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RE: Sub guys dream ot Domme losing control - 4/11/2013 7:07:15 PM

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but caring of itself puts bounds in place that seem pretty hard to overcome... though I can't say that I've ever genuinely tried to push past the bounds either, caring makes you not really desire to push passed them either.

I would say that it makes more "unrewarding" than anything else. It becomes undesirable (which in turn makes it hard) because you KNOW it'll be unrewarding. In fact, my own particular experience doing this turned out exactly as I might have expected. Given that there's been no particular incentive to repeat the experiment. As others have said, might make good masturbation material but I sincerely doubt even someone with those fantasies would've enjoyed what happened between Carol and I. Then again, perhaps I'm wrong.

What I didn't do is "lose control". That is a direct offense against my own self image. To "lose control" for me is to "lose dominance" which is sort of how I see myself. It's a traumatic blow done to my self-image and one I try to avoid whenever possible.

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RE: Sub guys dream ot Domme losing control - 4/11/2013 7:53:03 PM

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When i consider what i fantasis (spell?) about, and consider those acts in real life, i shrink. There is no way i would want them to happen for real.

I have a feeling that the OP would get into that position and regret it.

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RE: Sub guys dream ot Domme losing control - 4/11/2013 9:33:09 PM

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Doesthis ever happen? A Domme woman puts a sub guy in bondage, starts to cane him, then gets carried away completely ignoring his limits? John in London UK.

If you write the words, "Doesthis ever happen?"

99.9% of the time the answer will be yes.

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RE: Sub guys dream ot Domme losing control - 4/12/2013 1:14:19 AM

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I actually know of a lot of boys that have this thought in their head often and I think the op might not understand the difference between real and (I'll admit it) mind fucking the hell out of a sub. I had a boy that for years pushed and pushed me to try and make me let go of control. I fixed his issue one night by binding him, sitting on his chest, and telling him that if he lied to me one more time I was going to cut his tounge out of his face. I was holding a boneing knife at the time and his desire for me to lose control went away very quickly.

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RE: Sub guys dream ot Domme losing control - 4/12/2013 5:30:55 PM

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Oh, it's not just sub guys... I can totally understand the fantasy. I've often had fantasies -from both a top as well as a bottom point of view- in which there is a complete and utter disregard and lack of caring about any kind of consent, limits, or legalities. Not necessarily in a "loss of control" type scenario, but more the deliberate, callous indifference to any sort of boundary.

Well, sure, I write that sort of stuff all the time. It's porn. Doesn't mean I want it to happen in real life, and I sincerely hope my readers don't either.

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RE: Sub guys dream ot Domme losing control - 4/12/2013 5:32:21 PM

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I actually know of a lot of boys that have this thought in their head often and I think the op might not understand the difference between real and (I'll admit it) mind fucking the hell out of a sub. I had a boy that for years pushed and pushed me to try and make me let go of control. I fixed his issue one night by binding him, sitting on his chest, and telling him that if he lied to me one more time I was going to cut his tounge out of his face. I was holding a boneing knife at the time and his desire for me to lose control went away very quickly.

I think the OP might have fallen in love...

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