them, or making them feel like the "bitch" they are inside, or treating them with contempt and pain as they were in "grade school", some just want to please me, and feel that if I punish them it is deserved.

I just want to know have any of you subs engaged with a straight master like this? is it rare? or common?

I am into dominating "males" due to having played sports and martial arts and it's a "biggest stag" type fantasy or world for me. In the sense of "Alpha Male" who kills the meat, brings home the bacon, and the little boys who don't have to be treated like a "woman" or "servant" to the alpha male.

This is also in the realm for me with such things as Senior to a freshman, or Stronger man to weaker man, and the humiliation and control is what "gets me" and the ability to "fuck" there spouse, or mistress that they desire. In that they "submit" to the will of a stronger, manlier man. Alpha Male to Beta male type stuff..

I ask this as I thought BDSM was at first mainly 'Psychological' which is the reason that I am intrigued by it, and participate in it. I like to "mind fuck" my subs, and keep them whilring and excited in "sub space" not quite knowing what to do next, or begging to just be at my feet, or to watch me nail a girl.

I didn't realize how "sexual" everyone feels it is with accusations of my sexaulity (that I'm gay, bi, etc..) as I stated I have no desire to have sex with any of them, as if their is sex the only turn on I get, is if I have someone come by and "fuck" my slave, whether it's wanted or not wanted. I decide it. It can be a woman with a strap-on or another male (depending on his limits) and the "power" of controlling his orgasm, or his ablity to fuck is the ultimate humilation.

We'll that's it in a nut shell. I ask you subs, have any of you desired this? have you heard of masters like this? and what would you do if you had a master and no sex was involved with the actual master?

We'll let me know... (I guess this could be considered more extreme cuckolding, but i digress)
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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/15/2013 8:19:11 PM   
LillyBoPeep


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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/15/2013 8:24:44 PM   
RemoteUser


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Poloboi234

We'll let me know...


We will let me know? This sounds like a gang war of personalities in the mind of a schizophrenic.

As to the rest...domination is domination, it is not mutually inclusive with sexuality. If spanking another man gives you dopamine, enjoy. If it gives you a woody, maybe you need to re-evaluate your self view of being straight. No matter how it floats your boat, it isn't wrong, so go with it.



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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/15/2013 8:30:02 PM   
MadamAsianDom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

Haven't you written this before?


That's what I was thinking.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/15/2013 8:33:35 PM   
poise


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Poloboi234
I just have a dielma as I don't and do not and will not have any sexual relations with my subs...

I have on occasion let a sub blow me.

Ok then. Seems you are a little confused here, but let's get to the heart of the matter, shall we?
The problem you seem to be having here on the forum is, you seem to think you are a special
little snowflake, and that what you want in your relationship is off the charts special and unique,
and by gosh, someone ought to at least give you a gold plaque to put on your desk in honor of
your specialness.. But the truth is, you aren't really special in wanting what you want.

As far as not getting the type of response you want, you can chalk that up to your
inability to keep your storyline straight, or even your sexuality "straight".
None of us really care whether you are male, female, gay, straight, or circular.
You are happy, your "slaves" are happy, and all is well with the world.

Carry on.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/15/2013 8:37:41 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		If you are asking if I, as a sub female, require sex from a Dom I am with, the answer is OH HELL YES.

Otherwise, what would be the point?

I would NEVER be with a Dom I was not interested in sexually.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/15/2013 10:35:04 PM   
FrostedFlake


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Status: offline 		Quick poll.

What is this guy on?

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/15/2013 10:46:10 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake
What is this guy on?

My vote? I think he reached into the punchbowl and just grabbed a handful of shit in wrappers and downed them all.


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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/15/2013 11:10:04 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		OP, I think there is only you and Bill Clinton that believes receiving oral sex isn't really sex.


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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/15/2013 11:25:16 PM   
UllrsIshtar


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

OP, I think there is only you and Bill Clinton that believes receiving oral sex isn't really sex.



Except that I don't think Bill REALLY believes that... so we're down to one guy again.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/16/2013 5:03:35 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Yes, I'd need to have a Dominant that I had sex with, or I wouldn't have him in my life. End of story.

