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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 4:08:25 PM   
MsEloquence


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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady


If you have no intention of changing your profile, exactly why is this important?



Except for my 'satiable curtiousity it's not important at all.

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Whether you are looking or not, the "perfect" profile length is how ever long it takes for you to convey what you want people to know.


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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 4:09:41 PM   
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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 4:14:24 PM   
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Original; LadyPact

When it comes down to it, a profile is mostly how people see themselves and that may not be as accurate as some would like to believe.



Agreed. Self knowledge ain't universal

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 4:15:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I have had "Just here for the forums" for years. I would still get a few emails a day. I added a picture of Master to my profile and it has dropped to one or two a week,



That's funny!

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 4:18:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Recently I put my profile back up on the other side.

It says:
Despite the brevity of my profile, I am not new to BDSM and do not need help exploring my submissive side. I know stuff.

It points out both my "snooty side" and the fact that I am not new to BDSM.

I wanted to say, I know stuff that would make your hair curl but that seemed like it might draw in some masochists. lol




It should attract the self assured. Gotta add that that last is a funny thought.

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 4:23:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's great that your profile only brings in good people. Maybe it's the clarity.

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 4:27:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

By target, I was referring to the target length you had mentioned. The three to five paragraphs. Not necessarily a target audience.

Currently, My profile is three paragraphs. I have some stuff in there that is almost necessity. I teach topping skills at various venues and do some mentoring and private instruction. Since some people automatically equate that with pro domme, which I am not, I have that in there, too. I'm also active in the local community. (Well, the closest one that we've got.) That makes Me a good contact person for those who want to find events.





Thanks for clarifying and expanding.

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 4:28:55 PM   
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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 4:48:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's an entirely different world for us men, Ms E. Women don't write to me at all unless they're a) scammers or b) real women who want to get to know me. The a)s are usually pathetically easy to spot. The b)s, though, will always - even if only in just a few words - make a connection that makes me feel friendly towards them and want to write back. There isn't any comparison.

Despite what many people say, I still think it's easier being a male here at CM. (And this comes from a man who 'took over' a woman-friend's profile for a few weeks, once. I found the experience hideous, if I'm honest.) That's been my experience, anyway.

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 5:22:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

You mean like the guy who is regularly emailing offering $500 bucks to burn him with cigarettes?

OMG, you heard from him too!? lol lol I just got a letter from him - again - just a few days ago.

NBMG

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 5:39:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: LafayetteLady

You mean like the guy who is regularly emailing offering $500 bucks to burn him with cigarettes?

OMG, you heard from him too!? lol lol I just got a letter from him - again - just a few days ago.

NBMG


Mine was last week. So I guess it takes him a while to work his way across the nation and I should expect it to be my turn again in the next week or so.

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 5:45:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I kept mine to 3 very brief paragraphs because I know my reaction when I come upon a long wordy profile. I skip over it to the next one.

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 6:51:30 PM   
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three or four brief paragraphs


Yup, short and sweet is best.

Who you are, something personal to give a sense of your demeanor... ply us with your charm.

What you offer, your relationship relative skills if seeking and/or your kink interests.

Who you seek, the type of traits you find compatible and desirable.

What you would like them to offer, the relationship style and what you want from the exchange.

. . . that pretty much acts as a good initial filter. Not that everyone will read it no matter how short and concise it is.

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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 8:18:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Mine says three words..."platonic communication only". I never get email.

I'm only here for the forums for when I can't sleep or I'm bored.

Seems to work for me.

Yeah I get the occasional "you seem like a wonderful slave and we seem to have so much in common".

I just laugh and delete. What that means is it's a canned email. They have sent it out to every girl possible online.


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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 8:25:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		See now I laugh at those as well, but I mark as spam and delete. I figure if enough of us do that, they will get that penalty where they can't mail for a while.


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RE: Blank slate - 5/10/2013 9:57:51 PM   
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If you are going to go with the "This is what Dominance/submission means to me" style then keep it SHORT; I've read it all before.

Don't put a long list of demands for what you want because that just reads like a job application.

Use the likes/dislikes area for lists of actual kinks.

I limit the length to how long I can try to keep someone interested. I tried to keep it funny and lighthearted without being silly. It's also different.

Remember: brevity is the soul of wit; my profile is LONG.

ETA: Smileys are not a good idea in a profile. If you don't think you wrote the text in a way that shows it's laughing or shy or wry or whatever REWRITE THAT SENTENCE!

"I like whips! LOL"

Really, why does that make you laugh out loud? Do you think I'm going to tickle you with one? Do you think that people who like whips are laughable and deserve derision? Or are you commenting on your own punctuation because an exclamation mark doesn't belong there?

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RE: Blank slate - 5/13/2013 1:27:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hi Misseloquence,

From a submissives' point of view, & I guess it can cross the divide. Too little is not enough, but on the other hand you don't want to drown the reader with information overload. Two or three things that a browser might be interested in, fill the gaps through messaging & chat, Don't put everything in the front window, leaving nothing at the back of the shop to discover. I suppose, being in the minority, The Dominant Lady gets flooded out with requests, good, bad, & downright inane, but to find the right person, or people, three paragraphs, tops, of succinct info, should attract the right candidates. Once you've trawled through the driftwood . Good luck. Gary.

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RE: Blank slate - 5/13/2013 3:48:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MsEloquence

My profile text states that I am here for the discussion boards. Aside from that, my profile is empty.
Even so, I've gotten at least half a dozen emails asserting that the profile shows I'm the perfect mistress.

I find this very funny.

So here's the question: how do you determine for your own profile the most expressive amount of text?

Edited to add: I am not asking how to avoid the unsolicited email that every new(ish) female profile gets. I am asking what people would consider the most expressive amount of text.

If I were looking, I would probably have three or four brief paragraphs.


People tell me mine is too long.

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