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wannapleez -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/11/2013 5:26:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom Not an activity, no. I ran across a "limit" (for lack of a better word) with one, though, during a discussion and his tendency of getting involved with married women, and how he felt conflicted for doing so, because of his religious beliefs, and not wanting to be an adulterer. I pointed out to him that from the perspective of his religion on his bible, he wasn't an adulterer, he was a fornicator. Regardless of anything I said after the word "fornicator", pointing out the differences per his bible, he was extremely offended, not only didn't want to discuss it anymore, but didn't want to talk to me anymore after that. Yeah, I wouldn't want to talk to someone either if, instead of respecting my limits, they threw them back in my face.

MadamAsianDom -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/11/2013 5:36:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wannapleez quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom Not an activity, no. I ran across a "limit" (for lack of a better word) with one, though, during a discussion and his tendency of getting involved with married women, and how he felt conflicted for doing so, because of his religious beliefs, and not wanting to be an adulterer. I pointed out to him that from the perspective of his religion on his bible, he wasn't an adulterer, he was a fornicator. Regardless of anything I said after the word "fornicator", pointing out the differences per his bible, he was extremely offended, not only didn't want to discuss it anymore, but didn't want to talk to me anymore after that. Yeah, I wouldn't want to talk to someone either if, instead of respecting my limits, they threw them back in my face. [8\|] Re-read. He was expressing to me his feeling of conflict. No where in my post did I say I was trying to get him to do anything he didn't want to do. We were having a discussion about how he viewed himself and his feelings of conflict. We were not discussing limits, and I didn't throw anything anywhere. All I was doing was pointing out that he was in error as to what his religion actually said on the subject. I was attempting to help him feel better, not feel worse.

FrostedFlake -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/11/2013 7:13:49 PM)
quote: All I was doing was pointing out that he was in error as to what his religion actually said on the subject. It's always a mindbender for a bible thumper to realize he doesn't know what he believes.

MadamAsianDom -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/11/2013 7:49:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake quote: All I was doing was pointing out that he was in error as to what his religion actually said on the subject. It's always a mindbender for a bible thumper to realize he doesn't know what he believes. And that was my point. I thought when he realized he was in error, and it wasn't as bad as what he was already believing, that he would feel a bit better. Not fully, it is still a sin according to his faith. But not as bad of one as what he believed himself guilty of.

MstrPBK -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/11/2013 7:57:33 PM)
The slave would not garden! They said they were no limits and yet they would not garden! MstrPBK St. Paul, MN USA

wannapleez -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/11/2013 7:58:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom Re-read. I read it three times before I posted, but at your "request", I read it again. Previous comment stands. quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom No where in my post did I say I was trying to get him to do anything he didn't want to do. Nowhere in my post did I mention flying elephants. What's your point? quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom I was attempting to help him feel better, not feel worse. Well, that obviously went well. Maybe, just maybe, it was slightly inadvisable for someone not of his faith to tell him what his faith was about.

MadamAsianDom -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/11/2013 8:36:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wannapleez quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom Re-read. I read it three times before I posted, but at your "request", I read it again. Previous comment stands. quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom No where in my post did I say I was trying to get him to do anything he didn't want to do. Nowhere in my post did I mention flying elephants. What's your point? quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom I was attempting to help him feel better, not feel worse. Well, that obviously went well. Maybe, just maybe, it was slightly inadvisable for someone not of his faith to tell him what his faith was about. Snark much? I admit I haven't paid much attention to you and your previous responses on this message board. However, if these two, which you posted to me, are indicative of your usual responses, I see I haven't missed out. My point was that instead of making baseless assumptions about what was going on during that discussion, why I was having such a discussion with the individual, etc, or asking for clarification if you might have misunderstood something, you just made assumptions based on what exactly, I'm really not sure. Certainly you seem to have reacted quite strongly to what amounts to a few sentences of text from someone you don't know. As to the rest of your snarky reply and the "inadvisable" nature of my having such a discussion with someone of another faith - I'm not going to take "advise" from a stranger as to what I should or should not do, especially since I didn't reply to this thread seeking advise.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/11/2013 10:42:17 PM)
Well ... Once upon a time ... [:D] I was emailing with a Domme who initiated the contact. Then, as we were arranging to meet, she said she planned to castrate me. Really castrate! [:)] We did NOT meet ... and I have added THAT to my hard limits. [:D] ROFL ... yet that is a true story!

crazyml -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/12/2013 1:43:57 AM)
My first d/s relationship was with a gal for whom unmatched underwear was a hard limit.

wannapleez -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/12/2013 11:54:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom Snark much? I admit I haven't paid much attention to you and your previous responses on this message board. However, if these two, which you posted to me, are indicative of your usual responses, I see I haven't missed out. You are to be applauded then. If you seek not to read snarky comments, then clearly you don't proofread your own before posting. And yet they are error-free. How do you do that? quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom My point was that instead of making baseless assumptions about what was going on during that discussion, why I was having such a discussion with the individual, etc, or asking for clarification if you might have misunderstood something, you just made assumptions based on what exactly, I'm really not sure. Certainly you seem to have reacted quite strongly to what amounts to a few sentences of text from someone you don't know. So when you assumed that I was saying that you were "trying to get him to do anything he didn't want to do", that was fine and dandy. But when I (allegedly) assume something, that's wrong. In the words of the great philosopher, Larry the Cable Guy, "I don't care who you are; that's funny right there!" quote: ORIGINAL: MadamAsianDom As to the rest of your snarky reply and the "inadvisable" nature of my having such a discussion with someone of another faith - I'm not going to take "advise" from a stranger as to what I should or should not do, especially since I didn't reply to this thread seeking advise. I wasn't giving advice. I was making an observation and even worded it in the mere realm of possibility, not definitive truth. That said, why do I keep hearing that adage in my head? Throw a rock at a pack of dogs, and the one that yelps is the one that got hit.

