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Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 10:17:08 AM

just4umiss

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why is it so hard to find a Mistress to serve that is not primarily interested in "tributes"? if they cannot appreciate the lifestyle in and of itself then i think they are being disingenous. i am trying to find a Mistress to serve intitially online and see where it takes us. any advice would be appreciated.

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 10:30:50 AM

LadyHugs

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Dear just4umiss, Ladies and Gentlemen;

First, to find someone willing to play a role of a mistress is few and far between, as you could do the same on Yahoo and or AOL and or other server chat rooms, especially if you wish to remain on cyberland.

I also caution you, that some of the best gamers, liars and players are good writers, so again on-line role playing is not an absolute in finding a genuine "Mistress."

I do agree, that men are often seen as 'easy money' for tributes, especially if their kink is so extreme or time costly to them. But, I also see young girls who are teens putting themselves forward as "tribute" dominant women. So, as long as men and or women 'pay' tributes to such--we'll continue to have such. When it stops paying, then it will stop.

I highly recommend seeking with your local BDSM support and or education groups, munches and or conventions. Much more positive and productive approach, in my opinion.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 10:40:59 AM

michaelGA2

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good luck weeding through them all on here, this place is infested by them

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 11:01:40 AM

MsSonnetMarwood

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One thing that's important is that if you're not interested in paying tribute/seeing a pro, make sure you are clear on what you bring to the table as a potential sub. Wanting to be played with isn't enough.

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 11:20:58 AM

MistressSassy66

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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

good luck weeding through them all on here, this place is infested by them

LMFAO

Hey do you mow lawns aswell as cook?

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 11:22:49 AM

michaelGA2

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as a matter of fact...yes...and laundry, and cleaning...hey...i even do windows

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 11:33:21 AM

MistressSassy66

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quote:

ORIGINAL: just4umiss

why is it so hard to find a Mistress to serve that is not primarily interested in "tributes"? if they cannot appreciate the lifestyle in and of itself then i think they are being disingenous. i am trying to find a Mistress to serve intitially online and see where it takes us. any advice would be appreciated.

I'm not primarily interested in the money...I am interested in the personality of one wishing to serve.I am not only a Dominatrix but have My bishop( and a part time male slave),she and I have been together 7 years.My Lifestyle is a combination of both sides.

I do not see anything wrong with making a submissive wash a floor and doing dishes as too much to ask. I do believe that submissives should make My life easier.
Whether its housework,yardwork,running errands or cash.
They submissives also reap the benefits of paying...new dungeon equipment,ropes,weights I could go on and on,but I wont.

Perhaps this will give different perspective on Dominatrixes....We are not all out there trying to rob you and make a living off ya.*But thats just My thoughts*

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 11:36:38 AM

MySweetSubmssive

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The flip side of your question is "Why is it so hard to find a submissive who wants to serve my desires as opposed to asking me to fulfill his fantasies?"

Service, for me, is doing tasks that make my life more pleasant, and doing it with a smile on your face. Service might be scrubbing my kitchen floor, fixing things around my house, cleaning the bathroom, running an errand. One cannot do those things online.

The online interaction that you are looking for would likely fall into play. That's different. Play comes after service. And people who only want play (and it's fine if they do) would have more success going to a pro-domme.

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 11:46:43 AM

aellea

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i wonder if i need to get a subbie for a roommate? of course 2 subbies together might not work but having help with the upkeep of a home and another paycheck would be a great thing. doing both is wearing me out... anyone interested in a subbie/subbie relationship?

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 12:00:23 PM

michaelGA2

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wish i had a roommate also...but they are difficult to find

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 12:02:40 PM

FootQueen

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OT*sorry everyone* just wanted to say hello MsSonnet

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 12:09:24 PM

wwhitetigress

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room mates..intriguing
maybe thats the next step after finding a true,"real" friend

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 12:11:39 PM

aellea

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are we hijacking the thread to "subbies 4 roommates"?

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 12:31:26 PM

openmindedslave

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Sometimes the conflict arises over what you both want out of playing or getting together.It is really so true that so many subs and slaves do give out a checklist of what they expect a dom to do to them . And if you think about it , from a doms perspective , you might as well skip the gym visit because of all the effort you have to put out to meet a slaves need...ummm what doesn't sound right about this?

On the other hand, I have known Mistresses who have seeked a labor slave to at least do some of the cleaning and possiable other duties a Mistress needs done. In one sense , a slave is giving tribute in the form of service to their Mistress. A postion that does not call for a beating or excessive preperation, except for the creation of a shopping list of choires to be done when he comes over. The issue sometimes from the slaves view is he is being taken advantage of or being used in a non sexual way by a woman. Well ,duhhh...what were you expecting ? Your there to serve a Mistress, not your own needs . If you don't see the difference , than you just don't get it.

