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MsEloquence -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 8:40:11 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DrkOne

" i don't like it" isn't a reason for it to be a limit



I disagree.

"I don't like it" is a perfectly good reason to limit an activity if that's how your relationship works.
For example, dominants limit activities they don't like. So do play partners. So do lots of people.

Perhaps you mean that you don't accept "I don't like it" as a reason for refusal.




Killerangel -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 9:54:54 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkOne

The most surprising limit is oral. A close second is anal. I think either of those should never be limits. Unless there's some medical reason to have either as a limit. " i don't like it" isn't a reason for it to be a limit


People are allowed to have preferences. It's a selection tool as to how you find a match for a relationship. Obviously someone who would match you would not limit oral or anal. For someone else those things might definitely be off limits. There isn't a grading key here to match all people to. I happen to think "I don't like it" is a very valid reason for a limit, I'd have to find someone else who agreed with me.




DaddySatyr -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 10:58:44 AM)

I have three acceptible answers from ladies who submit to me:

A) "Yes, Daddy"
B) "Can we talk about this please?"
C) "I can't be with you, anymore"

The words "No", "I won't" or "Hard Limit" don't work with me.

You know what? I don't want to work 70 hours a week to support our lifestyle but I do it.

No, answer "B" is an interesting one. If she says (as an example): "I don't want to do anal because I was anally raped when ...", the discussion is over and she's off the hook. "I don't like it" or "I don't want to" won't be sufficient.

I have a rule; if a lady lives within 2 hours of my house unless we're really getting "serious", there's no over-night. You go home, when we're finished. So, to get to the topic of the post, I don't know if this is a "limit" per se but I found it pretty weird.

It was very late and this young lady didn't want to drive home and yada, yada, yada ... so, I said: "Okay, you can stay tonight."

Her: "Oh, but I don't have my toothbrush"

Me: "Use mine"

Her: "Ewwwww that's gross"

Me: "Wait a minute. You kiss me (with tongue). I eat your pussy. You suck my cock and swallow. You lick my asshole. That's all good but a toothbrush is a hard limit? Seriously?"

I was perplexed, to say the very least.



Peace and comfort,



Michael




LittleGirlHeart -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 11:29:47 AM)

Sure it is. Our bodies are ours to do or not do with. Until we pick someone to tell us what to do , who we are compatible with.
quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkOne

The most surprising limit is oral. A close second is anal. I think either of those should never be limits. Unless there's some medical reason to have either as a limit. " i don't like it" isn't a reason for it to be a limit





LittleGirlHeart -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 11:37:09 AM)

I was at the dinner table with my bf at the time, his dad and brother, and Joseph couldn't finish his meal and asked me if I wanted it, and his dad said we don't eat off each other's plate. That's gross and it spreads germs.


I looked him dead in the eye and I said "Jeff we are dating,if I'm ok kissing him, and everything else I'm ok eating off his plate."

This coming from the guy who expected 5 ppl to share one bath towel, I think that's a bit more uh ewww than sharing food.


quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

I have three acceptible answers from ladies who submit to me:

A) "Yes, Daddy"
B) "Can we talk about this please?"
C) "I can't be with you, anymore"

The words "No", "I won't" or "Hard Limit" don't work with me.

You know what? I don't want to work 70 hours a week to support our lifestyle but I do it.

No, answer "B" is an interesting one. If she says (as an example): "I don't want to do anal because I was anally raped when ...", the discussion is over and she's off the hook. "I don't like it" or "I don't want to" won't be sufficient.

I have a rule; if a lady lives within 2 hours of my house unless we're really getting "serious", there's no over-night. You go home, when we're finished. So, to get to the topic of the post, I don't know if this is a "limit" per se but I found it pretty weird.

It was very late and this young lady didn't want to drive home and yada, yada, yada ... so, I said: "Okay, you can stay tonight."

Her: "Oh, but I don't have my toothbrush"

Me: "Use mine"

Her: "Ewwwww that's gross"

Me: "Wait a minute. You kiss me (with tongue). I eat your pussy. You suck my cock and swallow. You lick my asshole. That's all good but a toothbrush is a hard limit? Seriously?"

I was perplexed, to say the very least.



Peace and comfort,



Michael






CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 1:03:12 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart

This coming from the guy who expected 5 ppl to share one bath towel, I think that's a bit more uh ewww than sharing food.



