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NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/17/2013 9:18:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Charles6682 A kind heart. Is that too much to ask for in a Domme? Actually, some Dommes do have kind hearts. I am very kind sometimes. And also sadistic at other times. [;)] NBMG

Charles6682 -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/18/2013 3:14:36 PM)
That's a good answer! quote: ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl quote: ORIGINAL: Charles6682 A kind heart. Is that too much to ask for in a Domme? Actually, some Dommes do have kind hearts. I am very kind sometimes. And also sadistic at other times. [;)] NBMG

Charles6682 -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/18/2013 3:19:59 PM)
Heart's in JARS?!?!?! I've been to Maine before. Isn't that where Stephen King is from and where he get's a lot of his idea's for his movies and books?!?!?! I hear Maine is a very nice state :)!!!! Nice Autumns up there! quote: ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl quote: ORIGINAL: Charles6682 I know better than to expect every Domme to have a heart. I just hope that I can attract the right Domme for me, who also has a heart. quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl If that is what you are seeking, no. If you expect every Domme to have one, yes. Oh no no no....you asked for a kind heart... they all have hearts... some are just more sadistic than others Well, I have a "Sadistically Kind" heart...I also keep hearts in JARS. You really should be more SPECIFIC.

garyFLR -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/19/2013 12:18:05 AM)
Maine is a very nice State. If I know what's good for me it is [:D]!

Charles6682 -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/19/2013 12:50:40 AM)
Me too, lol quote: ORIGINAL: garyFLR Maine is a very nice State. If I know what's good for me it is [:D]!

garyFLR -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/19/2013 1:09:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Charles6682 Me too, lol quote: ORIGINAL: garyFLR Maine is a very nice State. If I know what's good for me it is [:D]! [:D].

slaveinprivate -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/29/2013 12:51:29 PM)
I get ignored and that works for me. I started out wanting a relationship and having ideas about what that would be like. From that perspective I could have answered your question, listed what I wanted, given examples, expressed my desires. Since then have I realized and embraced the futility of wanting anything. Now when I want something I can put up an ad, get ignored, or get told I am doing it wrong, or something negative like that. I can write something online and people will put me down or just ignore me. The reason I wanted a D/s relationship in the first place was for its honesty. Nothing is more honest than when people who want nothing to do with you ignore you or tell you to shut up and go away, go to hell, you're stupid, and so forth. The frankness of hostility and indifference would have been included in my old list of what I wanted.

DarkSteven -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/29/2013 1:59:51 PM)
Um, I choose to ignore that...

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/29/2013 3:34:38 PM)
Slaveinprivate, You've only joined CM today and you're already frustrated? Give it a chance, not everyone is hostile and indifferent. Some of us really do want to know what subs want/need in a relationship. That's why I am asking this question. I'm sorry you feel that way. NBMG

slaveinprivate -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/29/2013 5:39:32 PM)
I'm not frustrated. I'm apathetic. I don't care. I don't want anything that I can't get from people who ignore me, dislike me, put me down. Totally satisfied with reality. I already lived my life. I just haven't died yet. I answered with what came to mind about how I used to want something then stopped wanting anything. My reply was out of place in your thread but I did it anyway, not to be a pest, but to be saying something. Not sure why I keep going online like this. Figuring things out slows way down after you stopped caring why.

Politesub53 -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/29/2013 6:05:42 PM)
I want a Mistress that looks good, indulges me, and sees to me needs. her being able to cook, iron and take out the rubbish would be an added bonus. [8D]

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (6/29/2013 10:55:04 PM)
lol

slaveinprivate -> RE: What do Subs Want in a Mistress/Domme? (7/4/2013 3:22:19 PM)
Wanting something for myself goes against needing to be abused. Asking for anything or spelling out what I like presents the same problem. I can say what I need in one word: abuse. Not getting it is impossible, but certain forms of it hit home harder and that makes a difference in terms of needing it more and responding more strongly to it. I have no idea what is behind the need to abuse or any enjoyment in dishing it out. That is the other side of the equation. On my side I only know from past experience that certain things were significant and those come to mind as examples of what I would walk into instead of away from. It's hard to express a perverse need beyond illustrating it with scenes in which it comes into play. But to then say that is what I want sounds like the scene is about me, when it should be about the person inflicting the abuse for their own reason. That matters because it is only punishment when it is meant as such and otherwise it is a reward. I think of how people say if you get mad, hit a pillow. I am a pillow to hit. To hit one when you're not mad represents a different experience. Anger isn't the only emotional source of an impulse to abuse, but it's at the top of the list. I think I might be looking for something beyond what is usually done and for reasons that make it improbable to find in BDSM. In my past relationships there were so-called good and bad emotions being expressed. Have whatever emotion you do. Feel exactly as you do. Lash out when the impulse to lash out comes. Be honest all around and don't suppress what are usually called the negative emotions. Being deprived of the pain leaves the pleasure meaningless and the connection incomplete. Uncensored expression and full intensity.

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