RE: Throwin' it out there

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Throwin' it out there

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Throwin' it out there

Page: << < prev 1 [2]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Throwin' it out there - 4/5/2013 8:55:38 AM

Spiritedsub2

Posts: 3316
Joined: 7/18/2012
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Prestones

Just got back to CM, and I see the jury is in - dial back the eww factor considerably. I can be taught...

I don't think you should change your profile. I expect that what you wrote is an honest and contemporaneous expression of who you are, how you think, and what you want. In my opinion only, it is better for potential partners and for you that the truth of you be what your profile expresses. I believe the same for all of us. Admittedly, the responses you got here demonstrate that most of the women who participate in these forums aren't going to be interested in you. However, it seems the women on the forums is a small percentage of the women with profiles on the other side. Your profile might be better received there.

_____________________________

Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.
~ Rumi

Laughing Dolphin

(in reply to Prestones)

Profile

Post #: 21

RE: Throwin' it out there - 4/5/2013 5:04:37 PM

Prestones

Posts: 7
Joined: 7/4/2012
Status: offline

I'm not looking to lure, Missokyst. My take-away from all the comments above is that profiles should be kept vanilla (perhaps French vanilla?), so I'll leave my profile as is. I'll be sure to discuss other women while addressing limits - if someone expresses an interest. Who knows, she may have an interest I'd prefer not to pursue. Time will tell.

OTOH, it may all be immaterial, as there's little danger from guys my age, as DesFIP noted earlier <chuckle>

(in reply to Missokyst)

Profile

Post #: 22

RE: Throwin' it out there - 4/5/2013 5:21:27 PM

Prestones

Posts: 7
Joined: 7/4/2012
Status: offline

Thanks for your comments, Spiritedsub2. I have no intention of trying to pull the wool over anyone's eyes. If that were the case, I wouldn't have "thrown it out there" to solicit comments. The comments I got don't necessarily represent a true cross section of all subs and slaves - just the more vocal ones <ducks and runs for cover>

(in reply to Spiritedsub2)

Profile

Post #: 23

RE: Throwin' it out there - 4/5/2013 6:40:20 PM

RedMagic1

Posts: 6470
Joined: 5/10/2007
Status: offline

Read this.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1717756/mpage_1/tm.htm

_____________________________

Not with envy, not with a twisted heart, shall you feel superior, or go about boasting. Rather in goodness by action make true your song and your word. Thus you shall be highly regarded, and able to live in peace with all others.
- 15th century Aztec

(in reply to Prestones)

Profile

Post #: 24

RE: Throwin' it out there - 4/5/2013 8:49:00 PM

Prestones

Posts: 7
Joined: 7/4/2012
Status: offline

Thanks for the read, RedMagic1.

The dust up from my original posting will die down with time, and the surgeons told me I should recover from having my foot removed from my mouth in another 6 to 8 weeks. Meanwhile, the Lord willing and the river not risin', construction sites will begin appearing from the ashes of the economic bust, and I'll be back at it for another season - a welcome addition for the sailing kitty.

I think I'll do a bit more reading before contributing more grist for the mill.

(in reply to RedMagic1)

Profile

Post #: 25

RE: Throwin' it out there - 4/6/2013 10:49:59 AM

ClassAct2006

Posts: 318
Joined: 4/12/2006
Status: offline

It is fine. It is best to be honest about yourself. I do not find men with beards attractive so that would immediately exclude you (but that is only my problem). Also saying you are not romantic is fine although I think profiles are best to show what you are rather than what you are not. That would put me off too. Lots of women avoid engineer technical men with few personal skills and no romance. Most women like some romance. It is not very hard even if your nose is always in a technical manual to make some effort and tell her she's lovely and buy her flowers.

(in reply to Prestones)

Profile

Post #: 26

RE: Throwin' it out there - 4/6/2013 11:31:03 PM

Prestones

Posts: 7
Joined: 7/4/2012
Status: offline

I was really looking for comments about my profile, ClassAct2006, rather than suggestions for much-needed improvements in my appearance or personality. You don't want to mess with perfection

Sooo... (with your permission), I'll keep my beard trimmed reasonably well, and see if there's anyone out there interested in me as I am, as opposed to the multitudes who'd like me to change. As I see it, those who'd like to change me are on every street corner, and I'd have to change personalities in the middle of every block to try to accommodate everyone - and would just confuse everyone in the process (myself included).
I do understand that women like romance, and simply pointed out my shortcoming earlier rather than later in an effort to avoid an ugly surprise. For those who do find romance in a fire on the beach after a spectacular sunset, wonderful. I enjoy it as well, and I enjoy being in the company of someone else who also enjoys it - whatever the reason for their enjoyment. I'm just not the guy who lays his jacket in a puddle for his lady - and don't see that changing anytime soon.

quote:

ORIGINAL: ClassAct2006

... I think profiles are best to show what you are rather than what you are not.

In keeping with your suggestion, I did not say I drink very little, don't smoke or do drugs, or that I don't gamble or hunt (although all are true). Get back with me if you sort out all the double negatives - I need clarification.
I'm good with who I am, despite my warts and blemishes.