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RE: Specifically, does a TYPICAL male:Domme encounter i... - 3/25/2013 4:32:40 AM

RumpusParable

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Coming in a few days later, but I'll add:

No, OP, a sub/slave/bottom of mine getting off as a common part of being in a power-exchange or play relationship is not the case. Nor do I.

When I *have sex* with someone it's about sexual pleasure.

When I wanted Chael to cook my "chicken" and dumplings just how I like them (1/2 the recipe's amount of baking soda) it wasn't about sex for *either* of us. When I cut designs into him.. or my female friend Kishi.. or put needles into my platonic guy-friend Redeye... or had Chael beat me... or had my domestic put in a sprinkler system in my yard... or...

Well, no, they didn't orgasm. Nor did I.

That's not what those interactions were about. Just like playing badminton with a friend doesn't end with one of both of us climaxing. Just like a friend grabbing me a glass of orange juice while they're up doesn't end in us orgasming.

My doing Chael's and my budget and paying our bills just wasn't and isn't about sex for us.

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RE: Specifically, does a TYPICAL male:Domme encounter i... - 3/25/2013 12:44:16 PM

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Depends on the Domme. For a first meeting I would expect you have some big amounts of cash with you as the only Mistress I know who is going to get your rocks off in a "please DO Me" sexual manner is a pro Domme. Even then, don't expect it. For me this is a huge turn off and I am not interested when I am approached this way. If I am going to be the one "pleased" by my subbie boy I expect good manners, some measure of patience, some serious maturity and the good hearted need to please Me.

There are different types of Dommes just like there are different types of submissives/slaves however.

You would be better off saying you were a switch, meeting a switch and ordering him/her to get you off but still, in the first meeting?

I am not sure (a bit confused for you) if you get the mental/emotional dynamic the leads to a well developed Domme/submissive relationship. It is not like hot casual sex. I am thinking perhaps you are naive, a little bit inexperienced and perhaps not understanding all of this?

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RE: Specifically, does a TYPICAL male:Domme encounter i... - 3/28/2013 10:51:37 PM

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Getting back to the OP with the caveat that there is no such thing as typical:

Getting off in a quick and casual way is not all that likely. However, that's different from saying "If you become Mine I would never allow you to get off". That's a Domme who is seriously into keeping a male in chastity so it can only be hoped that She gets together with one of the many males seeking to be kept that way.

I am not into keeping males in chastity. For Me that's like wasting a resource! I happen to enjoy watching a male cum, so I would have him do so fairly regularly simply for My pleasure. However, it shouldn't be something he EXPECTS every time, or feels like he is owed, especially if he is serving Me in non-sexual ways. And I don't want him losing his submission as soon as he does cum either. His submission should be his general mind set, his orgasms are strictly bonuses and under My control. So OP, you possibly want to find someone more like Me ... if your submission can stretch that far beyond sex.

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