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Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allowed to) - 4/15/2013 10:14:52 PM

Swordling

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Hi. One situation of my life created a wish in my mind.The wish to put the task for Dom or Dommes. I tried to use simple constructions of language( I don't show disrespect you anyway, I doubt in my skill to use English).

Conditions of task:
You are Top(Dom). You offered session to a bottom woman. She was not your bottom female and asked permission for this from her Dom. Dom agreed. But he put following restrictions for this:

1. She is not allowed to take insults from you
2. Face of bottom feamle is hidden during the session.
3. She is not allowed to put any items into her (inside her) body.

Questions:
Are you able to make an online session with such restrictions?
Why do you think so?

I have my own answer, but I would to hear your opinions. The same task I put before Russian/Ukrainian BDSM comunnity. I want to compare opinions. Any opinion is allowed, of course.

Thanks for your attention. I hope it will be interesting discussion.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/15/2013 10:21:26 PM

LafayetteLady

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A more important question is why would you want to?

But ok, to answer your questions...

1. Many people are not into humiliation, so if the dom in question is, then the question is whether or not he can manage to session without humiliation.

2. Face hidden is not a problem at all. It could depend on what is meant by "hidden." Is it a paper bag over her head? Or simply a mask that covers her eyes? Or would the cam (which I assume is being used) only show her from the neck down?

Again, it all comes down to how important the dom in question feels about seeing the woman's face.

3. D/s is not all about sex. There are many things that can be done that don't involve penetration of any kind. If the dom in question wants to give sexual type orders, then this could be a problem.

Honestly, it sounds like this is something the dominant in question would not find satisfying, so he should pass.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/15/2013 10:45:50 PM

Swordling

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LafayetteLady,
So your answers:
1) Yes, it is possible
2) The true dominant is not refused by any restrictions. He could find her/his own way in every situation if he really interested in it
Do I undestand you reply correct?
Thanks for opinion.

< Message edited by Swordling -- 4/15/2013 10:53:43 PM >

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/15/2013 11:01:05 PM

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I don't know if you'll like my answers. But YOU asked:

1) if your Dom doesn't want you to be insulted that means he is protecting you. More importantly though he has just said that this is something I WILL NOT ALLOW someone to do to my property. I am guessing that he is protecting you, but I can't know his reasons. It doesn't matter to me why he wants that condition: if that condition is broken then someone has broken the agreement.

2) I don't know why this is desired, but, again, if the condition is broken so is the agreement.

3) The reasons for this should be obvious to you, but just in case it isn't: Most men don't like their women having things inside them that the man didn't put there. Extra angst if they have an agreement. This is probably the single most important point made to you.

I am trying to make this simple without scaring you: that 3rd rule is going to be a hard limit. Even vanilla men tend to get rather violent if that rule is broken. Some BDSM men don't care. But depending on how he's wired that could make him very dangerous.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/15/2013 11:20:38 PM

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No because I don't bother with online crap. I play rather regularly and I have absolutely no reason to want to type what I could be doing in real life. It honestly wouldn't be worth My time.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/15/2013 11:31:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MalcolmNathaniel
I don't know if you'll like my answers. But YOU asked:
...
I am trying to make this simple without scaring you: that 3rd rule is going to be a hard limit. Even vanilla men tend to get rather violent if that rule is broken. Some BDSM men don't care. But depending on how he's wired that could make him very dangerous.

I am not going to judge any opinion. I just listen them. So your answers:

1)No, because the third condition is made the session unreal mostly?
Do I understand you correct?

I noticed interesting thing (or it seems so it for me): I have an impression that you think that I asked about session. It is not correct. The offer was got my wife and I put the restrictions. So please don't be fast with the conclusions.
Well I add more one question:
Which conditions of the session would you set, If you would be Dom of the female?

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/15/2013 11:35:17 PM

Swordling

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

No because I don't bother with online crap. I play rather regularly and I have absolutely no reason to want to type what I could be doing in real life. It honestly wouldn't be worth My time.

In the case, why do you think that your opinion worth something in conditions of the task?

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/15/2013 11:47:48 PM

LadyPact

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Swordling
In the case, why do you think that your opinion worth something in conditions of the task?

