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offer - 4/3/2013 2:35:11 PM   
hairpullinggal


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recently was asked by a Master if I did decide to become his slave what and how would I offer myself to him.
I understand the question, but have no idea as to what
Is wanted and or appreciated , possibly expected.
Hoping someone could offer some info, maybe even a
Suggestion or 2...?

Thanks for any help you can give me...
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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 2:54:47 PM   
poise


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ORIGINAL: hairpullinggal


recently was asked by a Master if I did decide to become his slave what and how would I
offer myself to him.

I hear it's quite fashionable these days to offer yourself as a human shish kabob.
Just get a few bamboo skewers and some strategically placed vegetables and you should
be fine.

All kidding aside, my first thought is this master has a bad case of porn on the brain.
It's possible that he is referring to some type of protocol, perhaps like a collaring ceremony,
but if that were the case, I'd think it would be something you would both be discussing, and
not something that you are left to decide to figure out on your own.

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 2:55:03 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Only he knows what is wanted, appreciated, and expected.  Everyone is going to want something different.  I have never done it or was expected to do it. 

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Revise that number. Just got 14 new chicks and 5 turkeys.

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 3:16:28 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

All kidding aside, my first thought is this master has a bad case of porn on the brain.
It's possible that he is referring to some type of protocol, perhaps like a collaring ceremony,
but if that were the case, I'd think it would be something you would both be discussing, and
not something that you are left to decide to figure out on your own.


I agree. And if he's talking about collaring you before you've even met....you should probably think twice. Wait until you've been together awhile before committing yourself to him. Give yourself time to figure out if what you're feeling is that you genuinely like him or if it's just tingly genitals.

Honestly, why should you have to offer yourself to him? If you're not on board with that, tell him. Discuss it like adults instead of trying to read his mind. And if he's not willing to discuss it like adults, move onto the next applicant.


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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 3:23:30 PM   
JeffBC


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ORIGINAL: hairpullinggal
recently was asked by a Master if I did decide to become his slave what and how would I offer myself to him.

So you're planning on just up and deciding to become someone's slave? What exactly does that term mean to you? The way you say this it makes it sound a lot like "deciding to take your dog for a walk".

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I understand the question, but have no idea as to what Is wanted and or appreciated...

really? you do? Because I don't. I don't understand the question one little bit. here's why. If you were becoming my slave what that would mean is that you became my human property. What you "gave" to me was "yourself" How you would offer that is "unconditionally". So what do you think he was envisioning? What sort of wild sex acts you'd perform?


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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 3:37:07 PM   
phoenixasubbie


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Status: offline 		A bit off topic, but as you are new and just joined CM, I would advise you to not advertise the fact that you are new on your profile. It is blood in the water for sharks.

As to the question, I have never been asked to offer myself although I have done so willingly. It was as simple as we were in a relationship and I told him that I wanted to be his, and would he want this ?
But certainly never something that was expected.

Becoming someone's slave or submissive takes time, and is a journey that takes two. If this is someone you feel some connection to, I would ask him to speak with you more regarding what he is asking of you and why

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 3:54:31 PM   
HarryVanWinkle


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hairpullinggal


recently was asked by a Master if I did decide to become his slave what and how would I offer myself to him.
I understand the question, but have no idea as to what
Is wanted and or appreciated , possibly expected.
Hoping someone could offer some info, maybe even a
Suggestion or 2...?

Thanks for any help you can give me...


What's probably wanted was material to help him keep the hand he wasn't typing with busy.

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 4:02:36 PM   
subkj


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Status: offline 		I always respond to that same question.... Anything you wish as long as it does not cause me harm and is within my limits Sir...

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 5:28:52 PM   
MasterOne50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: hairpullinggal


recently was asked by a Master if I did decide to become his slave what and how would I offer myself to him.
I understand the question, but have no idea as to what
Is wanted and or appreciated , possibly expected.
Hoping someone could offer some info, maybe even a
Suggestion or 2...?

Thanks for any help you can give me...



first off, what is your definition of a slave? if he is a Master, why is he asking you this question? it doesnt matter how you offer your self to him....a Master decides everything and how he wants to be pleased.

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 6:08:52 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		There are two reasons I dislike that.

