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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/22/2013 9:24:57 AM

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I can not put merit into photographs. Have you seen mine?

Are you asking me to critique you? Not sure why you asked that, but I wont be doing that.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/22/2013 9:40:35 AM

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I do not trust pictures, it is way to easy to get pictures of other people off the internet.

I often do a reverse image search on google.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/22/2013 10:17:50 AM

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I do not trust pictures, it is way to easy to get pictures of other people off the internet.

I often do a reverse image search on google.

Understandable. I meant if you really know they are real and how much that played a role in the whole determining a relationship with another.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/22/2013 10:29:58 AM

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I really do not put much merit if I know they are real into pictures. I think conversations help a lot more in figuring out whether they are right for you or not. Preferably over the phone or voice chat.

Though there could be times during a cam chat that you get turned off by ones body language, I have had that occur before. But standard pictures really don't mean much.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/22/2013 10:39:14 AM

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I hate having my picture taken. I've met people without seeing their picture before. The picture is only part of the whole package.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/22/2013 11:15:08 AM

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I can not put merit into photographs. Have you seen mine?

Are you asking me to critique you? Not sure why you asked that, but I wont be doing that.

no I was not. Interestingly enough though after I posted that, what I assumed was a joke, 5 people went to look.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/22/2013 12:44:50 PM

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I can not put merit into photographs. Have you seen mine?

Are you asking me to critique you? Not sure why you asked that, but I wont be doing that.

no I was not. Interestingly enough though after I posted that, what I assumed was a joke, 5 people went to look.

ha! one was me. Didn't say I wouldnt look.

just wasnt going to critique.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/22/2013 4:24:19 PM

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I don't make a decision based solely on a picture, and if I am looking for a friend, I could care less.

But I do have to admit that even if I enjoy their company in words, if I see their picture and that internal switch in me doesn't flip, then it is unlikely that I will be attracted to them. I don;t even really have a "type," so I have no idea exactly why one tall dark haired person (just as an example) draws me and another does nothing for me at all. I do know that for whatever reason the "git er done" look ALWAYS turns me off. lol

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/22/2013 5:21:28 PM

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If I see a photo of them and I don't find anything at all attractive about him, I would still meet him I guess....hey, free coffee at least. But I already know I'm not gonna be interested and I've never once had that change in person. I'm shallow like that.

As for Master, I only saw a blurry photo of him but from the blurriness I could tell he was tall and not overweight so that alone was enough to say...eehh...why not. If I'm not interested...no big deal...free coffee and all. If I am...great! And here we are today.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/26/2013 10:05:10 AM

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One of the very best relationships I had was with a Dom that I had gotten to know online and on phone, I had fallen for him without ever seeing him in person. When we finally did meet everything just fell into place. The chemistry was wonderful, he was very handsome and we had a wonderful time together. Chemistry has always been the single most important aspect of the relationship for me. So my answer to the question would be that I do not place much merit in a picture.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/26/2013 8:09:27 PM

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I generally don't care what your body looks like, I prefer to have a connection that goes beyond the physical. Many of the men I've really hit it off with were never "hot" guys, and I'm happy with that. To me they are beautiful, and that is all that matters.

That said, if all the photos are dick pics and faceless body shots, forget it. I want to look into your eyes, not at your genitals [we'll save that for later, lol].

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/27/2013 1:21:09 PM

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If I look at someone's photo and clearly can tell I am not and will never be physically attracted to them, I don't see a point in meeting. If that is unclear to me, I might give them the benefit of the doubt and meet them. But I should also add I don't buy the concept of "liking them in every other single way" based on online or phone interactions only. I take all that stuff with a grain of salt and realize that nothing really starts to matter until you meet. You can exchange a lot of great emails and talk on the phone for hours, and then have zero chemistry when you meet

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/27/2013 1:59:52 PM

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If you saw someones picture or even cam and didn't feel instant chemistry, would that affect you meeting them if you liked them in every other single way?

