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MHOO314 -> When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/24/2006 12:17:21 PM)
Today has been a tough day at the boards so a little light hearted fun--as many of you know My mother passed away last summer, well beyond the normal grief, I inherited her cat ( not an issue) and her finch--huge issue--Jobert--(we thought it was a male)--Jobert is the size of your thumb, timely each month plops out 10 eggs the size of jelly beans and lives in a cage the size of a suitcase---because they have to fly you see---[8\|]-and she is the messiest creature on the planet--she has to have 4 seed cups and two water cups and gravel and and and and...I have to put on latex gloves when I clean her and she sings and swings on the perch---all the while I am fending off the cats who think she is dinner--- at that moment I am Joberts "slave" I am sure--and I feel as far from a Mistress as one can imagine---[:'(] sooooo when do You Ladies feel least like a Mistress?

GoddessElectra -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/24/2006 12:35:20 PM)
LOL well I've had kinda the same experiance. My dog shadow decided to have puppies THEN abandon them (sadly) so I had to do the bottle feeding, the stimulation to make them potty... the WHOLE NINE YARDS!! they are now old enough to eat solids and use the potty on their own... but yes this did make Me feel less then Dominate, but deep down I know better smile oh and fYi shadow is set up to be fixed, she doesn't deserve to be a mommy again, she failed the first time around. ~~GE~~

LadiesBladewing -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/24/2006 2:28:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 sooooo when do You Ladies feel least like a Mistress? When I am at work, putting the 500th repetitive label on informed consent files in the never-ending cabinets of informed consents that need to be re-organized into a coherent system, because in 20 years (yes, we do have to keep them that long!) nobody has bothered to do anything but throw them in the cabinets. Boooooooorrrrrriiiiiinnnng! I feel like a blasted robot. ZWD

LadyMorgynn -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/24/2006 2:31:02 PM)
When I'm cleaning the ferrets' cage and the cat litter box! Also, when I've had friends over for dinner and they all leave, and I'm faced with having to clean up after, very hard to feel domly up to the elbows in dish suds <g> quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 sooooo when do You Ladies feel least like a Mistress?

jamesthehumanrug -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/24/2006 3:04:43 PM)
dear m who(moi?) love you very extremely glad to see you post! i am deeply sorry ,about your mother, and, i hope you find peace, about your emotional-question: , that's how my misstress treated me?!,so.... i guess i really don't know what you're thinking,or saying!

TexasMaam -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/24/2006 4:45:20 PM)
laughing! MH, that is hilarious! I don't feel much like a Mistress when I'm mucking out a horse stall, either! Couldn't you find a finch hobbyist and place little Jobert with them? I know she was your mother's pride and joy, but if she's not *your* pride and joy, find someone who would keep her in a finch colony where she can breed and fulfill her own natural destiny. I once owned an Eclectus parrot named 'Oprah'. She was tremendous fun, but what a mess! I kept her three years, which was two years too many, and I eventually found a breeder with a gorgeous male that she wanted to pair with. Oprah lives happily ever after raising Eclectus babies; the breeder has her in a magnificent aviary set up that I'd never be interested in even trying to emulate, and I don't have the mess or the smell or the moths or other vermin that come with the scattered feed, seed and nasty water dishes. If you're not personally deeply attached to the little bird, remind yourself that your mother would want the bird well cared for the rest of it's life, and that you don't necessarily have to be the caregiver of choice. I always love your posts, TexasMaam

Proprietrix -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/24/2006 7:03:29 PM)
Definitely when I’m sick. When I feel confused, or unsure, or hopeless about a situation. Sometimes I just want to feel coddled and petted and told it’s all ok. But I’m the one doing the coddling and petting and assuring that its all ok. I hide behind the Switch label for just such occasions.

Calandra -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 1:50:16 AM)
(fast reply) Every once in a while I will flashback to abuses I suffered as a child... I actually regress and am alone and scared and very very needy. Thank Goddess My cubby was there very early in our relationship when I did this unexpectedly. Cubs didn't understand what happened, but he held me fiercely (almost as if something external was after me) and cooed and soothed me. It was very frightening to him, but that didn't matter to him. All that he cared about was making me safe. He knows me so well that when the regressions happen (not so often anymore), or when I slip into subspace (when I switch I am very very likely to drop into supspace) he knows EXACTLY what to do and he sees it as a service to me as much as washing dishes or worshipping my body... He's priceless...

MHOO314 -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 6:54:24 AM)
LOL Thanks Texas--but I do like the bird, we bought her for My mom for Mother's Day 8 years ago! We call her the oldest living confederate finch! Besides, I am too fearlful of being haunted by My mom! edited to add: (Thank you for the suggestions though)--but you know that's funny--when I am sweaty, sun burned and hot from grooming our horses, that's when I feel most Dominant! lol Maybe its the crop--

LadyMorgynn -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 7:01:56 AM)
Yeah, that'd pretty much do it for me too ;) quote: ORIGINAL: TexasMaam I don't feel much like a Mistress when I'm mucking out a horse stall, either!

MHOO314 -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 7:10:31 AM)
Proprietrix and Calandra--along with all the marvelous responses so far---these are very important--people tend to think because we are Dominant we do not have fears, we do not have things that creep in to our psyche like others--and we are expected as Dominants to "use our Dominance and deal"--there are indeed times when we are human, and it does not take away anything from our Dominance.

LadyMorgynn -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 7:16:10 AM)
Also, there are the times this really HOT Dom comes to the local dungeon.... my mouth just waters, and I can't help thinking, "Dayyam, if only I were a sub!" I don't feel any less dominant, I suppose, but sometimes I sure wish I felt more submissive! ROFL!!!

