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Charles6682 -> RE: How can one become a better submissive? (5/25/2013 5:52:24 PM)
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This is the new official guide to being a better submissive. Courtesy of LadyPact
1. First and foremost, be a good human being. Don't lie, don't cheat, don't steal, don't be an unproductive member of society, don't be untrustworthy..... No, I probably don't have to tell you that but consider for a moment how many people list some of those very reasons for why their last dynamic ended.
2. Learn how to have healthy relationships. This goes for everything from being dedicated to healthy communication to avoiding things like emotional blackmail and manipulative tactics. Start looking at the other relationships that you have in your life. Friends, family, co-workers, etc. Take a deep look and examine how healthy they are and if they aren't, do you have a role to play in that? Work on any areas that might need improvement.
3. Don't be A submissive. Be HER submissive. Fit your submission to her personally. If she likes leather toys and outfits, learn about leather care. If she likes baseball, be willing to talk to her about it or learn about the sport. Ask her how she would best appreciate your submission/service and do those things. Here's the other side of this. Don't serve her ( ) by taking away the things that she likes to do. If she likes to do her own gardening, don't decide you're "helping" her by doing it for her. Then, you are taking joy out of her life, rather than bringing joy into it.
4. Remember that her world is not entirely about you. Your submission should be a positive thing in her life, but not the only thing. She has friends, family, hobbies, personal time that she just wants quiet, etc. This is the difference between submission and smothering.
5. Keep the reverse as well. Have hobbies, interests, and friends of your own. This makes you a more well rounded human being and therefore, a greater benefit to her. Have you ever noticed how many threads we have where women say they don't want to have to carry the whole conversation? This is a part of that. Be interesting! Have things to contribute when you are talking.
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