UllrsIshtar
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I can understand that you are skeptical, we're getting there too with all the scammers that have contacted us.
In our defence (for lack of a better word, since we don't think we have to defend ourselves in this case), we were both raised in very traditional homes. I (28 years old) already had a passive interest in bdsm but never dared venture into the real thing, my husband never really realised he was into it until recently, mainly - I think - because his sex-life was quite adventurous on all other fronts so he never really felt the urge to experiment (also because his job kinda took the energy out of him to start actively searching for the less obvious).
We are all different, we all have our quirks, no one is the same. I have never judged anyone for doing something I don't like or for having an opinion that is different than mine. So if someone discovers later in life that they like something ... what's wrong with that ?!? I didn't like Science fiction movies until very recently (when watching Battlestar Galactica for 12 hours straight  ). My husband didn't like apple-sauce until two years ago ... people change, no matter what Dr. House says 
People don't change by going from vanilla to "liking just about any "extreme" thing you could think of" without a lot of intermediary steps.
You don't wake up in your 40s one day and discover that you're a hardcore edge player, without anything leading up to that point. The intermediary steps between "vanilla" and "into just about any "extreme" thing you could think of" involve years of evolution and fantasies.
Like I said before: I've never met a hardcore edge player who didn't have years of indication that they where into this kind of stuff before their twenties, and even the people who can look back and say that there where signs they where kinky even before they hit puberty take years to grow into their own, and go rather slowly, and with a lot of intermediary steps, from more softcore BDSM to liking "just about any "extreme" thing you could think of".
That kind of transformation in a person's personality and tastes just doesn't happen overnight (or in a few weeks or months) in their late 40s.
BTW... the fact that you're comparing a "taste" in hardcore edge play to something like what kind of movie, or food you happen to like at any given moment, kinda proves my point and shows that you really don't have much of a clue.
What you're saying is akin to somebody claiming that they, one day in their 40s, decided they where gay, without there being anything leading up to that point. People don't wake up one day and suddenly, out of the blue, decide to change what gender they're sexually attracted to... just like people don't just wake up one day and suddenly, out of the blue, decide they're into hardcore edge play.
< Message edited by UllrsIshtar -- 3/30/2013 4:24:22 PM >
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