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Swordling -> Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 3:41:15 AM)

I continue testing of your patience, sorry for that). But I am curious (?) your replies, even if i don't understand it completely.

Task2
You are Top.
Your bottom female (very real) dutifully informed you about desire of some Top. Desire/wish to spend time with her in the virtual session.
You asked her "Do you need it?"
She said, "I do not know. I will do as you say"


Do You allow or disallow this?
Why do you accept such a solution?



DarkSteven -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 4:20:55 AM)

My sub is mine. Period. I might allow her to session with someone else, IF I knew him/her and trusted them. And I set up some guidelines in place.

But someone I knew nothing about? Who had made no effort to get to know her? And had never even talked with me, so I had no feel for what he or she was like?

No way.



angelikaJ -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 4:28:58 AM)

[My] Master does not share.
Period.



Swordling -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 4:40:47 AM)

So, two No.
Thx for opinions.
Does somebody have other thought?

And could you explain what "Period" means in the context for me? Thx.



DarkSteven -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 4:45:01 AM)

"Period" means "end of argument", no more discussion, that an answer cannot be swayed.



Swordling -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 4:53:09 AM)

quote:

"Period" means "end of argument", no more discussion, that an answer cannot be swayed.

Thanks for explaination.



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 8:07:33 AM)

~FRing it~

I don't generally share what is mine either. I have to know the other person really well and have respect for them as a dominant before considering something. That is, of course, if the potential for another is in the dynamic to begin with. If my submissive and I agreed beforehand that no others were allowed...no others would be allowed. And I sure as hell don't allow/do virtual BDSM, so that would be an automatic no guaranteed. Someone can go get their cyber jollies somewhere else.



JeffBC -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 8:24:58 AM)

Well... in this situation you have a neutral vote from one party. I'd need to hear what the other Top/Dom wanted and why before I made a decision since at this point I have almost no information. My answer is "Maybe. It depends on what is being requested and why."



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 9:42:47 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Swordling
Task2
You are Top.
Your bottom female (very real) dutifully informed you about desire of some Top. Desire/wish to spend time with her in the virtual session.
You asked her "Do you need it?"
She said, "I do not know. I will do as you say"


Do You allow or disallow this?
Why do you accept such a solution?

If my male bottom/sub told me about a Top/Domme wanting to play with him virtually/cyber, I would say no. I will share within limits but there is no way to get to know the person well enough to decide if she's just cyber/online. I would need to know her in person. Anyone I'd have as a sub is someone who prefers real time to cyber anyway, so I don't think this would really come up.

NBMG



mnottertail -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 9:45:43 AM)

Your bottom female (very real) dutifully informed you about desire of some Top wishing to spend time with her in the virtual session.
 
I simplified the sentence.  Fuck him I aint the red cross here pal, she has cock to suck, and ain't gonna have time to sashay around while you pound your pud.  I give a fuck what some clown wants. 

You asked her "Do you need it?"
She said, "I do not know. I will do as you say"

?????????? Oh, darling is there someone else?  She don't know?



kalikshama -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 10:07:16 AM)

My man does not share.

I'd like some background here. Do you or she know this other Top or is he just some random horny guy on the internet desiring cybersex?



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 10:10:32 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

My man does not share.

I'd like some background here. Do you or she know this other Top or is he just some random horny guy on the internet desiring cybersex?

Yes, exactly. I and my sub would need to know the other Top in real life before I'd allow her to Top him even cyber and, even then, I would not allow cyberSEX.

NBMG



searching4mysir -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 10:12:26 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

[My] Master does not share.
Period.



Same here. Besides, I don't do online.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 11:02:00 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

My man does not share.

I'd like some background here. Do you or she know this other Top or is he just some random horny guy on the internet desiring cybersex?


I'd like to know this too.

My husband wouldn't share. To be honest, I think he'd be annoyed with me if I came to ask him every time someone on the internet wanted to dom me online. Why? Because 99.9% of people wanting to do this would be wanting a quick wank, and he could use my time more productively than having me get other men off.

Perhaps something is lost in translation here, but the exchange of 'do you need it?' 'I don't know' seems a little odd. I can't think of many reasons a person would need to do an online session with another dom (unless he were teaching her some specific skill the first dom wanted, in which case he would be setting it up anyway).



muhly22222 -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 11:11:29 AM)

I'm another "No" vote.

I don't share. And like Athena's husband, I'd be annoyed (at least) if an exchange like that ever happened. My girl would know that I don't share, and the fact that she even bothered to ask would be a big flag that something was up.



DesFIP -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 11:45:04 AM)

Sure he's going to let some stranger take pictures of me and stream them all over the web. Why not? What could be better than being tracked down through my IP address and blackmailed?

You going to be able to pay blackmail for her the next 20 years to prevent these pics being sent to her family, friends and employer? Because if you tell her to do this, then that's your problem to deal with.



Missokyst -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 2:56:29 PM)

I would ask HER why she is even considering it. Then seriously discuss what she feels you are lacking in providing to her, particularly since you ask her if she needs it.



LadyPact -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 3:41:10 PM)

It's a trick question.

Anybody who belonged to Me wouldn't come to ask permission for cyber nonsense. Anybody desiring that kind of crap wouldn't be Mine in the first place.



tsatske -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 3:50:02 PM)

LP, do you really think that's true? I myself do not do cyber or phone - says so right on my profile. But I can't imagine breaking up with someone because they have a sexual interest that does not float my boat. I guess I'm halfway there - there are sexual interests and fetishes that if you have them when we meet, we are probably not going further. But only probably. And about half those things I would willingly do for n established partner, if their interest came about after the relationship was established.

BTW, my answer, as an unowned slave, would still be no. I guess I would certainly cyber with someoneesle if a Master who had owned me for a while and devoloped a relationship with me, told me or requested me to. But if they told me early in the relationship that that would regularly be required, I wouldn't proceed with them. even if it didn't come up till we were established, thre's a serious limit to how many times I'd probably let that go on.



LafayetteLady -> RE: Task2. Look from other corner (4/17/2013 4:13:36 PM)

So basically your partner (I assume the pretty woman in the wedding dress) has been having conversations with men on line that last long enough for them to ask her to do some virtual stuff with her. You, as her dominant, have no problem with her having these types of conversations, and you think she may "need" to do this (or you wouldn't have asked)? Then you want to agree but with conditions.

Here is what I think. I think that your sub should not be entertaining these men on line unless that was your agreement to begin with. I think that your inability to know what to do has a lot to do with why she might be seeking on line sessions from other, and finally, I think that you need to start to figure out for yourself what you want to do with your wife, and not keep asking us and a bunch of people on the other board.

As you can see, most of us here don't do online nonsense, and many of us are also monogamous.




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