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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 1:14:25 AM

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They are only "lesser" or "weaker" in your opinion, and sorry, but anyone who bullies people they see as lesser and weaker is covering their own inadequacies. So no, you aren't any kind of dominant.

And it was you who said you were or were on the brink of being someone important in the entertainment industry.

You have completely missed the point, so let me make it much clearer.

So far, you have bragged about being a bully, being better than other people (in your opinion), and how this whole "BDSM" thing could hurt your career in the entertainment industry.

Again, go make a sex tape and release it on the net. One of two things will happen. Your star will either skyrocket up the fame scale or no one will even give a shit for a NY minute. I'm betting on the latter.

My suggestion to you is that you find yourself a good therapist and figure out why you exhibit such attention seeking behavior and why you have this desire to bully others in your attempts to prop yourself up.

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 1:19:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: Poloboi234

UllrsIshtar- Yes you're correct. I like to dominate "lesser or weaker" men is my kink.

Again, that is NOT what I said, do you have trouble reading simple English?

What you do is domineer men you consider to be (not ARE) weaker than yourself.

You do NOT dominate anybody.

If you don't know the difference between domineer and dominate look it up, they are NOT the same thing.

You do this because you have an infiriority complex and are insecure because you know you're not at all as dominant as you'd like the world to think you are.

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 5:58:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: Poloboi234

LadyLaffeyette- I'm not an actor, or anything that would be or deemed in the "media" think in the business sense.

I am a bully of sorts.., I'll take that. But someone up there got it right. I like to dominate lesser men, BDSM or SM gave an avenue from that, and I don't want to be really having sexual relations with random peoples wives for the (*cuck old scenes) so thought maybe BDSM would fulfill it.. it does not. So I now know.. but thanks for your concern. Love yah.

You know, you could just go and find single, unattached women.

OP,
To put it simply, you don't just have issues, you have an over-flowing house full of subscriptions.

You are right to be concerned you might hurt someone.... it is entirely possible because you have no idea what you are doing.

There are many lonely people out there who would happily trade being beaten for affection afterwards.
There are also people who are masochists you would love to be beaten with no sex or other strings attached... but there is a technique to beating someone, and my strong suspicion is you do not know how to play safely.
Have you ever attended a class or demo?
Gone to a munch?
Read SM 101 by Jay Wiseman?
Or is (as I suspect) your BDSM knowledge pretty much *porn-driven?
(Porn is make-believe btw)

You see, if you were going to those sorts of things, you would actually see it is not uncommon for a straight guy at a play party to be topping a male bottom (and sex is not only off the table; it is the rule).

You can stay away from BDSM (if you don't find yourself compelled to go back), but your desire to lord over other men will not go away.
Being a social bully will not win you friends in the entertainment business, but if it isn't a problem for you... then hey, it isn't a problem for you.

If you ever decide it is a problem then you can find a therapist and work with them on your multiple issues... and more likely than not find personal contentment and even, happiness.

edit: typo

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 8:23:12 AM

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But someone up there got it right. I like to dominate lesser men,

Not what I said... I said you like domineering what you consider to be weaker men.

If had ANY suspicion at all that it was dominating you enjoyed, I'd never tell you BDSM isn't for you.

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ORIGINAL: Poloboi234

UllrsIshtar- Yes you're correct. I like to dominate "lesser or weaker" men is my kink.

You missed what she said not once, but twice!

You don't dominate, you domineer...and there's a big difference between the two.

You bully people. Your humiliation post proves that.

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 8:34:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: Poloboi234

LadyLaffeyette- I'm not an actor, or anything that would be or deemed in the "media" think in the business sense.

I am a bully of sorts.., I'll take that. But someone up there got it right. I like to dominate lesser men, BDSM or SM gave an avenue from that, and I don't want to be really having sexual relations with random peoples wives for the (cuck old scenes) so thought maybe BDSM would fulfill it.. it does not. So I now know.. but thanks for your concern. Love yah.

Actually, those men are not "less" than you; in fact, since they know what they want and don't start multiple threads discussing how they are not really gay, how they are so confused, how this lifestyle is not for them, etc. I would say that you are clearly the "lesser" man in all your encounters.

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 12:10:28 PM

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To those about the men being "less" or "lesser" than me please let me clarify. I meant in the sense of just "Alpha maleness" like I'm physically more appealling, stronger etc...

They are probably "greater" than me in the real sense since they know what they want, and they are willing to submit. I am just manly, and always loved the "Alpha male' mystic in my life and social interactions I have done (sports, wrestling, football, etc..) it's more of a game to me, but as I got older saw my friends less, and this was a subistiute for that affection I guess?(though not a good one).

But through out this I realized my sexulality, and sometimes I wish I was 'gay', because of the amount of tail I have been offered being a "top" and being a horny bastard. I'd be walking around like king of the world nailing wholes all day, and walking around like a stud. But, I'm not gay and I don't find the affection, kissing, or nibbling, cuddling appealing at all with a man. I just don't. I won't ever. I feel disgusted and I want a female. I like playing with there orgasms though as a sort of "shame" or belittleing of a lesser "man" (in my opinion, though probably not true). Also I came on here to speak on my thoughts.. I thought that was what forums were for.

