RE: How do you relieve stress?

RE: How do you relieve stress? (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid

Message

lovethyself -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 7:36:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder ETA: It seems like you are building up one stress on top of the other. Have you taken a vacation lately? Even if it's just a weekend trip somewhere? Doesn't have to be far away. Doesn't have to be something busy. It can be just renting a cabin and just chilling or a trip to the beach or whatever. I find that when I get too stressed out like you describe, I know it's time for a mini vacation. Sometimes I just need to be hit over the head with the obvious to see it. sigh You're right about needing a mini vacation. I do pick up work outside of my day job, so I don't have a lot of weekends to just relax. Since starting a ldr, I spend my occasional free weekends with Him. While it's enjoyable, it's not mental down time. A weekend at the cottage would be perfect, if I can find the time. MasterCaneman, my friend has taken me shooting a couple of times. I want to get my licence, but again, I have to find the time. I went last Friday and got to try his hand guns this time. Now that the weather is nice, I'm looking forward to trap shooting again.

Muttling -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 8:27:00 AM)
Depends on the stress level and how intense it gets. Miss and I both have the same stress relief when it's pretty intense, we go masochist and get tremendous relief from an intense session of impact play. It's like hitting the reset button and allows us to cope so much better.

MasterCaneman -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 9:17:37 AM)
Ahhh, going out to the woods. I have access to a friend's cabin, and while I don't get many chances to go out there, it's another way I can de-stress. It's about sixty miles from my house, and there's nothing like sitting around a fire for unwinding. Shooting (for me) is an easier way, because I'm a member of a club and can go to the range pretty much whenever I like. But a nice evening in the dark, dark woods is a close second.

absolutchocolat -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 10:17:04 AM)
I masturbate. Read. Go for a run. Get my nails done. If all of that fails, then I eat some chocolate. Then I'm fine! quote: ORIGINAL: lovethyself So, what do you do to unwind? Is there a certain activity that you finds helps when you find yourself overwhelmed with the little things? Do you have a way of finding your balance when things throw you off?

hlen5 -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 10:28:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheHeretic I try to spend at least a little time each day being an asshole on the internet. You must be pretty stress-free!! (j/k)[;)]

needlesandpins -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 10:41:13 AM)
i feel for you op. my life is very stressful right now too. usually it would be loud rock music, fast driving...both together, being with my animals, doing something nice with my son, chocolate, sex, and reading. just now nothing much is working. i hope things settle for you soon so that you feel better. needles

theshytype -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 10:48:27 AM)
If I'm feeling stressed, I find something to do. Anything to keep me busy. Preferably something that can be done with music. Not only do I feel like I accomplished something, my thoughts are usually clearer when I go back to what was stressing me out (if it's something that needs a resolution). If all else fails, I agree with the vacation. Sometimes, that break is really needed.

cordeliasub -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 11:49:31 AM)
Sometimes I had that "flooded with all the stresses" feeling as well. It helps me to just take a look at the core of the situation or problem and figure out what can I control? What can't I control? Is there something in the "can control" side that I can do right now to take some steps toward resolving it? And if not, then I make a note to do it when I can. If it all seems to fall on the "can't control" side, then I take a look and kind of tell myself "yes, the stress is here, but it is out of my hands, and worrying cannot change it." For some reason saying that tangibly helps sometimes. Then I go do something I CAN take control of, like writing or singing or exercising or even cleaning - something that gives me a feeling of accomplishing something positive.

MistressDarkArt -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 12:09:14 PM)
I have the stress thing going now while a family member is in her transition between this world and the next. Restorative yoga, even if it's just one pose for a few minutes, helps immensely. Practice the 2/4 breath to help still your thoughts: count to two breathing in, then slowly count to 4 breathing out. Pause at the end of the out breath and observe the stillness. If I recall OP, you're a musician? Grab your instrument and double down on it 'til every note falls neatly into place. It's a good focusing exercise. If you have animals, show 'em lots of love. If you don't have pets, spend time with someone else's or at a shelter. I can't prove this, but I believe they pick up on distress and recycle it into soothing vibes to humans. At least it FEELS like they do. I listen to audio books while going for a strenuous hike. Following the story keeps my brain from ruminating into a tailspin, and the physical exertion gives all that stress-y energy a place to go. If you are disciplined enough, meditate. Personally, when I'm stressed is the hardest time for me to focus. But even observing that little pause at the end of each out breath is calming. I wish you peace!

ShaharThorne -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 12:11:23 PM)
Spending time with my favorite niece Baby M, reading, doing MMORPG, bargain hunting (AKA going on ebay), crocheting. My caseworker makes sure I don't get too stressed out since I am bipolar I with BPD and PTSD. I just got a Kindle keyboard in March and when I am waiting for the doctors, waiting for my MHMR appts or traveling, I got that sucker on.

Hillwilliam -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 12:22:32 PM)
Me + fly rod + river = stress relief.

