RE: Making a memorable weekend

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Making a memorable weekend

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Making a memorable weekend

Page: << < prev 1 2 3 4 [5]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Making a memorable weekend - 3/25/2013 9:14:01 PM

seekingreality

Posts: 599
Joined: 8/11/2011
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: seekingreality

Personally, I am not a fan of the "give me some generic kinky scenarios" approach. What makes the experience exciting and memorable is the people.

I agree with this. It would also lose some of it's sparkle for me if I found out that he hadn't come up with the ideas on his own. Kind of Cyrano de Bergerac-ish for me.

I don't see why every kinky couple must invent the kinky wheel anew by themselves. On other forums I engage with (crafting, dog care, an attorney one), we share knowledge, techniques, and ask each other for ideas. Uniquely here does that seem to be regarded as lazy or lacking in creative imagination.

My point wasn't that he shouldn't ask for suggestions. It was more that I couldn't imagine giving suggestions like this to two people I didn't know, because whether a scenario works depends on the dynamic of the people. I don't know their dynamic.

(in reply to Spiritedsub2)

Profile

Post #: 81

RE: Making a memorable weekend - 3/25/2013 10:41:34 PM

theRose4U

Posts: 3403
Joined: 8/22/2005
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Baroana

Why would the great LordUberMaster need pointers from the likes of us?

Why would subs with a brain in their head allow a stranger to not only blindfold & take them away for a whole weekend but fall for the naked & kneel in strange surroundings??

_____________________________

Finding a good sub is like sifting through trail mix. You find a few fruits, a lotta nuts and have to sift to get to the sweet and special ones
drama llama

(in reply to Baroana)

Profile

Post #: 82

RE: Making a memorable weekend - 3/26/2013 2:06:44 AM

LordUberMaster

Posts: 9
Joined: 7/9/2012
Status: offline

chatterbox24: This might might be a stupid question, but - "a tasting, scent or texture blindfold"? Sounds like fun, but what is a tasting blindfold? How do you even notice the taste if you're wearing it on your eyes?

LadyPact: Wax is not a bad idea. I have done that before, and she has experssed an interest. Although she did say she didn't like the idea at first, since it reminded her of waxing her legs.

BitaTruble: Also a good suggestion. I think we're both not really into roleplay, but something with ice is always nice. Goes well with wax, too.

MistressDarkArt: I did give her a checklist, and we've spent quite some time talking about it. I think checklists are lots of fun. Unfortunately I'm not finding a lot of good ideas on there. I think she put a 5 on bondage, but that's a little unspecific, and also on choking, but that's something I wouldn't want to do this early, preferably not at all. Her main interest seems to be just pleasing and serving, which is certainly good and well, but, like Kana said, I want to focus on her, and I'm not sure how to put those two together. I guess we're both "givers". Gets annoying sometimes.

There is one other thing we've done, which she said was "one of the biggest turn-ons ever": hypnosis. Maybe that sounds kind of extreme too, but I don't think it has to be. I'm pretty sure we'll be doing that again.

(in reply to theRose4U)

Profile

Post #: 83

RE: Making a memorable weekend - 3/26/2013 5:00:10 AM

chatterbox24

Posts: 2182
Joined: 1/22/2012
Status: offline

Oh now, Mister Lord, your being a silly willy, you know I meant taste something with a blindfold on not actually taste the blindfold.

_____________________________

I am like a box of chocolates, you never know what variety you are going to get on any given day.

My crazy smells like jasmine, cloves and cat nip.

(in reply to LordUberMaster)

Profile

Post #: 84

RE: Making a memorable weekend - 3/26/2013 8:59:48 AM

Spiritedsub2

Posts: 3316
Joined: 7/18/2012
Status: offline

- fast reply

Über, if you didn't see this post by Greta75 on the "memorable scenes" thread, check it out. Lots of lovely ideas there

. Here's the link to her post:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_4409409/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#4410361

_____________________________

Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.
~ Rumi

Laughing Dolphin

(in reply to chatterbox24)

Profile

Post #: 85

RE: Making a memorable weekend - 3/26/2013 9:27:54 AM

Lucifyre

Posts: 1067
Joined: 3/27/2012
Status: offline

Heh, I totally fail at the ideas for newbies department. If you're looking for some more advanced stuff, I do have some fantasy writings you could pull ideas from but please keep in mind when I write it is TOTALLY fantasy!
Though I am kind of partial to things like forced orgasms while being tied up, hair pulliing, lots and LOTS of really nasty dirty talk ("I'm gonna do yadda yadda and then even another yadda" type thing) with some follow through of course, no point in getting me all worked up to leave me hanging on the edge LOL.
I think the idea of the checklist is a very good one...sometimes Mr and I go back over ours to add or subtract stuff on it. I don't think it's a silly idea at all, I think it's a good negotiating tool that can be reused throughout a relationship.
Whatever you do, please make sure she has and is comfortable with using a safeword, especially if it's a newer relationship for you. You're not a mindreader and if she is unable to comfortably communicate with you it could lead to some pretty nasty trouble for the both of you.
I hope your weekend goes well and you both have a great time.

Luci ;)

_____________________________

"Batteries? OMG, Bitch Please! My Shit plugs in!"
I do this because it fucking feels good.
I like girls who like girls
The thing about standards is: There are SO many to choose from.