OP, I'm not sure what it is with you. There's always a lot of long winded protestation in your postings that all end up sounding exactly the same. You protest a whole lot about not wanting sex with men, yeah, whatever, i'm not so sure about that. Just accept that you do want it and move on with your life. I'm not being flippant, this concept of you clinging to your self label of straight or barely bi or whatever is wishful thinking on your part. Toss it out the window, accept who you are and get on with things. No one gives a shit who does what to your dick, why are you obsessing on it?

As far as the endless ruminating on how much you love bitchily denying others...ok, we get it! You can call it "Psychological Domination" if you want, but you're just acting petulant. You can keep pretending it's some esoteric and lofty form of D/s if that gets you off. Carry on if you must, but please stop with the endless cooing over your reflection in the water, no one cares, and it's getting nauseating.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/16/2013 5:19:59 AM   
TieMeInKnottss


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Status: offline 		To each his own...Me...put me with SexyRed---not just yes but HELL YES!!! I have (as Jeff BC calls it )social doms... In any society there are those who lead and follow. My family is full of doms, I usually am happiest working for doms...none of them are MY Dom though.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/16/2013 6:47:23 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		So you're still trying to convince us that you are not a bully?

Or you're just seeking attention since you've asked this same question about 3 or 4 times on here within the last few weeks. If you haven't figured this out yet, go back and read the threads.

And yes, it's important to me. Nuff said.


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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/16/2013 7:16:55 AM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		I missed the other posts, but my first thought was he is not a dom, but a bully. And definitely bisexual whether he likes it or not. I don't care how "hard up" I may be for sex, as a heterosexual, I won't have a woman go down on me.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/16/2013 7:34:03 AM   
myotherself


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Status: offline 		A 'master' who didn't want sex wouldn't be MY master. I want a relationship, not just the occasional kinky stuff.

Having said that, you say you'd let a male sub blow you if you were hard up or part of a cuckold scene?

Yeah, you're straight...

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/16/2013 8:43:57 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I am with her. I am straight. Not really sure why you don't consider yourself bi under some situations only.
I get power. I get the desire to think you are better than some other person or sex. I totally understand that, but no part of me would ever think of getting some chick to go down on me to prove it.

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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

I missed the other posts, but my first thought was he is not a dom, but a bully. And definitely bisexual whether he likes it or not. I don't care how "hard up" I may be for sex, as a heterosexual, I won't have a woman go down on me.



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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/16/2013 9:14:30 AM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: lizi
but please stop with the endless cooing over your reflection in the water, no one cares, and it's getting nauseating.

*laughs* OK, that was priceless imagery. Thanks.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/16/2013 9:30:38 AM   
SomethingCatchy


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Status: offline 		I've been hard up before. I've been out of my mind with horniness. I never once offered to allow another woman to touch me. In fact, when I attempted to do some bi play for the sake of an ex, I actually cried and ran out of the room because I was so freaked out about another woman touching me sexually.

I am straight. I may fantasize about hurting women and I may watch the occasional porn flick that has a female in it but I will never touch them sexually or allow them to touch me sexually.

You are not straight. You are hetero-flexible by the sound of it. You will only engage in sex with men if you're desperate.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/16/2013 10:05:44 AM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		If all that was important to me was non-sexual service, he would be unnecessary. I can volunteer at the soup kitchen or the library or the hospital or the animal shelter if all I want to do is serve. Charitable organizations are ALWAYS looking for volunteers.

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RE: Is sexual relations important to you? (with dom/mas... - 3/17/2013 7:40:51 PM   
Poloboi234


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Status: offline 		Alright, to those who have answered my questions.

haha, I guess you could call me "heteroflexible'? I guess? but it's more in the realm of the "kink" and the fantasy. I guess I could be "bi".

but what the hell does that matter? I am into BDSM for the dominance and role play. I'm not in to it for being in a sexual relationship.

I wonder when BDSM went from the pyschological, to all of a sudden it's all about "sex". I mean you might as well have sex, and just wear some clothes once in a while if you want to have "sex". I like the "power" I don't understand what people here don't understand about that. Or is it some deep desire to make me conform to you're ethics or views.. plus many of you are women(answering these posts it seems) and do not understand the dynamic of dominant men.

I don't know think of men in prison, the person that is straight eventually after no contact for 5 years, or as a prison initiation into a gang may get raped. Is the raper gay? some would say yes, many would say "no". but there are human urges..