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 12:43:10 PM

AAkasha

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quote:

ORIGINAL: just4umiss

why is it so hard to find a Mistress to serve that is not primarily interested in "tributes"? if they cannot appreciate the lifestyle in and of itself then i think they are being disingenous. i am trying to find a Mistress to serve intitially online and see where it takes us. any advice would be appreciated.

It goes both ways. I have been looking (granted, not HARD, but looking) for more than 1 year for an online/phone + possible real life slave I could mentor, adore, torment, tease and spoil, yet all the subs that contact me want sex, want me to fulfill THEIR fantasies, are cheap, lying and married, lazy, have poor hygeine, no social skills and get pissed off at me if I do not drop everything and email them 2 times a day minimum. I get sick of the drama emails that come 2 days later if I have to run off on a business trip and say, "I'm swamped right now, I will get back to you, just give me a few days" -- These men are clingy, get infatuated, and want everything NOW.

Find ME a nice, young, attractive and charming YOUNG novice that I can take under my wing. He never has to pay a DIME. Guess what -- it isn't easy. Not many subs want to play second fiddle and if they aren't going to get their fantasies fulfilled and in an appropriate time frame, they throw a huge fit.

Akasha

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 1:16:28 PM

Captnlen

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I was married to a sub; I am a sub best combo that every was conceived.

Maybe we played a little switch a little Dom/Domme

If you can find a sub that will play with you and live with you you have the best of both worlds.

Am a widower and would love to find a sub to try again but most don't even consider this viable.

Big loss IMHO

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 1:40:37 PM

LadiesBladewing

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This may sound excessivly pragmatic, but one challenge you may face is the desire to stay online first. Frankly, there is very little that a servant could do for us who wanted to stay in an online relationship (we don't do online relationships unless it is with an already established servant who happens to be traveling or on sabbatical).

Many of the Mistresses who are willing to do online relationships -do- want something that shows dedication. In a way, this makes perfect sense. If a person is not willing (or able) to show up and serve in person, it makes sense to require -some- exhibition of service, and tribute is one of the most visible and accountable forms.

If you are looking for a Mistress who will not require financial tribute, perhaps you should -also- consider looking at forming a face-to-face relationship where there is a measurable benefit to her participation.

ZWD

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ORIGINAL: just4umiss

why is it so hard to find a Mistress to serve that is not primarily interested in "tributes"? if they cannot appreciate the lifestyle in and of itself then i think they are being disingenous. i am trying to find a Mistress to serve intitially online and see where it takes us. any advice would be appreciated.

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 1:46:38 PM

LadiesBladewing

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

It goes both ways. I have been looking (granted, not HARD, but looking) for more than 1 year for an online/phone + possible real life slave I could mentor, adore, torment, tease and spoil, yet all the subs that contact me want sex, want me to fulfill THEIR fantasies, are cheap, lying and married, lazy, have poor hygeine, no social skills and get pissed off at me if I do not drop everything and email them 2 times a day minimum. I get sick of the drama emails that come 2 days later if I have to run off on a business trip and say, "I'm swamped right now, I will get back to you, just give me a few days" -- These men are clingy, get infatuated, and want everything NOW.

These situations always boggle me ... they end up leaving me wondering who, exactly, is supposed to be the Mistress in these situations. Usually, these types of servants don't last long with us. We do everything we can to make sure that our servants are cherished and cared for, and that they are able to be themselves in our presence. We also give our servants (especially those who have been in service for a while with us) an opportunity to provide an opinion on crucial family matters, if there is the luxury of time to do so. In exchange, it is acknowledged that WE are in charge, and that the final decisions about what, where, when, and with whom are in OUR hands.

ZWD

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 2:28:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: just4umiss
why is it so hard to find a Mistress to serve that is not primarily interested in "tributes"? if they cannot appreciate the lifestyle in and of itself then i think they are being disingenous. i am trying to find a Mistress to serve intitially online and see where it takes us. any advice would be appreciated.

This one is easy for me to answer.
I want a relationship that emcompasses all; from stupid jokes, to mediocre/fastastic sex, to serious conversations about us and the world around us with one man with whom I would eventually live within the same general space/home.
The only thrill a man could genuinely give me online is in shopping. So while I do not seek anything from anyone, if a man asked "how can I serve you online", I would tell him exactly how. It's all BS though because what most folks online are doing is hiding from the inconveniences/vulnerabilities life away from the computer promises and instead choosing to have a safe/virtual relationship. Again, to each his own, but I don't fall in love with, nor can I be served by someone typing on the other end. Service for moi, involves in the flesh sweat, blood, and sometimes tears. M

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RE: Mistress' and tributes....... - 6/24/2006 3:10:43 PM

jamesthehumanrug

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greetings ,just for you miss
your user- name sounds like your fingers up ;calling a waitress,anyway: no disrespect intended.
my personal opinion is ,if it's any different ,than a spouse ,or any ,other group ,or person in the life- style ,then :you have a pro. type;or, just ,not your type....

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