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Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 5:06:02 AM   
Forlifemyslave


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Status: offline 		For the most part, I am a very sane and secure woman. I had a relationship with a slave for over a year that I came out of this year. He had his faults but I do not tolerate dishonesty. Moving on. Recently, I had the WORST experience in collarme history. I commissioned my former slave to send a message to those I had been in contact with the past 3 years in order to find his replacement. One slave stood out for me as he would always contact me then disappear. This happened easily half a dozen times between the two accounts he held. Recently, we were able to progress to a phone call and a few messages after that then he disappeared again. Upon his inexplicable disappearance, I sent him a couple of texts and a few messages on here. I have never had to chase a man. Trust me, I'm stunning. Men chase after me but in this instance, I am not sure if I am drawn to the allure of finally pinning him down or something else. I welcome your opinions regarding my concerns both positive and negative.
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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 5:11:10 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Your time would be better spent analyzing your own behavior and motivation rather than his.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 5:29:20 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Why in the world would you ever pursue someone that wasn't interested in carrying through with progressing the relationship? Seems a useless thing to do.

Male submissives are notorious for disappearing, if I had to guess why this one left as per your question, I'd say he's married, likes the idea- not the reality, doesn't find you worthwhile for more of an investment, etc.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 5:43:24 AM   
Forlifemyslave


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Status: offline 		I did a background check and he is 100% single. So I know he is not attached. But you are so right logically about pursuing someone that wasn't interested. Given it's a new concept to me, I am not used to being rejected and I guess I just want closure.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 5:55:16 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Well, I viewed your profile. You say you don't pursue - don't do it.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 5:57:43 AM   
poise


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Forlifemyslave
Recently, I had the WORST experience in collarme history.
One slave stood out for me as he would always contact me then disappear.
Recently, we were able to progress to a phone call and a few messages after
that then he disappeared again

First off, I can't seem to connect how this recent behavior is any different than his past behavior.
Nothing has changed with him other than the fact that you are now the one pursuing him.

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ORIGINAL: Forlifemyslave
I commissioned my former slave to send a message to those I had been in contact with the past 3
years in order to find his replacement.

These men are probably pretty insulted that you are attempting to show interest in them after
previously passing them over, and instead of having the courtesy to contact them directly, you
are sending a liar to do your bidding. I wouldn't blame them for not investing much time with you.

I'd also suggest you think twice about blacklisting members in your journals, as that is a violation
of the terms of service here, and could affect your membership here.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 6:13:12 AM   
Forlifemyslave


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Status: offline 		On an unrelated note, Why do I have a vanilla cone above my picture and then you either have deranged or insane etc? Am I missing something?

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 6:22:44 AM   
searching4mysir


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Forlifemyslave

On an unrelated note, Why do I have a vanilla cone above my picture and then you either have deranged or insane etc? Am I missing something?



It relates to how often you post. Post more and it changes.


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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 7:48:23 AM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		Yes, you are missing something.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 7:55:52 AM   
Dyfrynt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

Your time would be better spent analyzing your own behavior and motivation rather than his.


kali sums it up perfectly. You need a good talk with yourself and find out why you are doing what you say you wouldn't do.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 8:09:06 AM   
JeffBC


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Status: offline 		OK, I'm struggling to believe that you are serious. So to recap, you had some sporadic contacts with some guy and you cannot imagine why he isn't falling all over you because obviously anyone in their right mind would, yeah? That's the story? Really?

I should think a quick read of your profile might indicate several reasons why someone might think better of pursuing you. Your post here adds another one. You want some rich guy who's foolish enough to hand over everything to a young, arrogant woman. It's going to be hard to find that for obvious reasons. I'd suggest you just be diligent about searching.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 8:18:08 AM   
MissBlueangel


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Status: offline 		As you say...your stunning....you will have no problem finding someone else

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 8:28:50 AM   
Kaliko


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Status: offline 		This was "the WORST experience in collarme history"?

