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Hollyucinogen -> Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 7:40:05 AM)

I'm somewhat new to the scene, and I find myself worrying a bit that I'm going to run out of ideas for dominating a sub. What are some of your favorite ways to humiliate a sub over webcam? What sorts of assignments do you give your subs to complete? Note: I don't do this in real life, I only do this online.



theRose4U -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 7:50:23 AM)

I don't do online because its hard to spank, slap or literally tie someone so they can kiss their own ass through a keyboard. Obedience is just an off switch away



LafayetteLady -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 8:04:24 AM)

So be a responsible dominant and search for things. We aren't here to think it up for you. We aren't the people you get to boss around for money, so do it yourself. I'll be kind though and give you a search parameter: humiliation ideas.



MissImmortalPain -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 8:04:49 AM)

Those are trade secrets, I would tell you but I would have to kill you later. All joking aside I rarely do online because I find it very boring and more work than I want to go through for someone I don't actually get to hurt. I really wouldn't worry about it if I were you though. Its not like it is all that hard.....make said person do whatever pops into your head. Its not like it matters what you ask them to do. Tell them to flog themself. Tell them to make ice cream while you watch or to learn to play an instrument...then play it for you. Geez does everyone lack creativity these days.



Killerangel -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 8:12:33 AM)

I like the idea of having them do the basic things suggested already...anything that doesn't have anything to do with sex and see how long they stick around.



Rochsub2009 -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 8:35:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Hollyucinogen
I find myself worrying a bit that I'm going to run out of ideas for dominating a sub. What are some of your favorite ways to humiliate a sub over webcam?


I hope I don't come off sounding snarky when I say this, but you really need to take the time to think of ideas for yourself. That's part of your growth process as a Domme. YOU need to be able to dominate your sub. You can't have others do the work for you.

More importantly, humiliation is a VERY PERSONAL thing. Some males will be humiliated by being forced to wear women's clothes in public. Others will find that to be the greatest reward you could possibly give them. Similarly, some would be humiliated by being spanked like a little child, while others would find that to be an enjoyable and erotic reward.

The bottom line is that you have to learn what makes each sub tick. Everyone is different. So you have to put in the time needed to learn what's going on in your sub's head. Believe it or not, domination isn't physical. The ropes and floggers and chastity devices are merely props. But REAL domination happens in the mind. Once you get in his head, then you can truly dominate your sub.

There are no shortcuts. Being a (good) Domme takes work. Other people's experiences may not apply to your sub. So you have to figure out what will be humiliating to him. Random ideas from strangers usually don't work when it comes to humiliation.

I hope that helps.
-Roch



SeekingTrinity -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 8:37:55 AM)

~FRing it~

What one person finds humiliating is another person's "oh hell yes." So not knowing either you nor your online subs, I cannot even begin to do your job for you. I'm not their dominant. I'm of the opinion that this stuff should come from you. After all, you are their dominant. Well, technically they are their own dominant since this is a strictly online situation.



evesgrden -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 8:48:13 AM)

How much is he paying? And if he's not paying, and you don't know what it is that you would enjoy, why are you doing this?



MistressDarkArt -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 9:42:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: evesgrden

How much is he paying? And if he's not paying, and you don't know what it is that you would enjoy, why are you doing this?


According to the OP's profile, he (or she) is paying. She clearly states she's a findomme.

To the OP: when I pay a doctor, I expect he or she has been to an accredited medical school and has completed a residency. My point is to perhaps get some actual hands-on and mentoring in your local community with people in the flesh before charging money to cut your eye teeth.

Sorry, no ideas for you unless you're willing to share the wealth [8D]



OsideGirl -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 10:16:13 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
I hope I don't come off sounding snarky when I say this, but you really need to take the time to think of ideas for yourself. That's part of your growth process as a Domme. YOU need to be able to dominate your sub. You can't have others do the work for you.


You said it very nicely Roch. I'm not going to be so nice.

OP, you're getting PAID to do a job. A job that apparently you don't know how to do. I would suggest that you put some effort into figuring out how to do your job, rather than expecting others to do it for you.



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:08:54 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
I hope I don't come off sounding snarky when I say this, but you really need to take the time to think of ideas for yourself. That's part of your growth process as a Domme. YOU need to be able to dominate your sub. You can't have others do the work for you.


You said it very nicely Roch. I'm not going to be so nice.

OP, you're getting PAID to do a job. A job that apparently you don't know how to do. I would suggest that you put some effort into figuring out how to do your job, rather than expecting others to do it for you.



Exactly these two things. Also, OP, you realise that people can click the 'view forum posts' button on your profile and see this post? Do you think a potential client is going to be impressed that your domination expertise is just coming onto a forum and asking for tips? If it were me I'd take my money elsewhere. Everyone starts somewhere and it's absolutely fine to have questions, but if you are putting yourself out there as a service people can buy into, it is on you to learn first.

Aside from that issue, my advice would be do what interests you. A dominant being pleased or excited by what I'm doing/what's being done to me makes the whole thing more fun. I'd rather wash the dishes for someone that I know really WANTED me to wash the dishes than do an elaborate kinky scene for someone who wasn't bothered and was just reading from a script. Because that's what submission is. As a second, you could also do what the sub wants, since he's paying. I assure you, those who are willing to pay for domination will be able to tell you exactly what they want.



TNDommeK -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:13:48 AM)

What does kalis say? I could teach you, but I'd have to charge



Hollyucinogen -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:27:49 AM)

I HAVE been searching. I've just spend five days scouring the Internet for ideas, and I've only found one page so far that actually lists ideas. I'm not asking you to do my work for me, I'm asking you what some of your favorite ideas are - Dommes AND subs - because I want to make sure that I'm doing it correctly, and not boring the subs to death because they're used to having someone else's good ideas. Slightly rude and unnecessary response to a completely innocent question, though, thanks. Totally helped, I'm so glad I decided to trust that another Domme would want to give advice to someone who just got into the scene.



LadyPact -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:29:32 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Hollyucinogen

I'm not asking you to do my work for me,

Actually, you kind of are.




Hollyucinogen -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:30:35 AM)

It's no one specific, just in general. I'm worried that, since I'm new, my ideas are going to come across as boring and green, and that a sub isn't going to like it. I don't have a sub yet, though.



LadyPact -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:32:08 AM)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm



zpenguin -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:34:24 AM)

So your a Domme that doesn't know ways to Dom? o_0 and yet your a Findomme? lol Hows that workin out for ya?



Hollyucinogen -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:34:33 AM)

Really? By asking you to relate your own experiences, I'm demanding that you do my job for me? I literally asked what do you like to do, what do you like @ subs, and do you have any advice because I'm new to this and I don't know if I'm doing it properly or if I'm totally barking up the wrong tree here. I guess I just assumed that you would be willing to give me advice since both of the other communities I've been to so far were very obliging in answering my questions about how things work, so I guess I took it for granted that Dommes were willing to share their experiences without being paid for it (at least on here). Then again, I pretty much got told by everyone else not to bother coming here, but my experience with other Dommes has been so positive so far that I guess I just assumed they were like that everywhere.



Hollyucinogen -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:35:51 AM)

I DO know ways to Domme, I just don't know if I'm doing it properly or if my ideas are terrible because they're used to Dommes who have been around a lot longer than I have, and have gained much more confidence in their own abilities than I have.



Hollyucinogen -> RE: Ideas for humiliating/dominating a sub? (5/9/2013 11:36:54 AM)

Oh, thank you! This is perfect!



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