Once of the posters said, she had to participate in a scene and she "cried" during it, as it made her feel weird etc... we'll same thing happened to me the first time a male "blew me" I was distraught and was awkward for awhile. But through that I realized, hmm.. not "gay". (why do you all keep harping on this?)

I like the power. The only scenes with males that turns me "on" are femdom video's. Have you seen those? (many of you are domme's) I like the "power" the woman has over the male, the belittlement, but I'm too "Alpha Masculine" for that. I like the power. I don't find "power" over females that arousing (as I am against rape, or rape fantasies pics etc... close friend was actually raped by another friend... long story) so I don't mind being a dominant to a male slave, or sub. etc... I don't have sex with them or desire to.

I like the roleplay, scene, and the power behind it. You all seem very.. how can I say... many people on here come off as "old shrews" and I mean that in every fiber of my being. I ask this question on a post for subs, and I have some of the same people from the "masters' forum coming to this post to try and pick it apart or analyze me. If you want to analyze me or my oriententation you could just send me a message.

I guess I must be an anomaly, (though I have found others, and found out I'm not), maybe I am a "bully" and being one get's me "off", I am basically a "Bull" that would be in a cuckold scene. I just don't mind the slave at my house cleaning up, haha. I guess. That is it.

I'm an old man in thinking, I like to pilliage, take a man's woman, and his manhood, and even mount his woman in-front of him, or the woman he desires... that is my sexuality. If I am blown it is done in a humiliating circumstance before I am inserted into his wife, GF, etc... that is what it's for...(haven't any of you watched any typical cuckold movies? I think it's standard procedure)...

Also, for the shrew's the seem to keep trying to pick at me, Am I threatening to you for being a male dom to male subs? is that taking away your feminine power or something?

I am straight... I know (people have tried, I even considered.. didn't happen, and not my style... deal with it.) and why would I harp on a message board full of people that are gay, poly life style, transexual etc... and try to prove to them I'm not gay? wouldn't I be insulting many of my friends that I have made on this site and the people I know in the lifestyle?

I don't care about anyone's sexuality or kink. I have seen people who love to wear masks or dress up as furries... it isn't my cup of tea, I have seen and met people that have become asexual and get off to just there nipples played with by males (straight guy), that's there cup of tea. My cup of tea is Power... that is it.

If there are any masculine masters, or masculine men in this post they will agree. Why do you think some of you female subs that have masters are not the only one? or the only sub he has? because he feels "powerful" slaying different types of woman, or he get's off on the fact that you are married or have a BF, and you're dreaming of his cock...

There are many layers to an American man's masculinity... I detailed some right above this paragraph... I'm into the side of "taking a man's woman, or belittle the manhood of a man, to help allieviate my manliliness... it's Alpha Male status... this can be seen in all area's of life where a man must be an Alpha male... In high ends business (where men often times fuck there secetaries that are married or have BF's) or in Prison (where males belittle and dominant a males manhood so much to the point they make him a female.. blow jobs, sex etc...) I am into that side of it. The fantasy for me is what get's me ticking... I don't care about another's sexuality.. also if a person want's to suck my cock and I think they are good people, clean, and they have already done role play with me or submitted... I may give in. So what?

I guess I'm just a "blowjobsexual" for all of you that want to put me in a box. I really don't care. This topic was for subs, I have gotten emails from men straight and gay or bi to serve me. I like the masculine ones (whom tend to be straight or bi) and I use the "sex" power over them fucking there own girl, or even at all.. they like this role play, I like the power.

I'm not going to explain myself again, to old shrew's... also, some of you that seem to be defiantly guarded or protective of this lifestyle like it's some "secert" or something... calm down, and quit trying to behead people "new to the life style" for asking questions, like the Shrew's you are. Some people are interested, you won't get the mainstream acceptance you want, if you continue with that mentality.

Also for those who keep harping on my "sex" or lack there of with my "subs" some of you just are in the lifestyle to be a "whores" and use the lifestyle of your master to do that goal. As much as you chastise me for the lack of sex with my subs, I can turn the wheel on you for doing it only for the thrill of being a "whore or a slut" and trying to not have the social stigma of it was just "role play" or it's "S/M"...

What's good for the goose is good for the gander...

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