RedMagic1 -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/12/2013 1:30:33 PM)
Dude. You're coming across really poorly right now. Do you really lack the social skill to understand that? You sound pissed at something, and you're relieving some of the pressure online. Hope you feel better tomorrow.

VioletViolence -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/12/2013 1:59:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer VV, I love you. All the others here have ignored my thread. I never knew people here could be so vicious. [:(] Apparently, the bloke was into being "feminised", too. I should imagine that his mistress probably thought getting him to wear nail varnish was at the mildest end of that kink. Awww, aren't you just a sweetie [;)] It was funny, I found that thread later on and was quite baffled by the whole situation.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/12/2013 3:40:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MstrPBK The slave would not garden! They said they were no limits and yet they would not garden! MstrPBK St. Paul, MN USA I've come across that one a lot. Tons of mails of boys who want to serve me, and do everything they can to make my life more comfortable, and who claim to only desire to be of service to women because women are supposedly naturally superior and deserve nothing but to be served by the 'lowly worm that they are". Until you actually attempt to get them to clean a toilet... or the kitchen... or mow the lawn...

njlauren -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/12/2013 4:38:32 PM)
I would suspect that kind of freak out is related to some sort of trauma they have had, my therapist used to say when something that should cause this kind of reaction (holding her hands close together) generated this (her hands way apart), something is at work. The guy with the nail polish probably was freaked out at the idea of being in public, of what he saw as public humiliation, and he probably had some bad incidents in the past, maybe getting caught doing something by his mother or something (most subs into being 'forced' into femme wear are not being forced, they are cd's who need to be told to do it, too afraid to do it on their own), and that is what caused the freak out. Back when I was still doing pro playing, where I got into pretty heavy corporal, play piercing, catheters, you name it, I discovered a major one that hit by surprise, to this day from that day on, I cannot be put in bondage and blindfolded, it triggers massive claustrophobia attacks (which in therapy I traced back to my dear older brother, I owe him big time for that one); same way, I cannot do breath play or sense deprivation kind of things, freak me out, it is a true phobia. I knew a sub, weirdly enough, who was a fellow TG gal who loved anal sex, but could not do strap on play with a woman, because a prior girlfriend and a friend of hers had basically raped her after the gf had her dress up and put her in bondage....but she could have anal sex with a guy, no problem. One thing I would tell any dominant that happened to is that generally there is a reason for the freak out, and the sub may not have realized it would happen, and it usually indicates there is something deeper there ( I suspect experienced dominants know this, probably have experienced it) and to make allowances. That doesn't mean that the sub has the right to be abusive or in the freak out be bad towards the dominant, but if something like this happens and the sub hadn't mentioned it, it probably was because he/she wasn't even aware it was a problem.

theRose4U -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/12/2013 10:03:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crazyml My first d/s relationship was with a gal for whom unmatched underwear was a hard limit. Umm matched to what?? Last time I checked boxer or brief only had to match the waist??

UllrsIshtar -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/12/2013 11:24:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: theRose4U quote: ORIGINAL: crazyml My first d/s relationship was with a gal for whom unmatched underwear was a hard limit. Umm matched to what?? Last time I checked boxer or brief only had to match the waist?? Unmatched to the bra.

FrostedFlake -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/13/2013 1:02:52 AM)
I been waiting for someone to mention the thread from guy with the chips up his bum. I'd have thought anyone would draw the line before that.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/13/2013 3:43:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VioletViolence No, I haven't but that must have been some freak out over not wanting to wear nail polish for the guy to get dumped. In my world if someone has an issue with something I want then I expect them to tell me why, calmly and unless it's something absolutely necessary to our relationship, if they have a good reason I doubt I'd push it. This explains my position in general. I do not take out, and out refusal well. Such position would require a lot of discussion, to make it acceptable to me. My thought is that, unless this person was going to go to work, out in public, afraid to be seen in nail polish professionally, I don't understand the aversion to nail polish... Particularly if this person wanted feminization to begin with. I cannot imagine having anyone completely overreact to something as simple as a pedicure (unless they were so ticklish, that it hurt), that he would be willing to toss our relationship because of it. shrug M

LittleGirlHeart -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/15/2013 9:56:20 PM)
Being punished unfairly would make me loose faith in the person. Or them deciding to just not talk to me for days because they were not happy with something I did.

DrkOne -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/15/2013 10:05:23 PM)
The most surprising limit is oral. A close second is anal. I think either of those should never be limits. Unless there's some medical reason to have either as a limit. " i don't like it" isn't a reason for it to be a limit

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