OsideGirl -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 12:34:26 PM)
I make soap or make bread or write.

fucktoyprincess -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 12:48:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovethyself These are all great suggestions, and I will definitely be trying some of them. I excercise regularly already, I rarely watch tv (except for maybe 3 shows that I'm following, and the pvr records those for me), and I've recently started doing more artwork again and that's been helping somewhat. The problem I'm finding is that all of these things, while they help calm me down, I'm not actually processing and releasing the stress. As soon as something else comes up that stresses me out (or the same thing comes up again), all of the previous stress seems to come back, which is making it harder for me to deal with the new problems. The newer problems then feel magnified because of the old stresses. Are you facing a very stressful situation in your life (or are you talking about the regular stresses of day-to-day existence that one would typically face as an adult)? I only ask, because if it is a particular situation, perhaps therapy/support group or something like that is necessary. Assuming regular stresses from day-to-day existence that do not require specialized attention, and assuming you are otherwise healthy physically, for ME, what works best is high cardio exercise of at least 45 minutes to an hour (at an intensity level high enough to get an endorphin rush). If you are already doing exercise, you might want to consider meditation or yoga/meditation if you can find a way to incorporate that (doesn't do so well for me, but I know many friends who swear by it). Music, as others have suggested, is also excellent. I read somewhere that you are supposed to listen to music that actually matches your mood (sad if you're sad, angry if you're angry, etc.) I guess it lets our mind work through stuff through the music. Hope you are able to reduce your stress level. Stress is not fun - and in the long run causes a lot of health problems, so it is good you are trying to address this. Be well.

kalikshama -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 1:10:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovethyself quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ However, if you are not drinking and the not drinking is causing stress then is it possible that some kind of recovery program might be of help? The not drinking isn't causing me too much stress. It's more that it has been a crutch in the past, and taking that crutch away is a minor stress for me, just as any habit breaking would be. Same with working towards quitting smoking. I'm sure that these things are adding to my stress level, which in turn is using up some of my patience when dealing with other stresses. But that's why I'm looking for alternative releases. I want to get rid of some of my unhealthy habits and replace them with healthier ones. 14 or 15 years ago, attending a few Rational Recovery or Smart Recovery meetings helped me stop using alcohol addictively. Cardio's my # 1 stress reducer.

lovethyself -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 1:26:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP The stress hormone is cortisol. Recommended ways to reduce it are in here: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-athletes-way/201301/cortisol-why-the-stress-hormone-is-public-enemy-no-1 Thank you DesFIP. That article was great. I never thought about why certain things help more than others. Simulating the fight or flight response will probably help more than just my usual work out. I'm glad I found the time to actually go back and read it.

ResidentSadist -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 1:32:30 PM)
In 1984, I killed my cell, closed my recording studio to the public, sold my interests in several businesses and eliminated stress from my life. I haven't had much stress in my life since then, 29 years ago. I am one of the most "chillin" kinda' guys you ever met. There isn't am emergency on Earth that can put me off my square and make me feel overwhelmed. However, I do relax and unwind often. I find sex is quite relaxing. I like movies, video games, going to the park, picnics, hunting, fishing, scuba, boating and just going for a nice drive in the car. BDSM is a passion for me, more of a relationship tool than a relaxing hobby. However, like all that other stuff that wraps you up in your passion for it, some BDSM scenes can leave you feeling very chilled out.

lovethyself -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 1:37:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess Are you facing a very stressful situation in your life (or are you talking about the regular stresses of day-to-day existence that one would typically face as an adult)? I only ask, because if it is a particular situation, perhaps therapy/support group or something like that is necessary. Assuming regular stresses from day-to-day existence that do not require specialized attention, and assuming you are otherwise healthy physically, for ME, what works best is high cardio exercise of at least 45 minutes to an hour (at an intensity level high enough to get an endorphin rush). If you are already doing exercise, you might want to consider meditation or yoga/meditation if you can find a way to incorporate that (doesn't do so well for me, but I know many friends who swear by it). Music, as others have suggested, is also excellent. I read somewhere that you are supposed to listen to music that actually matches your mood (sad if you're sad, angry if you're angry, etc.) I guess it lets our mind work through stuff through the music. Hope you are able to reduce your stress level. Stress is not fun - and in the long run causes a lot of health problems, so it is good you are trying to address this. Be well. There is nothing major right now. It's more that there are lots of little things, and some bigger things that I can't change at work that are frustrating me. I've also been working through some deeper issues with someone, and that is bringing up some unpleasant emotions to the surface. Ugly, but necessary to heal and move past it. And yeah, too much stress causes all sorts of health issues. I've had ulcers, and don't particularly want them again.

lovethyself -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 1:43:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist BDSM is a passion for me, more of a relationship tool than a relaxing hobby. However, like all that other stuff that wraps you up in your passion for it, some BDSM scenes can leave you feeling very chilled out. Yeah, but how do you tie yourself up and still get the same mind set? He's not always here, but I have talked to Him about what elements do give me that stress release, and hopefully we can make something happen next time we're together.

fucktoyprincess -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 4:31:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovethyself There is nothing major right now. It's more that there are lots of little things, and some bigger things that I can't change at work that are frustrating me. I've also been working through some deeper issues with someone, and that is bringing up some unpleasant emotions to the surface. Ugly, but necessary to heal and move past it. And yeah, too much stress causes all sorts of health issues. I've had ulcers, and don't particularly want them again. Don't underestimate the toll that "working through deeper issues" can take on your psyche. That type of healing is actually a very stressful process as you go through it. So it could be that your increased "sensitivity" to stress is partly due to the fact that you are processing the deeper issues that you cite. I would not be surprised if, once you have truly broken through the deeper issues processing, that things become a little more manageable. I could be reading this wrong, but just sharing my thoughts. Be well.

NuevaVida -> RE: How do you relieve stress? (5/6/2013 5:34:41 PM)
~ Fast Reply ~ As others have said, I exercise, go for walks, or do something creative, or I come here and facebook to unwind and relax. I'm also of the belief that where we choose to place our thoughts plays a huge part in our stress levels. If things aren't going so well in my life, I recognize this, but then shift my focus to visualizing them getting better, and on understanding that whatever is going on tends to all work out for the greater good in the end, so I trust the process of it all. Here's a website/organization that has a pretty cool vision, in my opinion: A Complaint Free World Here's another one, with some great daily messages: http://www.tut.com/

Page: << < prev 1 [2] 3 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.078125