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Rochsub2009 -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 10:20:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: thracia

What else is (perhaps slightly off the mark) in those elucidating "instructional videos"?



The "instructional videos" are completely realistic, and should be required viewing for every male sub.

For example:

-Most of the Dommes are young hotties, just like in real life.
-The Dommes keep their subs tied up 24/7, just like in real life.
-The Dommes draw the majority of their pleasure/enjoyment from the male sub's orgasms, just like in real life.
-The "punishments" that are dished out by the Dommes are the stuff of every male fantasy, just like in real life.
-The Dommes require their subs to be erect 24/7, just like in real life.
-The Dommes never wear street clothes, cotton pajamas, or sweats, just like in real life.
-The Dommes use facesitting as their primary form of punishment, just like in real life.
-The Dommes never sweat during prolonged whipping/flogging sessions, just like in real life.
-The Dommes never make their male subs do anything that might actually be useful, just like in real life.

These instructional videos are so realistic, that I'm surprised they haven't been aired on the Discovery Channel as documentaries. [:D]




AAkasha -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 10:36:36 AM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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Here's a clip:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jc_XJsMwx2s

Akasha


Thing is, she's not very attractive, damnit. A femdom friend pointed me to this film a while ago, inviting me to believe that she looks like Helen Mirren. No.





Most "femdom porn" is attractive women dominating unattractive men. It's nice to see "normal women" dominating very attractive hot guys.

Akasha




Rochsub2009 -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 10:46:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

It's nice to see "normal women" dominating very attractive hot guys.



Booooo! That doesn't happen in real life.

Stick to the way things REALLY are, AAkasha. You know, gorgeous young hotties dominating unattractive males with beer bellies. [:D]




MasterCaneman -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 11:43:53 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

It's nice to see "normal women" dominating very attractive hot guys.



Booooo! That doesn't happen in real life.

Stick to the way things REALLY are, AAkasha. You know, gorgeous young hotties dominating unattractive males with beer bellies. [:D]


Yeah, what RochSub said, that's it, that's the ticket!




HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 11:58:12 AM)

~FR~

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ORIGINAL: Cilicia

I'm intrigued by but inexperienced with Femdom submission - so - to get a better "idea" of what it all entails, I've been dutifully viewing videos found using "femdom video" in the search term.

My observations?

Most are erotically appealing - but - there's something odd about many that I can't quite put my finger on.

My best explanation of the "funny feeling" that I have about them, is that many seem to be porn videos orchestrated by men for men, and therefore, they might not necessarily accurately portray (yes, I know, heaven forbid a porn movie portray the real world accurately) a typical femdom interaction (if anything is typical in porn).

But, before I make that hasty conclusion, may I ask if others have had the same premonition - that most femdom porn videos don't accurately portray what femdom is all (really) about?


Almost all porn is made to be masturbation material for men. Therefore it's usual portrayal of women does not represent how the average woman really is, but how the porn consumer is likely (in the minds of the producers) to be fantasizing how she is.

I've spent a lot of time doing r/t SM with real life dominant women. Almost never have any of them dressed, looked or behaved like the actresses in femdom porn.

For which I'm grateful. Real life dominant women are so much more complex, interesting and fun than fantasy caricature women.




VioletViolence -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 12:16:46 PM)

I honestly have never understood how men think that porn is an accurate portrayal of any sort of relationship. For the love of god, it's only focusing on one aspect, so how can it possibly (even if it showed the sex/play in an accurate way) be demonstrative of what an *entire relationship* will be like? Although I have no problems with porn in an abstract sense, I absolutely hate what it's doing to the minds an opinions of the men around me and I think overall it's doing a serious amount of damage.




mnottertail -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 12:18:55 PM)

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I honestly have never understood how men think that porn is an accurate portrayal of any sort of relationship.


Well, a lot of women do, and when they find out it ain't all about the porn, they end up in a relationship with their cat, and die old spinster hags.





Zonie63 -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 12:23:37 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

quote:

ORIGINAL: thracia

What else is (perhaps slightly off the mark) in those elucidating "instructional videos"?



The "instructional videos" are completely realistic, and should be required viewing for every male sub.

For example:

-Most of the Dommes are young hotties, just like in real life.
-The Dommes keep their subs tied up 24/7, just like in real life.
-The Dommes draw the majority of their pleasure/enjoyment from the male sub's orgasms, just like in real life.
-The "punishments" that are dished out by the Dommes are the stuff of every male fantasy, just like in real life.
-The Dommes require their subs to be erect 24/7, just like in real life.
-The Dommes never wear street clothes, cotton pajamas, or sweats, just like in real life.
-The Dommes use facesitting as their primary form of punishment, just like in real life.
-The Dommes never sweat during prolonged whipping/flogging sessions, just like in real life.
-The Dommes never make their male subs do anything that might actually be useful, just like in real life.

These instructional videos are so realistic, that I'm surprised they haven't been aired on the Discovery Channel as documentaries. [:D]


Do any of the videos have music which sounds like this? That was also just like real life, where cheesy 70s porno music would just start up out of nowhere. [;)]

But some of these videos linked in this thread don't even have a soundtrack. Not even the lamest attempt at any kind of set-up. At least some of the cheesier porno would at least start out with some kind of pretext, like the meter reader or some pizza delivery boy knocking on the door, then one thing leads to another, then cue the cheesy music.