LadyHugs -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 7:30:53 AM)
Dear MHOO314, Ladies and Gentlemen; Per the topic, I feel less like a Mistress when; 1. When I am at the bedside of a dying slave, unable to do squat for them other than be there, to love them to the bitter end holding an empty collar full of memories, seeing them slip off into eternal rest. 2. When a slave can't handle my many toy bags filled with gear, so I have to do it myself. 3. When slaves/submissives around me act badly and I am not empowered to dominate them and give them an attitude adjustment and or behavior modification. 4. When I have to deal with a surviving parent who is as negative as negative can get. Sucks the positive life side of me out on a daily basis. This parent has always been negative throughout my life, so it is not a new behavior. As a side note, I did own horses and mucked my own stalls. I found the system of cleaning that had me out in a jiff. I took an Apple Picker stall rake, small tines, and throw the sawdust against the stall's walls, the turds rolled out and collect on the bottom, like old wheat and chaff separation in Old Europe. Move all the sawdust to the edges using this method, lime the wet spots and let them dry while riding and or driving the horse and or while they're grazing. Then move the sawdust off the sides to the center before the horse comes in and you're done in 15 minutes. Five prong pitch fork is great for straw. Removing wet straw and dirty spots, knock the straw against the stall wall, will knock out the road apples and put it to the side, clean and lime the spots and pull the straw back when done. I also find stall mats are nice. I used gravel pit conveyor belts. Most gravel pits will slice them up for you. Now days they make them for stalls but, at a price. So, I enjoyed cleanings stalls. Respectfully submitted, Lady Hugs

feastie -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 7:31:44 AM)
Ok, I'm not dominant, but I do have to wonder... How do normal events have any power over whether one feels dominant or not? I'd think you'd find it more an exercise in strength to allow yourself to be held or cared for when you need it, to tackle that sinkful of dirty dishes with pride, muck out that horse stall because it's yours and you will do a better job than anyone, care for your mother's bird because it belonged to your mother, therefore, a labor of love. As far as I can recall, dominance doesn't negate humaness.

spanker4u4 -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 7:40:41 AM)
I am looking for a site to buy a male f**k machine - can anyone help me? Dan

LadyMorgynn -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 7:47:36 AM)
When there is no one to hold you, and you are feeling bad or down, or are hurting (physically or otherwise)... at that moment yes, it is hard to feel dominant. Does a submissive feel submissive at the moment he is negotiating a two million dollar deal, or firing an erring employee, or hiring a marketing manager? quote: ORIGINAL: feastie Ok, I'm not dominant, but I do have to wonder... How do normal events have any power over whether one feels dominant or not? I'd think you'd find it more an exercise in strength to allow yourself to be held or cared for when you need it, to tackle that sinkful of dirty dishes with pride, muck out that horse stall because it's yours and you will do a better job than anyone, care for your mother's bird because it belonged to your mother, therefore, a labor of love. As far as I can recall, dominance doesn't negate humaness.

MistressLorelei -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 7:48:47 AM)
I am submissive to My college professors... I do what they tell me, when they tell me to, how they tell me to, and damn, if I don't do it as well as I can, knowing there will be consequences if I don't. Aside from that, it's hard to pinpoint... but when situations arise, where there is nothing I can do to control or change the outcome, and I feel powerless. When my daughter is sick, when preparing for a hurricane... things of that nature. I feel like a 'Mistress' when there is someone in my life who views me as such. I feel like a dominant Woman all the time, regardless of my relationship status.

MHOO314 -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 7:50:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: spanker4u4 I am looking for a site to buy a male f**k machine - can anyone help me? Dan First of all DAN, learn where to post things correctly---there is a section called Items sought or for sale---I'd suggest you look there

feastie -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 8:10:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn When there is no one to hold you, and you are feeling bad or down, or are hurting (physically or otherwise)... at that moment yes, it is hard to feel dominant. Does a submissive feel submissive at the moment he is negotiating a two million dollar deal, or firing an erring employee, or hiring a marketing manager? quote: ORIGINAL: feastie Ok, I'm not dominant, but I do have to wonder... How do normal events have any power over whether one feels dominant or not? I'd think you'd find it more an exercise in strength to allow yourself to be held or cared for when you need it, to tackle that sinkful of dirty dishes with pride, muck out that horse stall because it's yours and you will do a better job than anyone, care for your mother's bird because it belonged to your mother, therefore, a labor of love. As far as I can recall, dominance doesn't negate humaness. I've hired, I've fired, but I haven't yet had the pleasure of a two-million dollar deal, although if the quotation my boss and I are working on, it might not be that far away. I'm always the same, regardless. I don't need to show my submissive nature to a vendor or a client or a fellow associate for it to exist. It's always there. There aren't external forces that change who I am. I'm not disrespecting any of you ladies, by any means. I'm just asking a perspective question. Do normal activities have bearing on who you are? They don't on me, so I'm just not understanding why they would on you. There hasn't been anyone to hold me or boost me up when I'm feeling down for a very long time. It doesn't change my nature.

LadyMorgynn -> RE: When Do You Feel Less Like a Mistress? (6/25/2006 8:28:05 AM)
Ah! But the OP was not "who you are" but "do you feel" ...a very critical difference! NO, I am NOT any less dominant at any of these times! Just as a quick example: I FEEL more feminine when I wear a pretty blouse, long, swishy skirts, heeled sandals and Leggs Sheer Energy hose that makes my legs look and feel fantastic. I am NOT less feminine when I wear jeans and a scrubby t-shirt and Birkies, nor does it make me any less female. Okay, so it's not a perfect example, but I hope you get what I'm saying :) quote: ORIGINAL: feastie I'm not disrespecting any of you ladies, by any means. I'm just asking a perspective question. Do normal activities have bearing on who you are?

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