I love the input, and the harsh criticism, as you all just reaffirmed what I thought. I was trying to make myself "fit" into a scene that isn't, and I don't know if it will ever be for me. I'm not that much of a sexual person at all. I am a good lover (from what I've been told) but I don't crave sex all the time, or need it. For me it's more of during an urge type of thing, once in a while. Also I have to "care" about the person before I have sex with them. I can't just nail random strippers, or whores, or anything, I need to actually "want" to have sex with them.

But thanks for the clarity. I think my doing it without my friends or people in my social circle knowing was part of the perversion.. but I don't think "kink" should interfere or f*ck up your life in anyway.. also someone earler posted that I relent to people during role play, cuz I feel like "man, he came all this way, or she came here... I can give in a little and let he/she give me head if they want (though it takes about an 1-2hrs for me to get off, and I have to picture me boning a girl, or the girl belittling the guy in front of me, or me boning the girl in front of the guy to get off..) and that's the problem. I don't really want to do any of that. Just make them my bottom, or pain slut, then leave... but I'm not venturing into like the life style where I can find those. Most people that are into "pain" are not the most mentally stable, or normal (look whose talking?) and I'm more of a mild type guy in that. Like I explained before.

It's just something I thought about. Being a master from what I have learned through this site as well as reading is very serious business, so I have to make sure the other person is getting what they bargined for through this... I just realize that for the way I look, and for what I want... I can't really be into this, and also I don't really want to "hurt" the person, more belittle, and humiliation.. so that kills a lot of it. Also the sexual stuff turns me off completely... it's sad I know. But I wanted to get into BDSM for the "kink", the "taboo", and just to find a role play partner to (role play with) and understand the state of mind of "dominance and submission" from a first person perspective... I didn't realize the entire scene is based off for the most part "sex". I thought sex was kind of the back drop.. not the fore front.. I digress...

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 5:45:40 PM

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Yep, you are still a clueless bully. And a narcissist. Therapy is really your only hope for a more fulfilling life.

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 7:13:05 PM

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Dude, getting somebody to call you "master" while they are sucking your dick doesn't make you one. If the guy had called you the Queen of England while he was gobbling your knob, would you have believed you were royalty?

These endless posts about your confusion and your woes and all of the bs honestly don't matter to anyone but you. The more you type, the more you show just ever so much more clearly about how you haven't mastered yourself, anyone around you, or any part of your life. You can't even deal with your own issues, so you're bringing them to a message board.

No, you're not a weirdo. I do think you have some things that you are wrestling with yourself over. Frankly, fix those areas first. You are using BDSM and all kinds of other things for a crutch rather than looking at the problem(s), which from these posts I can tell you are within yourself.

By the way, yes, I'm from a small town. It doesn't mean that I have to use that as an excuse for behavior.

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 7:14:41 PM

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Didn't think the whole "I'm done" thing was going to stick. Gonna be 100% straight up honest here. OP, you've got issues. Unsettled things in the dark recesses of your mind. And until you get your issues sorted out in your own mind, this drama you talk about on here over and over again is going to be your version of the movie Groundhog Day. And it's flat out fucking wrong to keep using people the way you say you do as a way to avoid facing your issues. You complain about all these people you deal with getting the wrong idea about you. But the common thread here is YOU, not them. Im of the honest opinion that you are telling them one thing and telling us another. Frankly you've got unresolved shit to deal with on your own before you drag people into your mess.

The sign of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again...and expecting different results. You screaming over and over again "but I'm not gay" is irrelevant. You make a bigger stink about your own sexuality than anyone else is. Take me for example. I've done things with women, had them do things with me, etc. All for a very good reason of course. I'm bisexual and I freely admit it. I don't pound my chest and scream "Im straight" while I have some chick go down on me. Again you make sure to always focus attention on your sexuality in the posts I've seen of yours over the past few months. Seriously dude, figure your shit out and quit dragging others you deal with into this mess until you do. It's not fair to them. And you aren't being fair to yourself either.

I've said it before and I'll say it again. You make your life entirely more fucking complicated than it needs to be.

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/10/2013 8:05:40 PM

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Most people that are into "pain" are not the most mentally stable, or normal (look whose talking?) and I'm more of a mild type guy in that.

Dude, where on Earth did you get that misguided fucked up idea?

Masochism isn't at all an indication of mental instability. In fact, in research done it was indicated that BDSMers have slightly less mental health issue than the general population.

Most masochist are well rounded, stable, emotionally and mentally mature human beings... unlike yourself.

They're often very self-awere, and in tune with their own emotions and desires... unlike yourself.

If the type of people you've been meeting are mentally unstable masochists, that says something about YOU... it says nothing at all about a correlation between masochism and mental instability.

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RE: So I tried to see if I was truly done... - 4/13/2013 8:17:02 PM

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