I never feel instant chemistry from a photo. Rarely have I felt instant chemistry during a meetup. In vanilla when it's happened, I've run like H...because...I noticed that I started thinking with my groin instead of really getting to know the person and checking for compatibility. Being "swept away" lead to suffering that could have been avoided.

When I met bo for the first time, he looked nothing like his picture. (He had been through a lot.) There was no instant chemistry for me, quite the opposite...I had assumed he had brown eyes, lol, when they were in fact the same blue as my father's (very bad button), etc. My panic disorder went into hyperdrive for the first six months...but the MAN was worth going through this discomfort.

I seem to be incapable of being in a sexual relationship with a man without falling in love with him, so...feeling something instantly doesn't factor into it. Mental and emotional compatibility decides if I am in a relationship, when I love my partner all of a sudden his little quirks become cute and sexy.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/27/2013 2:32:08 PM

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(snipped) Being "swept away" lead to suffering that could have been avoided.

This! Entirely ;) Even if I love a photo, and enjoy the conversations with the man, I still like to wait before meeting in person ~ I hate the possibility of being "swept away" before I have enough self control and composure :P

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/27/2013 2:37:24 PM

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I have met someone once without a photo at all, and it turned out to be to his advantage, since I had kind of fallen for the mind/heart, without ever seeing his picture. So when we met, his looks didn't matter that much. Generally speaking though, chemistry is important, and can only be confirmed with a real face to face meeting. I'd be disingenuous if I said, I've never seen pictures that have dissuaded me from meeting though. M

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/28/2013 8:20:16 PM

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I might be able to tell from a picture if there's something I really cannot tolerate eg a smoke in his hand, slovenly living conditions around him, or a really vain full-of-himself body-builder pose (I'm looking for a sub!). I do have a preference for hair long enough to grab and not fond of bald, BUT that's not a total "he's out of the running" thing. After all, guys can't help it if they've got the male pattern baldness thing. If everything else I learned about him interested Me, I would still meet him to check out the chemistry in person. Those who advertise with dick shots do NOT appeal as it shows that's what they are focused on, but I might give a newbie the benefit of the doubt (I can see how a newbie checking out this scene might think that's the way to go) and see if they have more to offer. Otherwise, the pic is just a part of the package and society's ideas of "good looks" don't mean much to Me at all. Just as well ... or I'd give up looking and Master and i would never be "so happy together" LOL!

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/28/2013 9:24:40 PM

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<-------- absolute merit should be placed on my photo. Not everyone can pull off being two separate tigers at the same time

A picture helps, but pardon the pun...it doesn't give the whole picture of who a person is. I had a piqued interest in my male partner from his picture, but he totally hooked me with his personality and who he is as a person. In my honest opinion, it actually enhanced his attractiveness in my eyes.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/29/2013 12:27:21 PM

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. . . If you saw someones picture or even cam and didnt feel instant chemistry, would that affect you meeting them if you liked them in every other single way?

Yes. Body language is very real, I listen to it. I will meet someone that strikes me in neutral way to see if we spark. But if they hit me negatively, I won't waste my time or theirs on a meet.

. . . I know in the past, if I didnt feel that physical attraction from the look, it just didnt work out. I am curious to learn if anyone felt like that but after meeting the person it changed?

Yes. This one girl had very "matronly" pictures, not sexy but she wasn't unattractive. In person, she was a sensual dynamo. Her walk, her talk, the way she moved . . . let's just say there wasn't single matronly thing about her.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/29/2013 12:54:29 PM

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A person doesnt have to be prince charming in looks, but if I didnt find chemistry with a pic (mostly by a cam seeing gestures, mannerisms) I never felt anything in person beyond friendship. Never any luck with that.

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RE: How much merit do you put in a picture? - 3/29/2013 7:50:27 PM

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I don't pay a lot of merit to a picture. In the past girls I liked in person I didn't find as attractive in a photo. I always felt something was missing. What I liked them for wasn't in the picture. All I can see is what they physically look like, but their personality can make them look a hell of a lot better than they already do or worse. At least for me. I prefer a lot of profile to pictures. If the profile bores me, the picture usually can't keep my attention.

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