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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 3:37:59 PM   
Rawni


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ORIGINAL: atoyslave

There is a difference between being mean and giving advice.


Yes there is and there is also a difference in a man showing a bit of respect and wanting to use women to please himself because he loves pleasing them and his wife has given him permission to go have fun and then complains because no one is jumping at the chance.

I guess we can all work on our little issues, if we do indeed have them.

I do find it interesting when a wife needs to come in and defend her husband. Watch it... I am going to be mean again... another flaw in a submissive... in my mean opinion of course.

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 3:44:14 PM   
atoyslave


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Status: offline 		You know what it is hard enough to put yourself out here in the public as it is and to do it wrong or right doesn't matter. In all honesty Mike is very reserved and this was coming out of his box to come here and ask the questions.
When he was replying to "true" it was bad wording. He is not trying to call anyone true or not. He keeps getting the fake Dommes who want him to go to another website and pay money because they are fakes just working for money.
I understand you look at the profile. I was just trying to do my best writing his profile to be open and honest. I guess that was a bad idea. Live and learn!
He has no issue getting a real evaluation from a true Dominant woman! I have a issue of how mean you all are to someone new to the scene. It is bad enough to get into the scene in a new state after moving. Thank you so much for the warm welcome. I am not looking for your warm and fuzzy words i am just asking for a little respect for someone nicely asking a honest question.

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 3:44:18 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		ROFLMAO! Oh even better. The wife that comes to defend, wrote the profile that objectifies the very women she wants to fuck her husband.

It doesn't get any better than this. I love this place.

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 3:48:47 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: atoyslave
i am just asking for a little respect for someone nicely asking a honest question.

Respect is earned.

Honestly, you're not doing him any favors by defending him. I'm not saying anyone is right or wrong, but it would be better if he did his own defending.

And your attack on Boroana was uncalled for. She merely pointed out a discrepancy which led to questions of the veracity of the photos.


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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 3:50:44 PM   
atoyslave


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Status: offline 		He was asking what to do to better his profile and get some advice!

I am not defending him i am defending all the people who put them self out there and then people coming around and not being helpful and open minded to help out.

He can defend himself he just knows when he has hit a brick wall and when to stop. I am the crazy bitch to keep going. Of course like him i know when to stop.
I am sorry to see such a negative reaction. There are plenty of people in this world. Some are good and some are bad. The good news is that we all can choose who we are around.
I am sure there are people who will read this and realize that we have never disrespected anyone and would love to get to know more people in the central Missouri area with a open mind and not a bunch of negativity.

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 3:54:00 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: atoyslave
I am the crazy bitch to keep going.
Clearly.

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Of course like him i know when to stop.
Clearly not.


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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 3:58:47 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		Well, let see. Op says he was fairly active in the community you all were in before. You say you have many years in the lifestyle and he is new to the scene. Am I the only one seeing some conflicting information? He didn't ask for profile advice. He asked how to meet real dominant women because in the short time he has been here, no one is interested or they are fake. He asked, if he started the thread and not you... what he was doing wrong. He got answers.

You state that you have talked to some nice people in our area. Good! I do not represent them all, good or bad. So you know that not everyone is like the mean old Rawni. Maybe one of the nice ones will do him and won't mind all the things that others seemed to mind about his 'approach' or shall I say... YOUR approach.

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 3:58:55 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: atoyslave

You know what it is hard enough to put yourself out here in the public as it is and to do it wrong or right doesn't matter. In all honesty Mike is very reserved and this was coming out of his box to come here and ask the questions.


I applaud his courage.

quote:

When he was replying to "true" it was bad wording.


There is nothing wrong with the word 'true' but he might want to substitute the word 'compatible'.

quote:

He keeps getting the fake Dommes who want him to go to another website and pay money because they are fakes just working for money.


Better filters, a hefty dose of 'too good to be true' and realistic expectations should help with at least some of the noise.


quote:

I understand you look at the profile. I was just trying to do my best writing his profile to be open and honest. I guess that was a bad idea. Live and learn!


It was. Let him write his own profile so that 'his' personality shines through.. not yours. Or, even better.. consider a couples profile from the get go then write it together. No harm in looking for kinky at all. Hell, that's how I got into this gig in the first place. Kink sounded perfect for me. The rest grew from there.


quote:

He has no issue getting a real evaluation from a true Dominant woman!


ok.

quote:

I have a issue of how mean you all are to someone new to the scene.