Oh ewwwwh! Someone could catch trichamonis (spelling?) that way. And crabs. Maybe jock itch, yeast infections, genital warts. [:'(]

In other people's homes, I won't even share hand towels after washing my hands, because in these WV hills there are too many people who merely rinse...getting their hands briefly wet and then drying them off on a towel, leaving a gray stain within a day or two. I'll dry mine off on my shorts/pants/skirt or shirt/blouse. (Yes, I also turn off public faucets with paper towel, and open the public bathroom door with the paper towel or the bottom of my shirt.)

If someone's coughing in an elevator, I'll wait till the next one, lol. My slave has been surprised over some of my limits but has learned to follow my lead to lessen the possible awkwardness of the moment.

I know I've outed myself as a freaky germaphobe but...

1) My mother worked in a pharmacy for years and I had to go inside and wait to pick her up. All the sick people in that small town went there and I was always ill with something. Especially when some evil rat bastard coughed all over me. So was my baby/infant/toddler because asshats used to touch his face, put their fingers in his hands while saying how cute he was, then coughing or whatever and saying that they had the flu/bronchitis/strep/whatever.

2) When my son was in public school, we averaged picking up two germs per month. Sometimes I would be ill with three things at the same time. (Bronchitis, a bladder infection, and ear infection all at the same time, etc.)

3) I've had lymphoma four times. Taking precautions reduced illnesses. I liked not getting sick and kept up my protocols. Once, a nurse at my oncologist's office tried to sit me right next to a man who had some very NASTY cold and I flatly refused and said I would have mine in the hallway or in another room...when she tried to insist I sit exactly there, telling me that exposure to germs was good for me, I told her my insurance was paying for a cancer treatment, NOT for me to be infected with another illness that would require more doctor visits. (I had my chemo in another room, lol, and years later, they have signs up telling people that if they are ill please put on a germ mask.)

I'm a chronic hand sanitizer user. People tell me that I will harm my body because it needs germs. Duh, there are germs everywhere no matter what I do, it's not like I am living in a sterile environment, and I'm sure I ingest lots of weak and dead germs that help give me immunity. These past ten years I rarely get sick, maybe once or twice per year. I wash or sanitize my hands before eating...and after any times I've touched the handles of serving spoons at the Chinese food buffet.

Since restaurant tables aren't bleached anymore (some are wiped off with damp rags that only have water and have been used to wipe down a toilet first, and around here, cleaning a table usually just means removing the dry debris, leaving behind water rings, catsup stains, grease, and the tables might be...buttered with kids' snot), so I put down a napkin as a barrier before putting on top of it my silverware and the napkin I'm going to use on my face. If the silverware touches the bare table, I won't use it. Same goes for the napkin. My slave has had a bumpy ride learning what I like and dislike, lol.




Hillwilliam -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 1:08:25 PM)

The most surprising hard limit I've come across was a young lady who identified as a slave.
She wanted a 24/7 monogamous situation.

One of her hard limits was...................housework.

Seriously folks. Think about it. You identify as 'slave'. You want 24/7 and monogamy.

Just WHO the fuck is going to have to do the housework?[8|]




UllrsIshtar -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 2:01:31 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

Just WHO the fuck is going to have to do the housework?[8|]


Isn't it obvious? [:D]

You, under close supervision.




LittleGirlHeart -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 2:07:30 PM)

I have expecting me to do ALL the housework as a hard limit. We are a team, as such chores will be shared.




freedomdwarf1 -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 2:58:53 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LittleGirlHeart

I have expecting me to do ALL the housework as a hard limit. We are a team, as such chores will be shared.

I would agree with that, *IF* you spent just as much time as your partner does working for someone else to bring in the cash.

All too often I see this argument.
Then you find out the guy is at work all day/evening/night earning a crust and the little wifey-woo is at home sitting on her butt all day and expects the man to share the household chores.
That ain't gonna be happening in MY house!! [:D]




LittleGirlHeart -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 3:07:47 PM)

Freedomwarf, good thing my house isn't yours, hehe.

We are lucky though, in all seriousness not to have a ton to do. Laundry and dishes and general up keep, I fold he puts it away. I get trash ready go go out he hauls it out. He does things I can't because my health. If he was not a slob who undid all my work, I just might do 90/99 percent of it all.




ChatteParfaitt -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 3:17:21 PM)

Yeah that one always cracks me up. Even if the 'slave' works and the two can afford really good weekly household help, there are plenty of day to day household chores. The dishes, the trash, the cat box. Someone has to do those things much more often than once a week.

I suppose I can seeing sharing household chores, but as a limit, no way.




NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 4:18:31 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia
I also turn off public faucets with paper towel, and open the public bathroom door with the paper towel or the bottom of my shirt.


