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Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 10:43:17 AM

DalekMaster

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So I've just snagged me a good slave and he's very much into the forced aspect or tpe of activities. Im looking for ideas on making it unpleasant, or a chore when I make him fuck me.

I could bind him completly but I don't want have to do all the work

Not letting him cum not what I'm going for as he's quite small and it won't be long untill he uses a strap on anyways.

I could put a spice or ginger inside the condom, I hear a lot of online subs talking about that sorta thing, along with icy hot.

Well any help in brain storming would be great. Cheers!

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 11:21:01 AM

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Welcome to the discussion side.

Just FYI - I think you might be using 'TPE' differently than most people here do. It's usually used to mean people who have a power dynamic in all areas of the relationship - as in, if the dom says sell your car, quit your job, cut your hair, sever ties with your brother etc, the sub obeys. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with pain, force or sex. Not a problem, but easier to understand each other if we're starting from the same point.

I have no idea what would make it unpleasant to fuck since I don't own the necessary equipment, but I'd be wary of icy hot, I know some of those products are very unsafe on the mucous membranes so look into it. As for ginger or whatever, I'd just be prepared to deal with what you will feel if the condom breaks or slips.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 11:21:32 AM

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I'm not going to comment on making sex unpleasant. Simply because I don't understand why someone would want to do that.

But, I will give you two warnings:

1) You may actually succeed in making sex distasteful for him, a la CBT (NOT BDSM CBT).

2) Do not use Icy Hot or Ben Gay when you're going to be doing things that may cause bleeding (like anal sex). They absorb into the body and become a compound similar to aspirin, which thins the blood.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 11:33:02 AM

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If you have a slave, as which you say, why not work with the mindset, rather than the physical?

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 11:43:29 AM

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In this case I wanted to explore ideas that would be physical.

I knew my use of tpe was going to be poked at, I'm just so tired my vocabulary isn't quite as vibrant. Ill make it powerless or giving up total control. And as to the icy hot thing, I needs put out like a bdsm wide bulletin, I've talked to dozens of people doing that. Appreciate the heads. ( sounds sarcastic but I'm being sincere).

< Message edited by DalekMaster -- 5/2/2013 11:48:47 AM >

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 12:10:42 PM

SeekingTrinity

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~FRing it~

Not knowing what your slave finds unpleasant makes it very difficult to suggest doing X, Y, and Z to them. I think this is one of those "inside the dynamic" type of discussions, rather than soliciting ideas from strangers who know neither you or your slave.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 1:09:06 PM

Kana

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Have him find a Top with imagination.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 1:13:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Have him find a Top with imagination.

Yes, I was going to suggest that Myself. I think that would certainly do the trick.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 1:46:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DalekMaster
In this case I wanted to explore ideas that would be physical.

I knew my use of tpe was going to be poked at, I'm just so tired my vocabulary isn't quite as vibrant. Ill make it powerless or giving up total control. And as to the icy hot thing, I needs put out like a bdsm wide bulletin, I've talked to dozens of people doing that. Appreciate the heads. ( sounds sarcastic but I'm being sincere).

Yes, I think you might be exceptionally tired. I tend to make more typing errors and poor phrasing when I'm tired as well.

Perhaps when you are a bit more rested, you might be in a better position for thinking things through. For all of those physical sensations that you are thinking about to make his experience unpleasant, I suggest to you that you play the tape to the end. For example, start with idea X. Then, at the end use these two phrases:

"And then the condom breaks/tears and idea X has now been inserted anally."

"I feel competent to engage in idea X because I KNOW (not think, not read it on the internet, but honestly KNOW) the potential risks are A, B, and C."

From there, you assess the risks compared to the potential benefit. It's your slave and your tail that's on the line. It's entirely up to you if you engage in hazardous activities or not.

One last word for you to think on. You don't know Me from Adam. I could have been a person that knew zilch about BDSM and just thrown an idea at you that, if it didn't sound terribly outrageous, might actually sound like a "good" idea, even if I secretly didn't know if it was safe. It happens every day. People do carry scars because something sounded like a good idea and they read it on the internet without doing additional research. Please don't be that guy.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 4:02:54 PM

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force him to say "Exterminate Exterminate Exterminate" in a Dalek voice.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 5:51:32 PM

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Dr. Who marathon.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/2/2013 7:11:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: DalekMaster
So I've just snagged me a good slave and he's very much into the forced aspect or tpe of activities. Im looking for ideas on making it unpleasant, or a chore when I make him fuck me.

Hm. Not sure you want it to feel like a chore. Unless you mean the kind of chore that he enjoys because he enjoys pleasing you, not because it brings him direct pleasure.

Anyway, the first thought that came to mind was clothespins on the taint, the base of the buttocks, or the back part of the inner thighs. Or keep them on during foreplay and take them off right when it is time for him to enter you, so he feels the burn at the same time as he feels you tighten on his shaft.

You could also construct a zipper, and yank it off of him when one of you is about to come.

Those are all safe and temporary, but still painful.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/3/2013 1:33:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DalekMaster

So I've just snagged me a good slave and he's very much into the forced aspect or tpe of activities. Im looking for ideas on making it unpleasant, or a chore when I make him fuck me.

I could bind him completly but I don't want have to do all the work

Not letting him cum not what I'm going for as he's quite small and it won't be long untill he uses a strap on anyways.

I could put a spice or ginger inside the condom, I hear a lot of online subs talking about that sorta thing, along with icy hot.

Well any help in brain storming would be great. Cheers!

As much as my subs have enjoyed giving me blow jobs over the years, I've generally preferred to grab their head or ears etc and give them a good throat fucking. Call it "domination" - as opposed to sitting on my lazy arse and passively receiving submission. Some say it amounts to the same thing.... Meh, I enjoy both ways because there's 2 very different mindsets involved - for each of us.

This "ginger inside the condom" - keeps 'em hard, yeah?

You should start over without any "Master" in the next screen name....

Focus.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/8/2013 9:50:57 PM

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I'm still stuck on how did you get a slave off the lot when you don't know how to drive one?

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/10/2013 4:15:02 PM

Focus50

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I'm still stuck on how did you get a slave off the lot when you don't know how to drive one?

Lol, and I completely ignored why serving need be an "unpleasant" experience for the sub/slave.

I'm not at my thoughtful best when my eyes are rolling....

Focus.

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RE: Ideas on making my slave toping unpleasant for him. - 5/11/2013 7:20:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

I'm still stuck on how did you get a slave off the lot when you don't know how to drive one?

Maybe it was one of those California Style Google Slaves

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