1. Focus should be on your compatibility with him, not a ceremony. His question is like someone determined to have a fairytale wedding, but not so concerned about the wife or husband.
2. A Dom should have some idea what he wants. Expecting his sub to figure him out by repeatedly proposing scenarios is a ridiculous waste of effort.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 7:11:14 PM   
SWDesertDom


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Status: offline 		The question sounds silly, but maybe he was inviting you to talk about your wants, and your desires (from a kinky perspective)? Or how you feel about him?

It really sounds like an open ended question to get you talking.

Sure, maybe he wants wank fodder, but maybe he just wants to get you talking.

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 7:21:35 PM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		Have you ever even met this person face to face?

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 8:47:32 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		LafayetteLady has a good point.  If you have not met him face to face several times, how do you know he is a Master?

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We are stardust, we are golden, and we got to get ourselves back to the garden.

Yes, I am crazy about feathered creatures. I have a dozen chickens, 3 ducks, 5 geese, and 2 parakeets.

Revise that number. Just got 14 new chicks and 5 turkeys.

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 9:36:09 PM   
LafayetteLady


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Status: offline 		My point wasn't questioning whether or not he was a master, but rather why the hell would you answer a question like that of someone you hadn't even met?

I am totally against this whole, "please send me your application and tell me why you "deserve" to be my s-type" thinking. It totally negates the reality that each is "interviewing" the other.

So OP, here is what you should do:

Ask him exactly why he would deserve to have you as his slave, i.e. what physical, psychological and financial qualifications make him worthy of having you call him "master?"

Bet you never here from him again should you ask him that. Except of course, for the nasty email calling you a fake, fat, ugly bitch who is probably a man anyway. That last is not for you to take personally, just a common response from various "masters" who get rebuffed.

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 11:34:27 PM   
JeffBC


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Bet you never here from him again should you ask him that. .

Well damnit LOL. I got the wrong answer again because I'd LOVE for someone to ask me that question. To me that seemed direct and to the point and a perfect invitation for whatever sales pitch I have.

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RE: offer - 4/3/2013 11:57:53 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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ORIGINAL: HarryVanWinkle


quote:

ORIGINAL: hairpullinggal


recently was asked by a Master if I did decide to become his slave what and how would I offer myself to him.
I understand the question, but have no idea as to what
Is wanted and or appreciated , possibly expected.
Hoping someone could offer some info, maybe even a
Suggestion or 2...?

Thanks for any help you can give me...


What's probably wanted was material to help him keep the hand he wasn't typing with busy.


This ^^^

I would tell him I don't discuss kink until after we've met and decided there is a mutual desire to go hands-on.

Nothing more awkward than talkin' the talk, meeting, realizing there is no in-person chemsitry and having to explain that despite what you said before you met, you wouldn't touch this guy if he was the last man standing, sitting, or lying down.

Online wank fodder. Just say no.


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RE: offer - 4/4/2013 12:42:06 AM   
LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: JeffBC


quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady
Bet you never here from him again should you ask him that. .

Well damnit LOL. I got the wrong answer again because I'd LOVE for someone to ask me that question. To me that seemed direct and to the point and a perfect invitation for whatever sales pitch I have.


That's kind of the point. To bring home the idea that the "sales pitch" as you call it is not one sided. Too many dominants, both male and female, forget that.

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RE: offer - 4/4/2013 2:19:56 AM   
hairpullinggal


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Status: offline 		Thank you all very much. You all gave me things to think about I had not even considered.
I have to admit I am not being the smartest idiot on the block in this regard. Thank you for bringing to my attention and waking me up.
And if it is a shishkabob I'm wanted to be....that skewer will not be poking me!
Thank you all again, most appreciated!

HPG

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RE: offer - 4/4/2013 3:28:01 AM   
lizi


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ORIGINAL: subkj

I always respond to that same question.... Anything you wish as long as it does not cause me harm and is within my limits Sir...


Who do you respond to in this way? Someone you met off the internet and barely know? Someone you've been seeing in some sort of a relationship for a while?

I'm not entirely sure if the OP has met the man she's referencing in this thread yet, and it might be extremely premature to put herself on a platter for him.

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RE: offer - 4/4/2013 6:08:20 AM   
chatterbox24


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Status: offline 		See, I find that question he asked a turn off. and not very DOMLY. LOL.

To me he should be telling you how he wants you offered.

Tell him you will do body worship after he buys you a mercedes benz

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