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Oddly enough, from what I've seen on the site from multiple years of reading threads, I find a number of women who related that a lot of males (no matter which side of the kneel) are considered in the 'fake' category because they are wannabes, fantasists, and using the BDSM angle to get laid.

OP, you're not going to attract the cream of the crop here. I had a look at the profile to confirm My suspensions. Married dude, no offer of confirmation from your wife that you're *not* cheating, and no BDSM or D/s experience. How "real" do you think we're going to believe you are as opposed to 'guy who thought saying he was kinky would get him some strange on the side'?

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ORIGINAL: xssve

Sounds like you are really a husband looking for a way out of choices already made.

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Men interested in being dominant who for whatever reason

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ORIGINAL: booklover13

but my sense is that women in general are less likely to post on a site like this

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Men interested in being dominant who for whatever reason

Just because they are interested in being dominant doesn't make it so. There are a ton of guys on this site who think that if they merely claim the title that the chicks will drop their panties for them.

Being dominant is a character trait. You either are or are not dominant. Skills in topping, however, can be learned.

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You miss my point Lady, I am not trying to make the case that you should take me seriously. Don't, I don't care (But I grant your point, there is no reason for you to take my profile as it was seriously. I understand that, and don't object to your conclusion).My point in this post is that most of the men on here who express an interest in dominance actually want that and are legit... even if they flake out and vanish, whereas most of the sub woman on here are ex boyfriends or husbands or whatever and not the women that they say they are. What I wonder about is the fakery that generally surrounds the self declared submissive women... most are men is my guess. alas.

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Sounds like you are really a husband looking for a way out of choices already made.

good try, wrong read. life is more complex.

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Sexyred1,

It is much less likely that people who pay for a profile on a website are going to be fake. Why? Because they are paying for it...

If I can throw up a profile on a website on a whim, for fun, because I am bored... why not? If I have to pay to do so, I probably won't.

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"Piece on the side" isn't necessarily a legitimate interest in BDSM. Lots of guys just figure it's an easier way to get laid so the wife won't find out about it.

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I often read this here, but in my mind, it's hard to fathom. There are actually guys who think it's easier to get laid here than it is just by going into their local bar or walking down the street? I just can't see it. It would seem that they would be adding extra impediments and complications, not making it "easier."

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I often read this here, but in my mind, it's hard to fathom. There are actually guys who think it's easier to get laid here than it is just by going into their local bar or walking down the street? I just can't see it. It would seem that they would be adding extra impediments and complications, not making it "easier."

If one is looking to just get laid, there are plenty of avenues one can explore - and plenty of women just for that purpose alone, even if they're not into BDSM.

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I often read this here, but in my mind, it's hard to fathom. There are actually guys who think it's easier to get laid here than it is just by going into their local bar or walking down the street? I just can't see it. It would seem that they would be adding extra impediments and complications, not making it "easier."

If one is looking to just get laid, there are plenty of avenues one can explore - and plenty of women just for that purpose alone, even if they're not into BDSM.

It's hard for Me to get too, but that also has something to do with Me not having a cheater's mentality. Seems to happen often enough, though. I read more than enough posts on the Ask A Submissive board about what to do if you find out that 'master' is married or the infamous 'we had sex and now master doesn't talk anymore' type of threads. Quite a few mentions of women, particularly those with not a lot of lifestyle experience, that accept the fact that they have never seen the guy's home or that they aren't allowed to ask questions about their personal life. Heck, we had one thread where the chick didn't know the last name of the guy she had been sleeping with for two years. Have you seen the number of threads that come up from men that need ideas for places to play (read as fuck) because they can't host?

If I did have a cheater's mentality, I'm thinking kink would be a safer bet than somebody I'd have to be seen with in public much.

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I often read this here, but in my mind, it's hard to fathom. There are actually guys who think it's easier to get laid here than it is just by going into their local bar or walking down the street? I just can't see it. It would seem that they would be adding extra impediments and complications, not making it "easier."

If one is looking to just get laid, there are plenty of avenues one can explore - and plenty of women just for that purpose alone, even if they're not into BDSM.

It's hard for Me to get too, but that also has something to do with Me not having a cheater's mentality. Seems to happen often enough, though. I read more than enough posts on the Ask A Submissive board about what to do if you find out that 'master' is married or the infamous 'we had sex and now master doesn't talk anymore' type of threads. Quite a few mentions of women, particularly those with not a lot of lifestyle experience, that accept the fact that they have never seen the guy's home or that they aren't allowed to ask questions about their personal life. Heck, we had one thread where the chick didn't know the last name of the guy she had been sleeping with for two years. Have you seen the number of threads that come up from men that need ideas for places to play (read as fuck) because they can't host?

If I did have a cheater's mentality, I'm thinking kink would be a safer bet than somebody I'd have to be seen with in public much.

Yes, I can see your point. I'm not denying that it happens. Obviously, there are fakes, phonies, and cheaters all over the place, so it clearly does happen. I was just curious as to how someone could think it's easier to get laid on a BDSM site as opposed to the plethora of other sites out there designed specifically for the purpose of meeting and hooking up - not to mention any bar or public venue or any of the old-fashioned pre-internet methods. (Oddly enough, I even remember hearing about single guys who would go to bars wearing wedding bands - because they thought that it would be easier to get laid that way.)

I don't have a cheater's mentality either, but maybe they also feel an element of challenge. Perhaps they're not necessarily looking for the easy lay, but if they're already the kind who would cheat, then perhaps they would derive some utility or satisfaction out of tricking and manipulating someone under these circumstances. Not because it's easy, but because it may be seen as more of a challenge. So, there may also be a certain predatory aspect I didn't previously consider.

Still, it pays to be wary over the internet, just as much as one should be in real life. People tend to use their computers in comfortable, familiar surroundings, and perhaps it creates a false sense of security when dealing with people over the internet. If people pretended they were in a dark alley surrounded by bums, creeps, and other lowlifes, then maybe they wouldn't be so trusting.

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but my sense is that women in general are less likely to post on a site like this

Why is that your sense? Because "nice" women aren't into kink?

I wrote less likely, not that it would never happen. I take for granted that nice, nerdy, and dorky girls are into kink as well they should be, thank goodness. My only point is that that... dorky, nerdy, cute, funny... girls who are subs in particular are less likely to be legit (e.g. not their ex boyfriend posting their picture) on a site like this as opposed to dudes who declare their dominance (!!), whatever that means. I have no numbers or stats, but my guess is that the latter type of character are more likely than not real in their expression of interest whereas the former are more likely an angry boyfriend.