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Estring -> RE: Doms Domming Doms...or something like that (6/26/2006 4:12:48 PM)
Doms Domming Doms? Sounds like an old Doo Wop song.

slavejali -> RE: Doms Domming Doms...or something like that (6/26/2006 4:24:05 PM)
He sounded insecure to me.

Lidh2l -> RE: Doms Domming Doms...or something like that (6/26/2006 4:34:23 PM)
edited away...sorry for the mispost

gooddogbenji -> RE: Doms Domming Doms...or something like that (6/26/2006 4:35:17 PM)
"I'm waving my dick in the wind, I'm waving my dick in the wind, If it all goes right, I'll be in your arms tonight, but I'm waving my dick in the wind" - Ween, I'm waving my dick in the wind

VandalHeart -> RE: Doms Domming Doms...or something like that (6/26/2006 4:40:38 PM)
Dear E/everyone, I really appreciate your responses, everyone. Now that I have been vindicated, I guess I 'll tell you what happened. I did tell the guy once or twice that he was stepping out of line, but he changed the topic of the conversation around so that I was more comfortable with it. I was appeased a little, but I still had my concerns. I told my play partner about it later and she said little in response to my concerns, but seemed to be in deep thought over it. I let it go, because I knew that she would not proceed with anything until she had worked out her own issues with it all. The next day she told me that in addition to the fact that he was now suggesting something she had already vetoed, the counter-domination attempt was something that she didn't appreciate and would not be playing with him at this time. Still cool for conversations, but no play. And I don't hold a grudge against the guy, I just don't feel comfortable letting her play with him whether I'm there or not. It just sets off my paranioa too much. Please don't get me wrong, the guy is a blast to talk to, I just don't respect him enough to let him see either of us naked, if you know what I mean. I still talk to him on occasion, as does she. And to his credit, at the first sign of hesitation on her part, he conceded control. I just wish he'd had the same respect for me, although respect for her was my primary concern, so we're all good. I've heard a lot of things about him since, but I still like the guy. I don't know how many times I've typed this line out on these boards, but I'm going to do it again, because it illustrates my point: "Hey, I don't trust him either, but he is my friend." --Han Solo, Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back And he is my friend. I probably wouldn't feel this apprehensive if I'd known him longer or had met him in person before these negotiations started, but that was not possible under the circumstances at the time. Should the situation change in the future and he prove to me that this is not a persisting issue, we may someday play with him. I just wanted to put this question out there to see if I'd done the right thing, or had I made an ass of myself for being paranoid. I would like to thank everyone again for the words of support, but don't be too hard on this guy, because despite my discomfort, he still behaved honorably. Sincerely, Lord Vandal Heart P.S. - Just so everyone knows, I will not be disclosing his identity, so please do not ask.

gooddogbenji -> RE: Doms Domming Doms...or something like that (6/26/2006 5:02:52 PM)
T'was I, the Dom in puppy pants. Yours, benji

Focus50 -> RE: Doms Domming Doms...or something like that (6/27/2006 4:52:55 AM)
Yikes, little wonder I prefer monogamous relationships...! lol Maybe it's just an age difference and at the risk of being judgemental, this also reminds me why I prefer a partner who knows what (or who) she wants. But a few observations nonetheless.... No need to answer but I can't help wondering what the anecdote about the bathroom sex with a different dom altogether has to do with either your topic or questions....? When it comes to insults, particularly from a relative stranger, I'll generally let the first one "go through to the 'keeper" unchallenged (to borrow a cricketing analogy) for the sake of civility on my part but that's where the line is drawn. "....constantly insulting me..." is never an acceptable option! I'd have pulled him up on the second insult and ended my participation if it continued; hopefully without it getting violent but no promises.... Yeah, insults are just words but they come from disrespect and I won't have that! *Hmmm, and you say she* orchestrated all of the set up - at least, she arranged to put the two of you together? I wonder if she knew that it might develop into a "dick-measuring" contest"....? As to your specific question, I've met several doms at munches and parties etc who wanted to "put the stare" on me at first sight.... My response has varied from simply breaking out in a huge grin to thrusting my hand rapidly at him (to break his focus) for a handshake etc - also with a "smile on my dial".... Basically, my reasons are the same as "feastie's" excellent post but will add that when it also "acts like an arsehole".... My last "judgement" will be to say that maybe you should consider a partner who wants to be with you; it makes things soooo much less complicated.... Focus.**

VandalHeart -> RE: Doms Domming Doms...or something like that (6/27/2006 12:34:14 PM)
The point of my first anecdote was to show a contrast in situation and to show what my usual reaction is to others playing with her. That and I was showing off. Hey, at least I'm honest. As for her possible manipulation of the situation, I guess I misrepresented a bit. She was setting the whole thing up, but I did ask to be involved. She had no problem with it, so I was. Maybe not the best course of action, but that's what happened. Basically, no, she was not "setting me up." She hates those particular power struggles.

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