Hillwilliam -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 12:24:02 PM)


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ORIGINAL: VioletViolence

I honestly have never understood how men think that porn is an accurate portrayal of any sort of relationship.

2 words for the XX crowd. Romance Novels.




zpenguin -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 12:37:46 PM)

You make a valid observation, porn isn't designed to portray reality but fantasy. It's showing you what you want to see and hear. Domination techniques, styles, and forms will vary from person to person, I know from my own personal experience that my personal style is not like what you will typically find in porn. So keep up the research, talk with real life Dommes or even other subs that have had real time experiences. Good luck to you in your search :)




Glittoris -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 12:47:04 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam


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ORIGINAL: VioletViolence

I honestly have never understood how men think that porn is an accurate portrayal of any sort of relationship.

2 words for the XX crowd. Romance Novels.


I don't get that at all. In my circle of family, friends and acquaintances, not a single woman reads anything remotely "romance novel"-esque. Now asking all the males, only 1 out of the bunch [47 males], didn't watch porn/read porn/search for it/etc. Hell the women watch porn rather than read romance novels. I don't see the logical assumption that women read those things and expect it to be that way in real life. Porn on the other hand, seems regardless of gender, if that is the only introduction to sex and kink of any sort, the person is going to believe that it is, indeed, the real way things happen.




JeffBC -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 3:07:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Glittoris
I don't get that at all. In my circle of family, friends and acquaintances, not a single woman reads anything remotely "romance novel"-esque.

I honestly don't know how many of my female friends read them. Judging from my selection of female friends the answer is "not too many". But honestly, pretty much all of male-dom BDSM seems cut from the same cloth... enough so that Carol and I laugh about "the script" routinely. I think the men want to be the hero's and the women want to futilely beat their hands against the hero's chest before helplessly submitting.




HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 3:42:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: VioletViolence

I honestly have never understood how men think that porn is an accurate portrayal of any sort of relationship. For the love of god, it's only focusing on one aspect, so how can it possibly (even if it showed the sex/play in an accurate way) be demonstrative of what an *entire relationship* will be like? Although I have no problems with porn in an abstract sense, I absolutely hate what it's doing to the minds an opinions of the men around me and I think overall it's doing a serious amount of damage.


While I agree wholeheartedly with this, I have to say that even seeing entire relationships can't really be demonstrative of what an entire relationship will be like. What I mean is, entire relationships in which I am not involved will not really show what a relationship in which I were involved would be like.




JeffBC -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 4:22:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle
While I agree wholeheartedly with this, I have to say that even seeing entire relationships can't really be demonstrative of what an entire relationship will be like. What I mean is, entire relationships in which I am not involved will not really show what a relationship in which I were involved would be like.

And, you never get to see someone else's entire relationship. No matter how open, eloquent, and verbose I am it just wouldn't be possible to communicate 20 years worth of history all of which leads up to "now". I think human relationships are one of the most hideously complex things I've ever tried to study and I think that if you give them a few decades to simmer they quickly become inscrutable to the outside observer.




PeonForHer -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 5:46:04 PM)


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


It's nice to see "normal women" dominating very attractive hot guys.




It might be, but it's still not realistic.





DarkSteven -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 7:33:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Akrotiri

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It turns out, porn has little or nothing to do with the way things work in real life.


[ wank fodder alert ]
I'm curious.

Is there a single movie that I can watch that DOES accurately portray what femdom is about for you?

Or do absolutely no videos accurately portray what femdom is all about for you?

[ / wank fodder alert ]


Mebbe Das Blau Engle?





MissToYouRedux -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 8:08:35 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


It's nice to see "normal women" dominating very attractive hot guys.




It might be, but it's still not realistic.





Based on *my* experience I have to seriously disagree with you there, Peon. [;)]

And as far as instructional vidoes, I had my new servant watch Downton Abbey with me. [:D]




subinsilicon -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 8:26:55 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux

I had my new servant watch Downton Abbey with me. [:D]

Had to look that one up!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Downton_Abbey




TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 8:49:15 PM)

Damn It! Porn is not real? Every time the UPS or Fed Ex guy is coming...I make sure to be naked or wearing something see through when I answer the door. I offer cold lemonade since their bulging biceps are glistening with sweat & they are obviously hot because their shirts are ALWAYS unbuttoned to the waist .I always make reference to how horny & alone I am (&, of course, I mention that my best friend who is a bisexual gymnast will be dropping by for a pillow fight!)...THIS EXPLAINS WHY NOT ONE OF THEM HAS ACCEPTED!




BossyShoeBitch -> RE: Have others noticed that the typical Femdom porn video does NOT portray a typical Femdom interaction (4/3/2013 8:57:31 PM)


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha


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ORIGINAL: Akrotiri

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It turns out, porn has little or nothing to do with the way things work in real life.


[ wank fodder alert ]
I'm curious.

Is there a single movie that I can watch that DOES accurately portray what femdom is about for you?

Or do absolutely no videos accurately portray what femdom is all about for you?

[ / wank fodder alert ]



There is a movie called "Punish Me" (you can get it on Amazon) that doesn't necessarily portray a RELATIONSHIP of femdom that mimics mine, but some of the sensuality/style of some of the BDSM interactions are more close to mine than any het femdom porn you will find.

Here's a clip:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jc_XJsMwx2s

Akasha


Akasha, I OWN AND LOVE that movie!




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