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RE: Ladies your opinion please - 12/7/2004 8:50:57 PM

BeachMystress

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I feel that any sub I keep is free to chat/talk with whom ever they choose. If I trust someone enough to take them as mine, then I trust that they have the integrity needed to not do anything inappropriate. I also trust them enough to walk away from a conversation if another "Dominant" disrespects me or our relationship.

Not too far back, I lost a bet with a Dom friend. The outcome of the bet was the loser spent three weeks with a submissive profile. Nothing more than that was required. The Yahoo profile was to state the loser was owned by the winner and list the winners major fetishes as the losers favorite things. Not a big deal, right? OMG.. I got to see what femme subs go through. I was contacted by at least 15 "Dom" a day, all trying to get me to leave my Dom for them because they were so much better and ... I was appalled to say the least. I had no clue poaching was such a problem. There are so few Domme and so many male subs that it never occurred to me that people would actually try to entice another sub away! :O In the three weeks I encountered two honorable Dom.. men who had seen the id somewhere but didn't read it. When they realized I was not a "free" sub they asked me to apologize to my "Dom" on their behalf. After that, I can understand a Dom maybe having a problem with other Dom contacting his sub if he wasn't 100% sure of her.

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RE: Ladies your opinion please - 12/9/2004 1:47:10 AM

inadazey

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ORIGINAL: sub4hire
Anyway, to get to my question here. How does one know if you are collared in a chat room? Is there some sort of symbol or something you can put on your name?

Personally, on the website on which I chat, I have my Master's name as a possessive before my own, to show that I am owned by him.

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RE: Ladies your opinion please - 12/12/2004 11:44:30 AM

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Amen

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RE: Ladies your opinion please - 12/12/2004 1:50:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: feline

Ladies . . .

I would like your opinions on a Master/Dom that contacts a collared sub/slave without the consent of her Master/Dom?

i would say that it depends on the intentions of the contact.... perfect examples.. there was a time that my profile listed my slave register number and i was contacted by a Master interested in the registry....there was another time that i had poetry and insights listed on my profile and a Dominant requested my permission to post these on a submissive's forum website. Both of these are respectable reason why a D/M may contact me without regards to my Master. As long as respect is shown to myself and my Master, there are no concerns regarding the contact.

As for those contacts that are made in request of my subserviance, regardless of my owned status, i simply reply "This one is has a Master *gracefully leaves Your presence*" and i delete the original email, just in case He missed the profile or journal entries the first time around.

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RE: Ladies your opinion please - 12/17/2004 4:45:41 PM

ThorsHammer

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A few weeks ago I read a reply to a question from a submissive lady. I was much impressed. I clicked on her profile and found that she was collared and would only respond through her Master. However, she failed to indicated who her Master was!

I did email her directly but in the very first paragraph I first asked her to give my respests to her Master and explained why I was contacting her directly. Then I responded to her posting here.

I got a very gracious email from the submissives lady's Master and her as well. Showing honest respect for each goes a long way.

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RE: Ladies your opinion please - 12/17/2004 11:44:28 PM

bottominwa

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Master is in Iraq, something this girl journals about and is a large part of her profile. she receives a great deal of email from Dominants who wish to extend Their "gratitude" or offer "help" smiles...by and large she deals with this by saying thank you for Their kind words but she is not permitted to speak to men online and then gives her Owner's email so that They may contact Him directly. Few....very very very Few actually ever contact Him, however, Those that have, earn Our respect and We have made two good friends of note this way via collarme.
If a Dom is earnest and honorable then contacting your Owner prior to continuing to speak with You should just be a given in this one's opinion.
And a respectful yet stern approach to the trolls in the bunch generally works too...she gets a few that are pissy she is so loyal, but by and large most give up after the first "no thank You"

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RE: Ladies your opinion please - 12/24/2004 6:08:41 PM

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< Message edited by slavedesires -- 12/26/2004 12:30:04 PM >

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RE: Ladies your opinion please - 12/25/2004 7:10:13 AM

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The word "contact" is much like the word "food." There are so very many different types of both, and even many, many variations on even those types.

I would think that in most cases, friendships span from D to s, everywhere in between, and even outside. Personally, I see that as well-rounded, healthy. However, my statements are much too general in nature. There are always exceptions to generalizations.

Generally speaking, and, please, keep in mind that I know myself more than I know anyone else in this world, someone telling me that I was not to accept new friendships (contact) from any other person in this world prior to getting permission directly or indirectly, would be sending up a red flag, resulting in a lot of questions. Those questions would be asked and answered, simply because on the surface I view it as a sign of insecurity, fear of loss, and THAT is not what I need in a Dominant.

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RE: Ladies your opinion please - 12/25/2004 7:24:13 AM

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< Message edited by slavedesires -- 12/26/2004 12:39:19 PM >

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