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So how long should parents wait?
How long should schools allow a kid to be bullied?
K.
LaFontaine said the kid looked weird,in this piece......so maybe the bulling thing is all in his head.....
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http://www.duluthnewstribune.com/event/article/id/259109/
On April 22, 1992, Adam Peter Lanza was born.
She confided in Marvin LaFontaine, a close friend and leader of Ryan’s Cub Scout pack, that she was suffering from a potentially fatal autoimmune deficiency, an unspecified disease that seemed to come and go. She told LaFontaine that she hadn’t even revealed her illness to family members.
Move to Newtown
When her husband landed a job with General Electric in Connecticut in 1998, Lanza agreed to the move because she believed it would be good for the boys.
Nancy Lanza would settle in quickly at her new home in Newtown’s Sandy Hook section.
Her elder son, Ryan, 10 at the time, found niches early in Newtown. He joined the basketball, karate and debate teams. And there was good news about her younger son, Adam, who had been diagnosed with the sensory disorder before she left New Hampshire. Adam had a birthday party, with 26 “new friends.”
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Wipprecht’s autistic son, Miles, and Adam were in the first grade together at Sandy Hook Elementary. The two mothers would share stories about their sons, Wipprecht said, and Miles was one of more than 20 classmates who attended Adam’s sixth birthday party at a duckpin bowling center in Danbury.
“I guess she was worried that he had ... some kind of neurobiological condition,” Wipprecht recalled. “I thought it was his shyness and uncomfortableness ... in large social situations. I mean, a class of 20 people is a lot for a 6-year-old to handle.”
She said Lanza told her she was considering taking Adam out of Sandy Hook and enrolling him in a local parochial school “because classes were smaller and she thought he might do better there.”
When she did not see Adam at Sandy Hook the following school year, Wipprecht said, she assumed he went to the parochial school.
But Adam never actually left the Newtown school district. He remained enrolled, entering a special program in which he did prepared lessons at home, according to a family member of Nancy Lanza who spoke on the condition of anonymity.
Lanza would take Adam back to Sandy Hook Elementary after hours to do the work he could not do at home.
Adam’s problems with social interaction and communicating with others began to escalate in middle school, when the chaos and noise of students changing classes upset him. Nancy Lanza’s response was to withdraw Adam from the middle school.
But when Lanza again raised the possibility of moving to a smaller town with smaller schools, a professional in the Newtown system told her that Adam needed stability and that moving would be the worst thing she could do, the family member said.
She took that advice and stayed put, but she wasn’t always accepting of help for Adam.
“There’s a lot of counseling help available and not all of it’s good,” LaFontaine said. “She was very particular about who she would bring him to.”
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When Adam Lanza entered the school, he began to spend time with Richard Novia, a former corporate security director and licensed private investigator who was security chief for Newtown schools.
Novia was an adviser to the tech club, which he had started in the 1990s with three students. It had grown to 40 students by the time Adam arrived.
The students produced Channel 17, an award-winning, townwide cable access channel on which they showed filmed football and basketball games, parades, graduations, and other school events. The kids programmed robots and rebuilt computers. Some of them run tech companies now.
The club also became a family of sorts, bonding during overnight romps in the school, with Novia presiding over a slate of events that included capture the flag and video-game marathons.
One of the mainstays of the club was Ryan Lanza, four years older than his little brother. Ryan often served as kind of a caretaker when Adam was away from Nancy Lanza.
Novia tagged the skinny, withdrawn Adam right away as someone who could be bullied, and immediately reached out to Adam’s mother.
“I interacted with his parent early on to find out as much as I could,” Novia said. “As a staff member, and certainly a person who’s going to be overseeing your child, I need to know what I’m dealing with ... so my interaction with Nancy Lanza was really, ‘Tell me about Adam. Tell me what, how you deal with Adam.’”
Novia said that there was a climate of caring in the school, and that children such as Adam had administrators, teachers, cafeteria workers and custodians watching out for them. Adam Lanza was enrolled in a special-education program geared for children with social-interaction deficiencies. Novia said Adam had a school psychologist and attended mainstream classes in his core subjects.
But he also had serious difficulties. An image has emerged in the media of a scared child, hugging the wall and clinging to his briefcase in the din of the hallways between class bells.
But it went beyond that. A change in routine or unwanted excitement, such as his friends suddenly queuing up for a game of capture the flag, could lead to what Novia described as a complete shutdown.
“Adam had episodes, it was the best way I can describe them to you, where he would completely withdraw. Again, he would go backwards ... he would pull back within himself entirely. And getting him to come back out of that required my attention.”
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Doesn`t sound like much bullying going on there.He never really went to the elimentry school,that he targeted(he was home schooled)....and HS seems to be about as good as any special needs kid could get....
Should we do something about divorce?
Or stop parents of yong children from remarrying(the reason the killer shut off his dad)?
Should we blame the mom,for going to the bar while letting her kid play violent video games?
Should we shut off kids like this,cuz they might have "episodes"?
How about we outlaw special needs kids from learning Mandarin........cuz it may lead to nazism....err...sorry  I meant mass shootings...
< Message edited by Owner59 -- 4/8/2013 10:28:27 PM >
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