Because I would encourage the participants to engage in the real thing, thereby a better experience for all involved.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/15/2013 11:55:31 PM

Swordling

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Because I would encourage the participants to engage in the real thing, thereby a better experience for all involved.

Ok. Your point of view is clear, I think. I don't agree with it, but your point is clear.
If you interest in my opinion, your opinion sounds for me as "Only real thing have right to exist. The fairy tale is [censored] and don't have right to exist."
Thx for your opinion.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 12:01:17 AM

LadyPact

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Fairy tales are fine. It's just that reality is more fulfilling. How many folks do you know that engage in the physical world of BDSM and then go back to the online bunk because it's better?

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 12:11:09 AM

Swordling

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Fairy tales are fine. It's just that reality is more fulfilling. How many folks do you know that engage in the physical world of BDSM and then go back to the online bunk because it's better?

Near 5, if be honest.... It depends on person. who creates tales. But number of them is small, it is true. But will you stop read good books and see good films if you already had tried to do what was described in it? I don't think so. It is only my opinion of course.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 12:13:08 AM

SpanishMatMaster

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Swordling
Are you able to make an online session with such restrictions?
Why do you think so?

Yes, I would be able. As for: It is possible. I think so because an "online session" can be as simple as controlling her body position with commands.

This answer your questions, which is what you wanted, isn't it? Us to answer the questions. Nothing more.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 12:22:44 AM

Swordling

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SpanishMatMaster

quote:

ORIGINAL: Swordling
Are you able to make an online session with such restrictions?
Why do you think so?
Yes, I would be able. As for: It is possible. I think so because an "online session" can be as simple as controlling her body position with commands.
This answer your questions, which is what you wanted, isn't it? Us to answer the questions. Nothing more.

Thx for opinion. It seems for me as opinion of real male. Male said, Male did, nothing more.
My opinion almost the same. Top must have enough imagination.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 12:27:22 AM

LadyPact

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Swordling
Near 5, if be honest.... It depends on person. who creates tales. But number of them is small, it is true. But will you stop read good books and see good films if you already had tried to do what was described in it? I don't think so. It is only my opinion of course.

Wow. A whole five, huh?

Tell you what. We've done the "would you go back to online only" threads multiple times, so I'm rather confident that people prefer the real thing if they have experienced it before.

Enjoy your thread but don't be surprised if I'm the only one who isn't willing to settle for less.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 12:34:13 AM

Swordling

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Enjoy your thread but don't be surprised if I'm the only one who isn't willing to settle for less.

I'm in the your way you somehow? Please let me go my way, we do not interfere with each other, do we?
But again, thx for your opinion.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 2:12:13 AM

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Slap a mask on her, and do impact play and sensation play all you want.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 3:18:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Slap a mask on her, and do impact play and sensation play all you want.

This isn't specifically aimed at you Steven but people who do these online sessions in general. How does impact play and sensation play work when you're not physically present?

I know I couldn't physically hit myself with any degree of force - my brain just wouldn't allow it. Not to mention there would be lots of places I couldn't reach. And I imagine a lot of sensation play wouldn't do much for me either. It'd be like trying to tickle yourself; you know what's coming and exactly what to expect.

I can see having someone spank themselves as a humiliation thing, perhaps?

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 4:09:12 AM

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Agreed - "play" on-line for me is a big hoohum. If i want to masterbate, a good book, a comfortable bed and some lube is way better for me...

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 5:52:48 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Slap a mask on her, and do impact play and sensation play all you want.

This isn't specifically aimed at you Steven but people who do these online sessions in general. How does impact play and sensation play work when you're not physically present?

I know I couldn't physically hit myself with any degree of force - my brain just wouldn't allow it. Not to mention there would be lots of places I couldn't reach. And I imagine a lot of sensation play wouldn't do much for me either. It'd be like trying to tickle yourself; you know what's coming and exactly what to expect.

I can see having someone spank themselves as a humiliation thing, perhaps?

Well, yeah. You work within the parameters you're given.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 6:33:21 AM

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Yes, I would be able to do this if I wanted to.
No, I would not want to.

For me, I would not want to because I do not "play". I do have people who know me from online only and to varying degrees they obey. But the sort of commands/suggestions/advice I give tend to be much more real-life and much less play.

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