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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/10/2013 5:43:20 PM

LafayetteLady

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ORIGINAL: mayiserveplease

LafayetteLady - well I must say you are very perceptive, she is 23 :) But, I mostly contact Dommes late 30's and 40's, but being a male sub, one has to cast the net wide and far so to speak. Maybe the age is the problem, but she has known my age from day one. And I do of course look for locals and realtime first, but it seems any genuine Domme here is "taken", or should that be took!

I just checked my profile, and you are right, I say nothing about my vanilla side! I was sure I did, so will address that, thanks.

Kar - thank you so much! Well, I did come here seeking advice so would be foolish to ignore it:)

Well there ya go. Of course cast your net as wide as you want, but most of the authentic lifestyle dommes are not going to be jacking you around on cam. At 23, with you not close to being local, you are "safe" for her to jack around on line, and as long as you keep coming back when she wants you and not be annoying when she doesn't, it's all good for her.

A woman your own age wants someone who can be nearby so she can warm her cold feet on you at night, and that doesn't work on cam.

That's just the opinion of one of the women the same age as you, lol.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/10/2013 8:26:09 PM

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You're her cyber booty call.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/11/2013 10:31:04 AM

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Mayiserveplease,
I gave you the best advice you could receive in this situation, and you never actually responded to my recommendation.

So give me an update. Have you gone to a munch? Are you attempting to meet people who are local to you?

In many ways, fooling around with a 23 year old on-line Domme is merely a fantasy. Why not turn the fantasy into a reality? I'll bet there is local a munch happening soon. Go to it, and then promise me you won't send any more emails to this on-line pretender. Once you're deep into a D/s relationship with a local Domme, you'll thank me for pushing you to focus on the local scene.

Good luck to you.
-Roch

< Message edited by Rochsub2009 -- 5/11/2013 10:32:17 AM >

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/12/2013 3:32:01 AM

mayiserveplease

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Roch/LafayetteLady , sorry, was in work when I made the thread and may have missed your post.

Well you are right, of course I'd prefer real time and was at a munch once, found less than friendly, lots of cliques. And on here and FL all the genuine Dommes seem to have found their subs, as I said before. I did explain I have been looking for locals and at an age nearer to mine.

As for an update, I wrote here an email with my thoughts, she has not got back yet, but I do know she is away this weekend so will see what response I get back may tomorrow, if any.

Thanks again, all!

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/12/2013 5:14:25 PM

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I personally don't see any point to pursuing somebody who lives in another country or in having an "online mistress". But, to each his own.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/12/2013 7:10:20 PM

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Yes I was naked and doing things, and yes she was on cam too.I hope you are not thinking I should be worried about that ??????

I would be, there is this funny button you ignored called record. If you aren't hot, doing things that are porn worthy or fetish focused she's probably working on local subs or those of higher net entertaoinment value

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/12/2013 7:23:09 PM

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You sure she is even a woman? She probably has no interest in you and keeps you for some reason such as 1)in case no one better pops up, 2) compassion, 3)who knows? If you haven't sparked interest in her, you won't do that by repetitive begging messages. My advice - quit on her. I've been in such situations, you are only inflicting pain upon yourself, the kind of pain no one enjoys, the pain of unrequited interest.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/12/2013 8:35:54 PM

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Here's a question - how do you know she's female? There's plenty of men out there who can stuff a bra, wear a wig, and pass. There's also plenty of male-to-female trans folk who pass very well but are still creeps because they use people just like any other gender.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/13/2013 1:20:04 PM

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Just to update you all, I got 2 detailed emails from her in response to mine. Turns out she has been busy with her final paper in college (I knew about this but thought it was finished last week, but she had to do more work on it, and yes the paper is real I have seen it in several stages over the last month), she said she was not sure I wanted to discuss vanilla things, and, maybe I should have mentioned this, but english is not her first language. Plus she explained she is actually a pretty shy person, which I did not figure on given that she is a very confident Domme. She asked to be coached to be more interactive.

Also, it turns out that she has actually spent quite a lot of time doing something related to planning things (I will not be specific but have seen it, and it was 100% unique to me) which was a surprise to say the least. So, while this is not to say how things may work out, it seems I have been a little quick to judge and drawn incorrect conclusions.

Thanks again for all your help.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/13/2013 7:16:56 PM

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Take this site and everybody on it like a grain of salt. When all else fails....toss the whole damn salt shaker over your should while walking out the door. (just saying)

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/15/2013 10:27:56 PM

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RED FLAGS!

You are being used. If that is what you want, then more power to you.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/16/2013 12:58:42 AM

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<insert common sense here>

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/16/2013 8:18:36 AM

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So you give up on munches after just one, but are willing to return to your online mistress again and again.

That shouts a lack of interest in a flesh relationship.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/16/2013 11:48:37 AM

mayiserveplease

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Hello,

Not sure if you seen my last post, but things have improved greatly this week. I hear what you say though.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/16/2013 12:45:23 PM

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I read your last post. It indicates that you're happy to believe anything your long distance cyber dominant says, because believing her allows you to ignore real life.

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RE: New online Mistress not talking to me - 5/16/2013 8:39:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mayiserveplease

LafayetteLady:

Thanks, it does seem that way to me too, and wise words:)

I would be happy with online if there was a better personal connection but unfortunately i think you are all right in that I'm wasting my time here.

Sounds like you're just looking for some online fun. If you're not getting that your encounters, yes, you're wasting your time.

And personally, I wouldn't do or say anything on a webcam that I wouldn't be comfortable having put on YouTube.

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