We are not 'all' mean. Some are to be sure, but not all and not even most. Your issue seems to be one of wording which if you read what you post before hitting the send, you might pick up on subtle nuance and the see the differences in what you folks are presenting and what others are perceiving.

quote:

It is bad enough to get into the scene in a new state after moving. Thank you so much for the warm welcome. I am not looking for your warm and fuzzy words i am just asking for a little respect for someone nicely asking a honest question.


Courtesy, yes.. you will find that respect around these parts will have to be earned.



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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:00:42 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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We aren't all bad! lol.

But, FWIW, if someone comes onto a site such as this and asks for advice on their profile, it's going to be picked to pieces and devoured like vultures at a left-over kill.
It's like throwing yourself to the wolves then asking them to rip you to shreds... kindly.

Seriously though, as Oside said, respect is earned on any forum and to expect it right off the bat doesn't work in most instances.
He was given advice (albeit quite harshly) and was pointed to a couple of mistakes he'd made.
When you ask for critique, it isn't always going to be of the nice and friendly sort.

Take the snark in good humour and learn not to bite so hard.

ETA: just to say... a slip of a word in the kink scene, or even in vanilla, can be the difference between success or dismal failure.
And like any site, these things will take time. Some have been searching for years.
Tbh, what you seek is fairly rare and you are just one of very many.
And as someone mentioned earlier, you are trying to sell a bucket of sand to someone who lives in a desert - it ain't gonna be easy and if your profile comes across as "me, me, me..." you aren't going to be winning the salesman of the week award any time soon.


Just my


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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:01:09 PM   
atoyslave


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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:10:30 PM   
OralPleasure4You


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Status: offline 		@ atoyslave: There are many fakes on Collarme and I am not sure how to deal with them. I have always tried to be honest about myself. I finally just came to the decision that any response on here requesting I go to another website is a fake. As for Rawni or Lockit or whatever the hell she wants to call herself...she has been on her for years and probably will remain on here seeking her life partner. I treat everyone with respect and decency and I know many Dominants that do as well. She is not one of them. Maybe she feels treating a sub/slave like shit makes her Dominant. It doesn't. It just shows me she is a person that loves to kick people when they are down(need help). That must make her so proud of herself.

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:12:25 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		LOL... the guy I have blocked twice for spamming and sending the same emails to many women... that keeps coming back at me, has something to say about me.

I really do love this place!

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:17:03 PM   
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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:20:06 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		You forgot the soda! Even mean old wenches need a drink with that much pop corn or were you trying to choke me? ROFL... You wouldn't be the first from the sounds of it.

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:22:41 PM   
OralPleasure4You


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Status: offline 		Lol. Oh how special you are Rawni. I just love to be judged by someone who won't even take the time to find out who I am. I have actually had a lot of respect for you for a long time. But it is hard for me to respect someone who treats others like dirt just because he/she can.

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:24:57 PM   
punisher440


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Status: offline 		Geez,bring popcorn and still get complaints..ya just can't please some Dominas.Is this enough soda?




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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:27:57 PM   
OralPleasure4You


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Status: offline 		@punisher440 lmao. I would hope that would satisfy her! You better have found out what kind of soda she likes...she will just throw it in your face!

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:29:03 PM   
Rawni


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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:52:43 PM   
OralPleasure4You


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Status: offline 		My problem with your response is this Rawni/Lockit...You judging that submissive for what he is seeking because it is simply not what you think a sub/slave should be. Well, there are Dominants that seek life partners, Dominants that seek online, Dominants that seek fem dom, Dominants that seek play sessions, Dominants that seek 24/7, Dominants that seek sexual some seek non sexual. Why should you judge a sub/slave for not fitting into your life plan? What makes that man any less submissive than the submissive you seek?

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RE: Finding a True Domme - 4/10/2013 4:57:11 PM   
Rawni


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Status: offline 		He asked what he was doing wrong... we gave different answers... mine was one of them. You, the op and his wife may judge me for my opinion. It all works or doesn't. It really isn't important to me because he doesn't fit what I want in a partner. I commented on how he comes off and that could turn off even those that would want a similar situation that he wants.

It's a message board... my god... not life or death or even anything that will really hinder anyone unless they let it.

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