OMG, I do too! I remember when I was in nursing school, a fellow student left the bathroom stall and didn't wash her hands. I totally freaked out at that and confronted her. It was gross and eeewww and just [:'(]!! You never know what kind of grossness is left on doorknobs and faucet handles!

NBMG




freedomdwarf1 -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 4:34:20 PM)

FR~

I'm a real lazy bum - and the first to admit it.
Both of us are partially disabled in different ways.
She does pretty much most of the housework, though tbh there isn't really a lot to do.
I do all the technical stuff and keep my 12 PC's running and safe so she can do her bit on the 'net without worry.
I do push her quite a bit coz I know as soon as she gives up she'll be in a wheelchair - something we try to avoid.
She can't drive, so I do all the driving.
She is a complete scatter-brain and couldn't organize a piss-up in a brewery, so I usually end up doing all the organising.
If things need doing, we do share quite a bit of the load between us.
We even share the cooking. And even she will admit I'm a better cook than she is.

As far as I'm aware, other than things which she has extreme difficulty doing because of her disability, she has no hard limits.
If she suddenly sprung a limit on me without some good reason, she knows she'll be out the door.... pronto!




LittleGirlHeart -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 5:46:41 PM)

I'm the better cook, I just don't care to cook lol.




littlewonder -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/16/2013 6:20:45 PM)

quote:

The dishes, the trash, the cat box.

The mouse (No shock here-Whuddathunkit? A mouse that don't wanna clean up after the feline antagonists) says the litter box should be a hard limit.

Kana thinks she should clean it with her hands cuffed behind her back :-)




Dreamless -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/17/2013 1:42:59 AM)

The subby girl I'm flirting around with has vaginal sex as a limit because of painful cysts, I believe it was. Only anal or oral! So there's definitely a valid reason but I still found it unusual, I certainly hadn't run into that one before.




Charles6682 -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/17/2013 2:16:49 AM)

I'll admit,I'm not too fond of whips.They sting.I'd almost rather get punched in the face,lol.Seriously though,when I get whipped,I do start to tear up,it stings that bad.I'm not one to cry either.But,I am willing to do it for my Mistress if it makes her happy and it does.I can tolerate the pain,I just don't get all excited about it.




CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/17/2013 11:59:15 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl

OMG, I do too! I remember when I was in nursing school, a fellow student left the bathroom stall and didn't wash her hands. I totally freaked out at that and confronted her. It was gross and eeewww and just [:'(]!! You never know what kind of grossness is left on doorknobs and faucet handles!

NBMG


My cousin in Ohio (like a lot of my other cousins) works in nursing homes. She was taking classes to become an RN but had to drop out when her mom got ovarian cancer and needed her. Anyway, with MRSA and all that, she won't walk into her house with the same shoes, clothes, etc., but enters first into a "mud room" off her kitchen that holds a washer and dryer and shower, removes her shoes and tosses her work clothes in a work clothes laundry thingy, and gets into the shower. With a nice fluffy bathrobe on, she enters the house and goes to her room to get dressed. (And for those of you who think she is being too extreme... She's just become a new grandma. Her grandson will be crawling all over her carpets and floors as soon as he is old enough.)

My slave has a surprising hard limit. We ran into it, quite unexpectedly, when I was rewriting over a friend's past trauma by dripping hot wax (110 degrees F) over her breasts. It was completely non-sexual for me and I didn't touch her other than to move her hair out of the way once. In spite of bo telling me in advance that he was okay with it, and telling me he was okay several times during the scene, he fell apart. Aftercare on him took several months, and if that's how strongly he reacts to my scening with others then I just don't want to go there. (Several past wives were caught, en flagrante, either in person or on camera, cheating on him. Like it or not, logical or not, he processes my scening with others as very sexual...and emotionally gets flashbacks of when some guy out of the blue walked up to him and showed him a pic of his wife doing three guys at the same time.)

Anyway, with all the assurances that he was okay with everything (I don't like to break my toys), it shocked me that we found a new hard limit for him. If he had known it would bother him so much, he would have told me.




sexyred1 -> RE: What's the most surprising limit you've come across? (5/17/2013 12:16:16 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

The most surprising hard limit I've come across was a young lady who identified as a slave.
She wanted a 24/7 monogamous situation.

One of her hard limits was...................housework.

Seriously folks. Think about it. You identify as 'slave'. You want 24/7 and monogamy.

Just WHO the fuck is going to have to do the housework?[8|]


A housekeeper or cleaning woman.




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