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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 6:43:37 AM

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Ok, so "online" isn't my thing, which means that my view is probably not all that relevant. Nor is "playing with someone else's sub" - That isn't to say that I think they're wrong, just that they're not for me.

If I were into the idea of playing online with someone's sub, then sure those conditions don't seem terribly unreasonable.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 9:13:55 AM

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I'd have no interest in this personally. I am not an online BDSM fan at all, but to each their own I guess. Because my heart wasn't in it, I'd not be able to make a session out of this. I'd rather do just about anything else I'd consider more interesting than online BDSM. An example of something more interesting than online BDSM? Watching paint dry comes to mind.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 10:04:19 AM

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First of all, I don't do online as I think it's silly. AND normally I don't Top/Domme females. I deal with males and I will answer accordingly. When I was new to this, I tried online but no longer.

You are Top(Dom). You offered session to a bottom woman. She was not your bottom female and asked permission for this from her Dom. Dom agreed. But he put following restrictions for this:

1. She is not allowed to take insults from you
Of course I could do a session without insulting someone. I am not into humiliation or dishing out insults.
2. Face of bottom feamle is hidden during the session.
Of course I could manage that. He would be wearing either a blindfold, hood, or his face would be beyond the scope of the webcam.
3. She is not allowed to put any items into her (inside her) body.
Of course that's doable. Whether the bottom is a woman or a man, one can use insertables but doesn't have to. Just don't do it. It may surprise you, but not all D/s is sexual and, even if it is going to be sexual, things don't have to be inserted. There are many other things to do.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 12:06:14 PM

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Yes to all.

No I wouldn't . . . it doesn't sound like very much fun, especially the being online part.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 12:40:36 PM

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Are you able to make an online session with such restrictions?
Sure.

Why do you think so?
The three conditions listed are very simple and straight-forward. There is still a lot of "room to work" within those restrictions.

I have no desire to top or bottom with anyone else, online or not. But I don't think there is anything wrong at all with online play.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 12:48:33 PM

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My Mister would say sure it can be done, but he'd have no interest. Not only does online play not appeal to him but he likes to look into a woman's eyes.

I'm sure there are folks out there who would enjoy this, but we wouldn't fall into that camp.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 6:50:32 PM

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anything is possible online. It's online. It's fantasy. I could pretend to do ALLLLL kinds of things without having actually done any single one of them.

Online=pretend. Pretend=fantasy. Fantasy=all is possible

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 8:05:27 PM

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He doesn't humiliate me. I'm usually blindfolded so that counts as having my face covered. He hasn't used an insertable toy in me for years. Doesn't do much for him.

OP, your profile says you're part of a couple. Would you be happy to stop ever seeing her again, no hugs, no kisses, no sex, no cooking you dinner and instead just tell her you love her over skype for the rest of your life? If not, then why can't you understand that we feel the same about play?

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 10:30:07 PM

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To ALL

Thanks to all, who were deciding the task in the topic.
Thanks to all, who were transforming the task in the showdown between online and real.
I would to add the notice to it. If you refuses to some part of Universe, Universe becomes poorer. And you too. Because you are part of Universe.
Personally I have pleasure from both parts - I have enough real and I have enough online. It developes me as creator and that's why I don't understand why one of it is killer of other ( as thinks someones in the topic) .
I will provide you answers from Russian comunnity below.
Watch for updates

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/16/2013 11:14:18 PM

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You do need a little more instruction in this language.

I only think that I know what you were saying and I have spent a lot of time around people who can't speak English.

I am not trying to insult you. I am trying to say that you are asking hard questions without being able to fully understand the answers.

So I will tell you this: Your wife is beautiful. Just seeing the side of her face is enough to tell me that. Covering up her face would qualify as "crimes against humanity" in my opinion. I don't do online, but that alone would make it a bad time.

I have tried to use common words. If you have questions about my words please feel free to ask.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/17/2013 3:26:27 AM

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I understand you.
Thanks for your opinion and words that full of tolerance and patience (to? with? of?) my usage of English.
I don't get any insults from anyone in the topic. Really. It is just curiousity, just interest.
I won't give any insult to someone too.
And I try to increase my feeling of shades in the language, but you know, the common sin - everyone want to say, anyone won't to listen:) But it is a life:)
Thank you for the compliment to my wife. I will give it necessary to her)

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/17/2013 6:56:04 PM

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I do enjoy online sessions (from both ends). So what it's not same as hands on. Neither is a movie about nature, compared to going outside and experiencing it fully. I still watch nature documentaries, on rainy cold evenings. One doesn't take away from the other!

Having said that, to the questions:

Yes, it can be done.

No, i would not like doing it. I would feel like the other Top is trying to top me, and i'm not interested.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/17/2013 7:01:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KidnapPrincess
...Neither is a movie about nature, compared to going outside and experiencing it fully. I still watch nature documentaries, on rainy cold evenings. One doesn't take away from the other!

*chuckles* I'm stealing that line. That is just perfect.

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RE: Task for Doms or Dommes (opinion of bottoms is allo... - 4/17/2013 8:46:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KidnapPrincess
I do enjoy online sessions (from both ends). So what it's not same as hands on. Neither is a movie about nature, compared to going outside and experiencing it fully. I still watch nature documentaries, on rainy cold evenings.

Yes, that was very beautiful indeed.

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