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 8:32:31 AM   
Arturas


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Well, I viewed your profile. You say you don't pursue - don't do it.


Of course you did. It's what you do.

What?

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 8:34:03 AM   
Arturas


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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir


quote:

ORIGINAL: Forlifemyslave

On an unrelated note, Why do I have a vanilla cone above my picture and then you either have deranged or insane etc? Am I missing something?



It relates to how often you post. Post more and it changes.




...and then you too go insane or deranged and are so marked. Or, you could not.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 8:34:38 AM   
SeekingTrinity


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Might not be as stunning in reality as you are in your own mind, but I digress...

Frankly I personally don't have either the time nor the patience to deal with bullshit, OP. When I say I won't do something, I flat out dont do it. I don't keep hounding with texts and messages someone who obviously isn't interested. And I sure as hell don't allow myself to be used as a puppet in some dude's little games. As the meme says, "ain't nobody got time fo' dat."


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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 8:36:12 AM   
Arturas


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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

OK, I'm struggling to believe that you are serious. So to recap, you had some sporadic contacts with some guy and you cannot imagine why he isn't falling all over you because obviously anyone in their right mind would, yeah? That's the story? Really?

I should think a quick read of your profile might indicate several reasons why someone might think better of pursuing you. Your post here adds another one. You want some rich guy who's foolish enough to hand over everything to a young, arrogant woman. It's going to be hard to find that for obvious reasons. I'd suggest you just be diligent about searching.


I think attaching significance to a profile is like believing the old "Charlie the tuna" commercial actually has a talking tuna.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 8:47:13 AM   
searching4mysir


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Arturas


quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

OK, I'm struggling to believe that you are serious. So to recap, you had some sporadic contacts with some guy and you cannot imagine why he isn't falling all over you because obviously anyone in their right mind would, yeah? That's the story? Really?

I should think a quick read of your profile might indicate several reasons why someone might think better of pursuing you. Your post here adds another one. You want some rich guy who's foolish enough to hand over everything to a young, arrogant woman. It's going to be hard to find that for obvious reasons. I'd suggest you just be diligent about searching.


I think attaching significance to a profile is like believing the old "Charlie the tuna" commercial actually has a talking tuna.



The significance I attach is that this is the way the person chooses to portray themselves. Not that I believe everything written, but that at the moment in time that it was written, its author saw themselves this way.

If there was NO significance, then there would be no point in having one. Men who ignore my profile and contact me anyway are usually mercilessly mocked.

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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 8:55:24 AM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: searching4mysir
If there was NO significance, then there would be no point in having one. Men who ignore my profile and contact me anyway are usually mercilessly mocked.

... at which point they hopefully deduce that there was some significance to the profile.

My point remains... whether her profile is real or not what she states she is searching for is going to be rare... a rich, foolish, male slave.


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RE: Is he scared? - 3/19/2013 9:16:56 AM   
Baroana


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ORIGINAL: Forlifemyslave

For the most part, I am a very sane and secure woman. I had a relationship with a slave for over a year that I came out of this year. He had his faults but I do not tolerate dishonesty. Moving on. Recently, I had the WORST experience in collarme history. I commissioned my former slave to send a message to those I had been in contact with the past 3 years in order to find his replacement. One slave stood out for me as he would always contact me then disappear. This happened easily half a dozen times between the two accounts he held. Recently, we were able to progress to a phone call and a few messages after that then he disappeared again. Upon his inexplicable disappearance, I sent him a couple of texts and a few messages on here. I have never had to chase a man. Trust me, I'm stunning. Men chase after me but in this instance, I am not sure if I am drawn to the allure of finally pinning him down or something else. I welcome your opinions regarding my concerns both positive and negative.



Responding to this with "I" statements.

I find this post internally contradictory and illogical. I find it indicative of an author that is delusional and histrionic, among other things.

< Message edited by Baroana -- 3/19/2013 9:19:40 AM >

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